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Its not about me, it is probably about you. I often give answers that invoke unpleasant feelings. Where do they come from, those feelings? Do I put them inside your body/brain? No of course not, they reside from within you. Because it conflicts with your view on how things should be or are. But would they feel unpleasant if you wrote them in language you couldn't understand? What is invoked by what I write is invoked by the consciousness that interprets it. Do I care if someone calls me an asshole when walking on the street? As long has he forms no threat, I couldn't care less but hoping for him to grow up. You see? It aren't the words that cause the effect, its how you deal with it. And if that causes unpleasant feelings, than that is an indicator of "something must change". You feel unpleasant when an elephant steps on your foot, something must change. You (may) feel unpleasant when people say something to you that you interpret as "Do you say I am doing something wrong here?". If so, than something must change. Not me, but you. If you would say to me "You love your child too much, that ain't right", so you imply that I am doing something wrong, I wouldn't not feel unpleasant. I understand that you need to understand the concept of love as there is no thing as 'loving too much'. You see? this about me isn't about me, it is about you, and your progress of growing up. I don't care about upvotes or downvotes. I only care whether it contributes something to 'awakening' you.

I care about leaving you contents that you have to chew one, that nags your ego, making it face your fears, until you conquer your fears, dissolving your ego and becoming love as a result.


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awarded  Yearling
Feb
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comment Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?
Great answer. Concise and no debate. That is certainly key! Very well phrased about agreeing on that we disagree :)
Jan
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comment Extremely fussy and refusing to sleep 12 week old
It is good to have some books (or any other source for that matter) that give you insight in those spurts. When you understand what is going on, it assures you that all is well. This gives you better perspective and ease of mind which results in (slightly) better care of your child as well, as the agitation/worries on your side lessen. At least, that is how I experience things.
Dec
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comment Should I tell my 11-year-old daughter that Santa isn't real?
Wow, you spent that much money on Christmas presents alone?
Dec
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comment How can self-consciousness be taught?
What is it exactly that you are afraid of? People get hurt from time to time while growing up to be adults (and then still, but who is parenting them then ;) ). As long as he is learning from it, I would say all is ok. I would not put consciousness in the title of the question, but rather self-reflection.
Dec
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answered Please help my 3 years old doesn't tell me when he needs to use the bathroom
Dec
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comment What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?
@balancedmama Yes that is true, a great comment you made here. It is a nuanced topic about "what you can do for someone to help them", as sometimes it is interpreted as "how can I do it for them, to help them".
Dec
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awarded  Custodian
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answered What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?
Dec
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answered How can I alleviate my 34 month old little girl's fear of poo?
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comment My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help
@beofett I give the reader a choice: 1. Stop reading or 2 continue at your own risk of being confronted with unpleasent feelings. Is it ok, to put it like this?
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comment My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help
It sounds like you have a child with low "social" intelligence Maybe physically hurting your child isn't the best example for developing social skills.. So that might be true.
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answered My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help
Sep
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answered How to deal with a toddler who wakes up screaming during the night?
Sep
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comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@ylluminate One can only grow up to the extend of ones own will.That is the nature of consciousness,and that is the way it should be.You are an individual.If someone else could grow you up,you are no longer an individual,but you would be part of that someone else.Now do you want to grow up more?Then welcome all information.Do not think you are grown up,simply because you have reached a certain age or have children.You can always improve yourself and that is growing up.Now be honest,do you want to understand my point (and be able to judge the info given yourself),or do you prefer to ignore it?
Sep
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comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@ylluminate"So ultimately my motivation always boils down to love".So your love is partially constructed from fear and regret?As those are still present within you,and partially motivate your action. That doesn't seem ultimate love to me. You are fooling yourself, not willing to see (and overcome) that hard to track down fear. It seems more easy to solve it externally (teaching your children logic),then it to solve it internally:growing your self up spiritually.The same pattern arises with the cause of a problem: Its easier to blame someone else,than to track down the problem within yourself.