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Oct
14
comment Help With Sleep Training
-1 from me. Note that answers that disagree with the premise of the question are discouraged here. The OP asked "What can we do to break him out of this habit?". Your answer is basically "you shouldn't", and therefore should be, at best, a comment.
Oct
14
comment Help With Sleep Training
We used the Ferber method, and it worked quite well within a few days. It's probably harder on the parents than the child, btw. However, I would not recommend trying this much before 6 months of age.
Oct
4
comment My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?
@monsto Note that the OP had already established that those privileges would be removed. Once you commit to negative reinforcement like that, backing away by saying "okay, you can keep playing hockey no matter how bad your grades get" only establishes that any potential consequences can be ignored. I think positive reinforcement is a great approach, but once negative reinforcement is introduced, even as a threat, failing to follow through is (imo) worse than following through.
Oct
4
comment How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?
I don't understand the tic tac toe... are you actually playing the game? What happens when they win/lose? Anything?
Oct
3
comment Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten
I'm not sure how well this will address the behavior problems described (its entirely possible that the problems are due to him acting out for feeling "different", or there could be another underlying cause), but it is certainly good advice. There has been research that suggests praising effort instead of ability is far more productive.
Sep
26
comment How to persuade lazy-to-think kids to learn mathematics?
What is the specific age-range you are teaching?
Sep
24
comment How structured does a child's life need to be?
Good question! As an aside (and thus, a comment), different people have different preferences for vacations. I prefer mine loose and unstructured. My wife prefers scheduling and structure. Neither is wrong, and short-term disruption of schedules while visiting family, vacationing, etc., won't undo any benefits your kids might receive from a more structured "normal" routine.
Sep
16
comment Is there a website where I can check reports on issues in a daycare in South Carolina?
thank you for providing additional information. I've expanded your question slightly, so that the answers don't have to be exclusively websites.
Sep
16
comment Is there a website where I can check reports on issues in a daycare in South Carolina?
As Vicky points out, this question does not specify what country our childcare system the OP is looking for, and I don't believe this question is answerable without that information. @olenak, please edit the question to provide more details, and reply in comments or flag for moderator attention once you've done so.
Sep
13
comment How do I persuade my 4 year old daughter that School is Cool?
Regarding your edit: accepting an answer doesn't necessarily mean it is "correct" or that others are not correct. It just means that it was the most helpful to you, as the asker. That being said, you absolutely do not have to accept an answer if you don't feel it is appropriate.
Sep
7
comment Are “pull-ups” worthwhile?
Of course potty training is the best solution. I'm asking whether pull ups will help in potty training. You didn't actually answer the question.
Sep
6
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@RobP. I agree the quality of brain teasers can vary quite significantly, as can the types of thinking they (supposedly) encourage. I just wanted to clarify that my examples were drawn from distant memory, and weren't intended to be fully representative of complete brain teasers.
Sep
6
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@RobP. Those brain teasers were drawn from my memory from when I learned them almost 30 years ago. They were not intended to be exactly verbatim, but rather to give the general idea. I'm quite sure that the original did explicitly mention that the two options were the only two in town, and probably addressed some of the other details. Don't use my failing memory as an indication that most, or even some, brain teasers discourage critical thinking by providing insufficient data.
Sep
5
comment When does an adoption “sink in” for a child?
I have no reference or experience to back this up, so a comment instead of an answer: my instinct is that sitting him down and trying to really impress upon him the concept seems like it would be detrimental. I suspect that the friend who learned when he was 18 was effected as much by the fact that he was ignorant of the fact for 18 years as anything else.
Sep
5
comment How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?
@what Actually, after the wavelengths answer, he said "oh, wow!", and stopped asking "why" (for the time being!). The "why" questions are much less frequent now (proportionate to the rest of his speech, at least!). We have tried serious answers to "why did I" (also questions like "where is that [random] car going?" ), but it is can be surprisingly hard to come up with a better answer than "I don't know", and the answers we do give never seem to fully satisfy him. Honestly, sometimes it seems he's asking questions out of habit, rather than with a specific interest.
Sep
5
comment How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?
Also, almost 7 months later, and the "why" stage has not ended for us :) Probably because my son literally does not seem to stop talking for more than a couple of minutes from the moment he wakes up until he falls asleep.
Sep
5
comment How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?
@What I do try and answer as best I can, as a general rule, but questions like "why did I put my toy there?" (and yes, my son sometimes asks us to explain his own motivations for seemingly random things!) are fundamentally problematic, and even less problematic questions can become problematic when there are 20-30 in a row (again, not unusual for my son). When my son asked me why the sky was blue, I gave him an answer about the refraction of various wavelengths of light. When he asked (for the eighth time) why we weren't leaving the grocery store for the toy store, I answered "economics".
Sep
5
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
The reasons why these types of questions are generally viewed as a poor fit for the SE platform are pretty well outlined in that blog entry by one of the founders. However, please note that we've opened the subject up to the community, and did not see any consensus that the community feels the rules should be changed for parenting.se. Feel free to cast your vote(s) on that discussion, as the issue is still open.
Sep
5
comment Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?
There's a lot of good info in here, but a couple of your points were a little... melodramatic :) Your social life and recreational activities don't automatically die a bloody death the moment you have a kid (okay, maybe for the first few months, but definitely permanently, or even for years).
Sep
5
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
Regarding your most recent edit: unfortunately, questions focused on receiving specific product recommendations are off-topic. Please consider editing that part back out, as asking for general strategies is much more appropriate than requesting tangible resources.