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I am a parent of two boys who are 5 years apart, they get along well and play as well as kids can with that age gap. They are half-Chinese and are growing up learning English and Chinese, reading, writing and speaking for both languages. What I want to get out of this site are more ideas on raising my boys, giving them more opportunities for learning and growth as well as more ideas on how to educate them and get them to try new things.


Nov
25
comment How to go about regaining the trust of my child?
Thinking about this the only problem I see with this is that if the mother is actively trying to remove the father then mail may be intercepted as well as emails. Depends on how active the mother is in this, so it could just end up with another situation where the daughter needs to choose whom to believe.
Nov
22
comment What is the right age to put the toddler to (pre-)school?
School's in my country (US) have defined ages where schools accept students, either for pre-school or limits for nursery school. Are these not guiodelines for you?
Nov
21
comment How to go about regaining the trust of my child?
It depends, my parents divorce was anything but civil and my brother was sort of in my Dad's sphere of influence and my brother and mother NEVER had a good relationship. Keeping the communication lines open is the best way, but it all depends on how your ex-wife wants you out of the picture. Court is not always an attractive option, but in some ways showing you are fighting to have more time with your daughter is one way to show you care. It all depends on how you spin it.
Nov
21
comment How do I stop yawning so much when I'm reading bedtime stories to my kids?
This would be my suggestion, I have the same thing happen with me when I read to my eldest. I think this is the issue since with my younger I read to him from the rocking chair and my eldest likes me lying in bed next to him.
Nov
21
comment How to go about regaining the trust of my child?
As an aside, it may be that legal recourse is going to be necessary at some point, otherwise you will be dealing with a limited access window that in the long term may not help you.
Nov
21
comment How to go about regaining the trust of my child?
Try to do things she REALLY enjoys then, you need to bring her to a place that she is comfortable and will open up. If your time is limited then try to make it a place you can talk and she will be open to what you say. Sometimes words can help and tell her you can in any way and in as many ways as you can. Basically you have to reestablish a relationship that is actively being destroyed, and when my parents divorce got bitter sometimes all I wanted was a few kind words or an attempt from the other.
Nov
15
comment Are deli cut meats bad for infants?
As long as the meats you give have little preservatives and salt then it shouldn't be doing "bad". Like most things as long as you have a balanced diet and are careful in what the meal contains then you should be ok.
Nov
10
comment How do you convince your son to poop in the toilet?
Yes but sadly this is a battle I won't win...so I just do it when my wife is not home or sneak in when she is not looking. Generally that works unless my oldest is in a mood then he tattles on me...
Nov
9
comment How do you convince your son to poop in the toilet?
I with you, I fear this sometimes...
Nov
9
comment How do you convince your son to poop in the toilet?
This would not work in my house, my wife is very anti-reading in the bathroom. I am not sure if it's an Asian or Taiwan or family thing but she yells at me if I bring something to read in there. Even pointing out in the bookstore the numerous bathroom readers hasn't worked.
Nov
7
comment How do I get an easily distracted 5 year old to eat more?
Hungry kids eat more and eat their meal, at least in my experience, you can give better and more rounded nutrition in a meal than in a snack.
Nov
2
comment How do I get an easily distracted 5 year old to eat more?
Yes, no more meal and snack or not depends on time and activity. Generally he gets nothing more until the next meal, although we do give him drinks (like Yogurt Smoothies or Sidekicks) so he doesn't miss nutrition. The goal is to get him to recognize what mealtime is and is not.
Nov
2
comment How can we improve a trilingual toddler's basic language development?
My own experience says no, all the multilingual kids I have seen speak later than single language kids I know.
Nov
1
comment How Should I React to an Indecisive Toddler?
Very true, I have yet to see a decisive toddler, I worry more about behavior overall rather than moods and choices I know he will grow out of.
Oct
27
comment What's the best way to extract baby snot?
My youngest didn't mind it at first, since he knew it made him feel better and was quiet when we used it. Now he is in a cranky phase and anything you get near to use it you can't hold him still.
Oct
26
comment How do I teach my child to express his frustration?
True, but I've seen that happen regardless. Sometimes just for fun in playing on the sofa
Oct
26
comment How do I teach my child to express his frustration?
+1, Agreed. When kids are younger and do this they really can't get significant force to do harm, my 1.5 year old still does it on occasion but can't really hurt himself yet.
Oct
14
comment How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?
Well if you love your child I would think you'd support them, although I understand people's personal belief's don't always support this choice.
Oct
11
comment How can we make parents more attractive than TV, video games, etc.?
I think your ideas list really covers it, sure parents can be attractive to kids but they have to want to be. Unless they make the effort there is no natural gravitation.
Oct
7
comment What toys tend to be a child's favorite, and why?
Very true, every new toy gets played with a lot for the first few days then it slacks off. Good points!