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Its not about me, it is probably about you. I often give answers that invoke unpleasant feelings. Where do they come from, those feelings? Do I put them inside your body/brain? No of course not, they reside from within you. Because it conflicts with your view on how things should be or are. But would they feel unpleasant if you wrote them in language you couldn't understand? What is invoked by what I write is invoked by the consciousness that interprets it. Do I care if someone calls me an asshole when walking on the street? As long has he forms no threat, I couldn't care less but hoping for him to grow up. You see? It aren't the words that cause the effect, its how you deal with it. And if that causes unpleasant feelings, than that is an indicator of "something must change". You feel unpleasant when an elephant steps on your foot, something must change. You (may) feel unpleasant when people say something to you that you interpret as "Do you say I am doing something wrong here?". If so, than something must change. Not me, but you. If you would say to me "You love your child too much, that ain't right", so you imply that I am doing something wrong, I wouldn't not feel unpleasant. I understand that you need to understand the concept of love as there is no thing as 'loving too much'. You see? this about me isn't about me, it is about you, and your progress of growing up. I don't care about upvotes or downvotes. I only care whether it contributes something to 'awakening' you.

I care about leaving you contents that you have to chew one, that nags your ego, making it face your fears, until you conquer your fears, dissolving your ego and becoming love as a result.


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I added more. And if you still aren't convinced there is gain in my answer, I leave it like this. Wishing you sincere good luck with whatever approach/path you take. I respect you have to do it yourself and it is your choice.
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Relative worries about sneezes, now you are worried about your children sneezing their. Are you going to make your children worry about it also by talking about the OCD? Then you are all caught in Relative's drama. Try to break free from it. That is what relative wants but is becoming more difficult if you are trapped in the drama aswell.
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@GGB667 I think you have a point. Lots of commentary misses out on it, because your answer contains some fury. I don't mind that. What I do mind is commentary like "There are a lot of forms of mental illness which aren't dangerous to others". I can image Relative is going crazy when a boy of 3 years old drools on the table that was just cleaned by Relative doing hard work. What GGB667 is pointing out (+1) is that you should not keep your childeren ignorant, but knowledgeable. Make them capable of making their own decisions based on facts.
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comment Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?
Great answer. Concise and no debate. That is certainly key! Very well phrased about agreeing on that we disagree :)
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comment Extremely fussy and refusing to sleep 12 week old
It is good to have some books (or any other source for that matter) that give you insight in those spurts. When you understand what is going on, it assures you that all is well. This gives you better perspective and ease of mind which results in (slightly) better care of your child as well, as the agitation/worries on your side lessen. At least, that is how I experience things.
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comment Should I tell my 11-year-old daughter that Santa isn't real?
Wow, you spent that much money on Christmas presents alone?
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comment How can self-consciousness be taught?
What is it exactly that you are afraid of? People get hurt from time to time while growing up to be adults (and then still, but who is parenting them then ;) ). As long as he is learning from it, I would say all is ok. I would not put consciousness in the title of the question, but rather self-reflection.