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May
23
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
Related: Will getting your feet wet make you sick? on skeptics indicates that acute chilling of the feet may lead to cold-like symptoms.
May
22
comment Is it a good approach to have a policy of apologizing for yelling at a kid?
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May
22
comment How do you correct slang or other improper grammar in a pre-schooler?
@JeremyMiller Doh! I do pronounce it with 2 l's, though!
May
21
comment How do you correct slang or other improper grammar in a pre-schooler?
@DanBeale that's a valid point, but my son is developmentally well past needing linguistic shortcuts like that. At this point, he is very ready to learn proper pronounciation, and I think it is important to start that as early as possible. It is easier to teach the right methods at the outset than correct idiosyncricies after they've been in use for a couple of years.
May
21
comment How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?
@Kevin I've added two age tags, to focus on ages 5-11.
May
20
comment How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?
Maybe I'm a bit jaded, but I assume any question about one's kid is implicitly primarily about "how do I best mitigate the negatives/maximize the positive side for my child"
May
20
comment How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?
Fair enough. I'm curious if others in the community agree. I see the question as really being "how do you mitigate the negatives for your kid", with the questions you're referring to as more examples to highlight specific aspects for consideration, but maybe I didn't present it very well.
May
19
comment At what age is it OK in USA to hold a birthday party at home instead of a party venue?
@DVK in my (admittedly limited, for the age ranges you specify) experience, I'm not sure just how pervasive that cultural expectation is in the USA. It is almost certainly specific to certain economic brackets, and likely varies significantly by region. However, anecdotally, I know of at least one upper-middle-class suburban parent (just outside a large city) that has exclusively thrown home parties throughout preschool and primary school ages for his son. Granted, they are lavishly planned theme parties, but 100% of the decorations and activities are homemade.
May
16
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
Let's all just calm down, and remember that comments are not for discussion, and also that we need to keep it friendly here.
May
12
comment How can I tell if my son is big enough for a car booster seat?
@DanBeale yes, I believe that is exactly what I'm looking for.
May
1
comment How can I stop my 5 year's violent tantrums?
After reflecting on this for a bit, I've edited the question to remove the unnecessarily rude language. I'm also purging the comments, as some of them have also been flagged as rude. I will once again say: basic courtesy is a requirement in the community. If you feel that making "distasteful" answers to deliberately make people "upset or self-conscious" is the way that you want to communicate your opinions, then we may not be the right community for you. If, however, you can make your points without such tactics, and maintain basic civility, your posts will be welcome.
May
1
comment Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners
We have one that lowers on its own, slowly, but you still have to pull it slightly forward to start it closing. Are there other varieties that close without assistance? If so (and how can I put this delicately?)... do they go slowly enough to not drop in front of a guy unloading a particularly full bladder?
Apr
30
comment What are some suggestions for helping with potty training?
Hi, and welcome to the community. It seems you're copying and pasting questions and answers from a variety of different people on another site. Excessive promotion of other sites may be considered spam, and will jeopardize your account here. Please refrain from posting any future links to the other site. Copying other people's content, while technically permissible under the terms of service of the other site, is frowned upon here, and may be considered "low quality" due to your inability to provide further details. We expect a higher level of quality than is apparent on the site you linked.
Apr
30
comment Do all video games really have to be moderated?
Keep in mind that most games (one might argue all successful games) provide extrinsic motivation in abundance, even if it is just making it to the next level. Leveling up generally results in increased powers/abilities. Performing exceptionally well is rewarded by higher scores or achievements. These are all extrinsic motivators. That doesn't mean that the intrinsic factors you mentioned don't count; merely that they are reinforced by extrinsic rewards.
Apr
29
comment Is having a sibling better for a child?
@BarryStaes The problem with anecdotal observations: they represent an extremely limited sampling, and therefore may not be at all representative. The children with siblings that my son knows have "these little social shortcomings", most frequently to a much stronger degree than the only children we know. In fact, the kids with siblings we know mostly have a harder time sharing, fight to be the center of attention, and are generally out of control. Is it fair to blame that on their having siblings? No. Neither is it fair to blame the characteristics you described on kids being an only child
Apr
24
comment How can I avoid my girlfriend getting depressed over studies?
@Jorge There was a relationships.se that was started that would have been an appopriate site for this question, but unfortunately that site failed to make it out of private beta. This isn't really the right place for this, as currently worded, but your concerns would be perfectly valid as a question here were your relationship be parent/child, or even as siblings.
Apr
23
comment How should we deal with some inappropriate behavior from our 10-year-old son?
A message with inappropriate language is not "cyberbullying by definition". Part of the definition of bullying in general is "Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once." We cannot assume from the information provided that A) the message was harassing (it may not have even been directed at the girl, as Doc pointed out), or B) that it had the potential to be repeated (again, for the same reasons Doc pointed out).
Apr
22
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
@sampablokuper Thank you, that's a huge improvement. I've changed my -1 to a +1.
Apr
22
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
Hello, and welcome to the site! Please take a moment to take our tour. While the website you linked may have useful information, answers here should be reasonably self-contained. Please edit your answer to include some details about what the person asking the question can do. Explaining why timeouts may not work may be interesting, but an answer here should detail actions that can be taken.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Let's keep comments for clarifying or requesting clarification to the content, and not for criticisms or discussion. Extended discussion should occur in Parenting Chat. If you disagree with an answer, it is okay to post a short comment explaining why you are (presumably) downvoting it, but let's keep it civil, and directly to the point.