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Father of a wild but brilliant 4 year old boy, with twins on the way in August.


Jun
24
comment What is a good baby laundry detergent that is not tested on animals?
+1 for make your own. We followed that very recipe that you linked, and it works wonderfully. Clothes come out as clean as always, and the washer is actually cleaner - the homemade doesn't seem to gunk it up as much.
Jun
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
your answer is well cited and thorough, but I have to disagree with the final conclusion. Its an irreversible change to someone's body - who are we to force it upon our children for such incredibly minor benefit? Also, and this falls in the realm of opinion, but I can't imagine doing such a thing to an infant who can't grasp what is happening. At a later age it may not be comfortable, but the child/adult can make an informed decision based on benefits and deal with the discomfort like any other elective surgical procedure.
May
23
comment Is starting a small fire a good way to the explain dangers of flammability?
Upvoting this in particular for the more sensible fire attitude. The problem in the proposed scenario isn't the fire, just the fact that it doesn't address teaching the kids to avoid the hazardous materials. Fire safety is a separate and important lesson - teach control, not fear.
May
15
comment Should we circumcise our son?
Unfortunately it won't let me remove the downvote because of age. If you felt like giving it a quick edit, I'll be able to.
May
14
comment Should we circumcise our son?
Are you speaking from personal experience? I'm firmly rooted in the "informed consent" camp, so I don't believe circumcision should even be an option for minors. However, if you have first hand experience that it wasn't that painful, I'll drop my downvote. I assumed you were just making a blanket statement, similar to the advocates who claim that the infants don't feel any pain during un-medicated circumcision.
May
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
-1 for "at 3 or 4 it doesn't hurt." While I'm sure they'll use some anesthetic to minimize pain during the actual procedure, I can't imagine any surgical removal of flesh falling in the "doesn't hurt" category. At the very least, its going to be uncomfortable and sensitive while healing.
May
13
comment Should we circumcise our son?
I don't have anything constructive to add beyond the answers below, but I felt I should add another bit of anecdotal evidence that being "different" as an uncircumcised male wasn't an issue. I was dealing with the school locker rooms in a suburban area as a child, and starting to date in a much more rural and conservative area - it hardly came up, and when it did it was mostly just a mild curiosity. I'm a definite vote in the don't do it category.
Apr
20
awarded  Enlightened
Apr
20
awarded  Nice Answer
Apr
10
awarded  Critic
Apr
9
comment When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?
One of my scenarios does handle stereotypical abduction tactics. And "only real factor" is part of a sentence that goes on to ask the parent to judge whether the child can handle themselves - including in situations like the examples. Making the point more explicit like you suggest amounts to fear mongering, which I don't partake in.
Apr
5
awarded  Beta
Apr
5
comment How do you cope in the first few months?
+1 by the time I finished item #2, and I'd give more for the rest if I could.
Apr
4
comment Are netbooks appropriate for school age children?
Assuming US, typically 10-11 years old.
Mar
31
answered How can I stop my toddler from playing with electrical outlets and plugs?
Mar
31
comment When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?
Upvote for making a point of the odds. I can't speak for the whole world, but most places are far safer now than they were 20 years ago, and I bet most of us enjoyed a lot more independence in those days than many kids get these days.
Mar
31
comment What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?
Bingo. Dessert for my kid is the same as dessert for me - a special occasion item. And in those special occasions, you can afford to be more lax - as long as they make a reasonable attempt to eat some food, they get a bit of birthday cake - for instance. You let them get enjoyment out of treats while encouraging generally healthier eating.
Mar
31
comment When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?
Good list. I especially like the role reversal idea from the public transit question.
Mar
31
answered When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?
Mar
31
revised Is my 7-year-old child sleeping too much?
Made the age more clear in the subject.