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bio website cabbey.smugmug.com
location Rochester, MN
age 39
visits member for 3 years, 4 months
seen Jul 22 at 20:50

Husband and father of one (and only one if I have any say about it) darling little boy (born late summer 2007)


Aug
25
comment What techniques can keep a reluctant pre-schooler on a morning schedule?
+1 for the carrot. Our son had his first taste of having to be ready for the bus this summer. With an 8am pickup time he had to be out of bed way earlier than he was used to. The idea of being able to sit on the stoop and blow bubbles while waiting for the bus made a huge difference in his mood.
Aug
5
comment How do we teach our toddler that it's okay to go on the potty?
+1 for the modeling, that was a great success for us. (though I'm not sure I'd go with the "sitting on dad's lap" idea myself.) We did it by bringing in his kid sized potty to the bathroom, and whenever we took him in to go (every couple hours, if he said he had to or not) then we'd sit on the big potty and he'd sit on the little potty.
Aug
2
comment How should I deal with my toddler's difficult behavior towards food?
@repecmps because they're two very different answers.
Jul
18
comment Do you use number of weeks or day of the month to determine an infant's birthday?
Possibly because you were off by a day: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/February_24 and more importantly: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Julian_calendar Mind you, back then they added an entire 13th month, that day just came and went periodically.
Jul
18
comment Why does my child eat so slowly?
I would vote this up, except for that last line. :(
Jul
18
comment What size schoolbag is good for a first-grader?
Added benefit of a rolling backpack (trolley as you call 'em over there) is that once a kid is used to that they know how to handle a rolling suitcase in an airport. Our pre-K little one is so used to dealing with his at pre-school that he almost dealt with a much larger bag the whole way the last time we flew to grandma's. Kept him occupied and one less bag for me to fight with. Win-Win.
Jul
18
comment Do you use number of weeks or day of the month to determine an infant's birthday?
+1 date-nerdery for knowing the 25th is the leap day.
Jul
18
comment Do you use number of weeks or day of the month to determine an infant's birthday?
did you mean " Once the child is 8 weeks old, switch to counting months." ?
Jun
3
comment Are there any allergic-friendly alternatives for peanut butter & jelly?
Ah, I missed the age range, I suppose it makes more sense then.
Jun
1
comment Are there any allergic-friendly alternatives for peanut butter & jelly?
Wow, are they really telling you not to send peanuts because one other kid in the class has nut allergies? I'm kinda shocked.
Jun
1
comment We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?
There's one item on Technique that is missing here. Both partners need to orgasm, and he needs to be first. The muscle contractions of the woman's orgasm have been shown (literally, with fiber optic cameras inside the vagina) to help get more semen into the fallopian tubes to be exposed to the egg by way of more of it being picked up by the cervix and brought into the uterus.
Jun
1
comment When should a toddler get out of the oral fascination?
Very good thought, and one we considered as well but I forgot to mention. I'll update.
May
31
comment When should a toddler get out of the oral fascination?
Good thought, I'll ask his speech teacher (he already has one). And yeah, the gum idea is horrifying. We've tried a couple of alternatives he was allowed to chew on... they weren't preferable apparently.
May
24
comment What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?
I've been working on this very issue with my son lately... the problem doesn't seem to be knowing how to spit the toothpaste out when he's done, so much as not swallowing it constantly during the process so that there is something left to spit out.
May
24
comment Is starting a small fire a good way to the explain dangers of flammability?
+1 the BEST "don't play with matches" education I ever got in school was when we went on a field trip, ostensibly to a nearby zoo to see the baby owls, but it just happened the bus route went through a state forest that had been gutted by fire just a couple weeks prior. The bus driver slowed down so everyone could get a good look/smell, and one of the teachers gave a fire-and-brimstones lecture from the aisle. At the zoo, after seeing the owls, we also "got" to see the deer and bears that had been hurt by the fire.
May
21
comment How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?
uh, yeah... you'll note I used the word "reward" right in the answer....
May
20
comment How do I make sure I don't mix up identical twin newborns?
While that is true, it takes a while to learn to tell the differences. Until then, the dab of nail polish is a great idea.
May
16
comment How should a stepfather respond to “You are not my Father!”?
Ignoring the above concerns, stooping to the boy's level is a poor choice, as the adults in the conversation we really should do better than that.
May
14
comment How do I teach my child to speak in sentences?
@Jon If the sentence is too complex for them to actually parse and understand, then they're just parroting it... which is great for learning sounds, but doesn't help them form their own sentences. We've always tried to stay a bit ahead of what our son is capable of, give him stretch goals. (At the direction of his speech teacher.) And of course we don't always do it... probably only a few times a day when we're consciously working with him on it... so he still hears lots of normal speech.
May
14
comment How to calm a toddler before bedtime?
We used that process successfully here, though the important part is to start with a short time before you go back, say 2 minutes, then each time you go back that night it's a minute longer. I don't think we ever got past 10 minutes unless there was a serious problem. These days our son is better about going to sleep, so I start at 10 minutes before I go back in the first time... rarely have to go back a second time.