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Father of a wild but brilliant 4 year old boy, with twins on the way in August.


Mar
14
comment Can Constant Alarm Testing in Building Pose Emotiona/Psychological Concerns for our Infant?
+1 -- May not be a very conventional citation, but it rings true. Not to say we won't see a lawsuit on this sometime in the future, "just because." But the fact that it hasn't happened yet makes it likely that there is no evidence of the alarms being detrimental.
Feb
24
comment Nightowl at 5 years old. Any way of dealing with it?
@Gangnus Those are like stuffed animals - comfort items for sleeping. I'll try and update my answer some today to account for the comments here.
Feb
23
comment Nightowl at 5 years old. Any way of dealing with it?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun I thought about adding that condition - I understand not everyone has the room to spare. Maybe some storage solution so they can be put away a bit? Everyone with limited space would have to try and adapt that bullet point as best they can.
Feb
14
comment What are questions to ask when interviewing a midwife?
+1 If we hadn't personally known our midwife, that form would have been very handy.
Feb
14
comment What are questions to ask when interviewing a midwife?
Congrats on the pregnancy and good luck with the homebirth. Be prepared for friends and family who may not understand and approve -- they're just scared, our society programs it into them. Educate, educate, educate - yourself and everyone who will listen, and you'll likely have a few converts when it's all said and done.
Jan
10
comment How can we avoid tantrums over sweets and cakes?
That's the way to do it. You can cut out routine treats and help cut down on or eliminate the tantrums over them without being crazy militant about it. Just don't have them at home, don't make a big deal about them either way and let them enjoy the occasional treats while you're out, special occasions, etc.
Oct
27
comment What's the best way to extract baby snot?
We use the Nosefrida for our twins and it's much better than the bulb-style sucker we used for the first child. Can't say they enjoy it any better, but it is much more effective and easy to clean.
Jul
20
comment What size schoolbag is good for a first-grader?
Torben's answer is perfectly good, but I had to upvote this one for the blunt simplicity -- There are many things that we, as parents, worry about. Don't need to add trivial items to the list. Get a pack the kid likes and you don't mind buying -- keeping in mind no matter how durable or well fitted it is, he'll want a new one next year! :)
Jul
18
comment Why does my baby have bubbles around the mouth?
+1 for "Slugs are cleaner." Very true! Doesn't matter what bodily fluid issues you may have had pre-parenting, you'll get over them fast once you have a newborn!
Jul
5
comment Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?
+1 for having a dead-on answer. I'm in the un-offended camp when it comes to profanity, but I'm still watching it around my 4 year old. Until he can understand the difference between the language he uses at home and what he uses in the company of others, I need to avoid him learning any profanities.
Jun
27
comment Why does a pacifier trigger my baby's gag reflex?
@HedgeMage +1 for that - I wish we'd toughed it out a bit more in the beginning with baby #1, because in the end it was a tough habit to get him to kick. With #s 2 & 3 on the way, we're doing all we can to avoid pacifiers altogether. If your child doesn't seem to enjoy a pacifier, perfect - skip them.
Jun
24
comment What is a good baby laundry detergent that is not tested on animals?
+1 for make your own. We followed that very recipe that you linked, and it works wonderfully. Clothes come out as clean as always, and the washer is actually cleaner - the homemade doesn't seem to gunk it up as much.
Jun
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
your answer is well cited and thorough, but I have to disagree with the final conclusion. Its an irreversible change to someone's body - who are we to force it upon our children for such incredibly minor benefit? Also, and this falls in the realm of opinion, but I can't imagine doing such a thing to an infant who can't grasp what is happening. At a later age it may not be comfortable, but the child/adult can make an informed decision based on benefits and deal with the discomfort like any other elective surgical procedure.
May
23
comment Is starting a small fire a good way to the explain dangers of flammability?
Upvoting this in particular for the more sensible fire attitude. The problem in the proposed scenario isn't the fire, just the fact that it doesn't address teaching the kids to avoid the hazardous materials. Fire safety is a separate and important lesson - teach control, not fear.
May
15
comment Should we circumcise our son?
Unfortunately it won't let me remove the downvote because of age. If you felt like giving it a quick edit, I'll be able to.
May
14
comment Should we circumcise our son?
Are you speaking from personal experience? I'm firmly rooted in the "informed consent" camp, so I don't believe circumcision should even be an option for minors. However, if you have first hand experience that it wasn't that painful, I'll drop my downvote. I assumed you were just making a blanket statement, similar to the advocates who claim that the infants don't feel any pain during un-medicated circumcision.
May
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
-1 for "at 3 or 4 it doesn't hurt." While I'm sure they'll use some anesthetic to minimize pain during the actual procedure, I can't imagine any surgical removal of flesh falling in the "doesn't hurt" category. At the very least, its going to be uncomfortable and sensitive while healing.
May
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
I don't have anything constructive to add beyond the answers below, but I felt I should add another bit of anecdotal evidence that being "different" as an uncircumcised male wasn't an issue. I was dealing with the school locker rooms in a suburban area as a child, and starting to date in a much more rural and conservative area - it hardly came up, and when it did it was mostly just a mild curiosity. I'm a definite vote in the don't do it category.
Apr
9
comment When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?
One of my scenarios does handle stereotypical abduction tactics. And "only real factor" is part of a sentence that goes on to ask the parent to judge whether the child can handle themselves - including in situations like the examples. Making the point more explicit like you suggest amounts to fear mongering, which I don't partake in.
Apr
5
comment How do you cope in the first few months?
+1 by the time I finished item #2, and I'd give more for the rest if I could.