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Sep
7
comment Are “pull-ups” worthwhile?
Of course potty training is the best solution. I'm asking whether pull ups will help in potty training. You didn't actually answer the question.
Sep
6
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@RobP. I agree the quality of brain teasers can vary quite significantly, as can the types of thinking they (supposedly) encourage. I just wanted to clarify that my examples were drawn from distant memory, and weren't intended to be fully representative of complete brain teasers.
Sep
6
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@RobP. Those brain teasers were drawn from my memory from when I learned them almost 30 years ago. They were not intended to be exactly verbatim, but rather to give the general idea. I'm quite sure that the original did explicitly mention that the two options were the only two in town, and probably addressed some of the other details. Don't use my failing memory as an indication that most, or even some, brain teasers discourage critical thinking by providing insufficient data.
Sep
5
comment When does an adoption “sink in” for a child?
I have no reference or experience to back this up, so a comment instead of an answer: my instinct is that sitting him down and trying to really impress upon him the concept seems like it would be detrimental. I suspect that the friend who learned when he was 18 was effected as much by the fact that he was ignorant of the fact for 18 years as anything else.
Sep
5
comment How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?
@what Actually, after the wavelengths answer, he said "oh, wow!", and stopped asking "why" (for the time being!). The "why" questions are much less frequent now (proportionate to the rest of his speech, at least!). We have tried serious answers to "why did I" (also questions like "where is that [random] car going?" ), but it is can be surprisingly hard to come up with a better answer than "I don't know", and the answers we do give never seem to fully satisfy him. Honestly, sometimes it seems he's asking questions out of habit, rather than with a specific interest.
Sep
5
comment How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?
Also, almost 7 months later, and the "why" stage has not ended for us :) Probably because my son literally does not seem to stop talking for more than a couple of minutes from the moment he wakes up until he falls asleep.
Sep
5
comment How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?
@What I do try and answer as best I can, as a general rule, but questions like "why did I put my toy there?" (and yes, my son sometimes asks us to explain his own motivations for seemingly random things!) are fundamentally problematic, and even less problematic questions can become problematic when there are 20-30 in a row (again, not unusual for my son). When my son asked me why the sky was blue, I gave him an answer about the refraction of various wavelengths of light. When he asked (for the eighth time) why we weren't leaving the grocery store for the toy store, I answered "economics".
Sep
5
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
The reasons why these types of questions are generally viewed as a poor fit for the SE platform are pretty well outlined in that blog entry by one of the founders. However, please note that we've opened the subject up to the community, and did not see any consensus that the community feels the rules should be changed for parenting.se. Feel free to cast your vote(s) on that discussion, as the issue is still open.
Sep
5
comment Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?
There's a lot of good info in here, but a couple of your points were a little... melodramatic :) Your social life and recreational activities don't automatically die a bloody death the moment you have a kid (okay, maybe for the first few months, but definitely permanently, or even for years).
Sep
5
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
Regarding your most recent edit: unfortunately, questions focused on receiving specific product recommendations are off-topic. Please consider editing that part back out, as asking for general strategies is much more appropriate than requesting tangible resources.
Sep
4
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
@justkt When it comes to teaching/learning, I'm strongly of the belief that there's no single "ideal" approach. I enjoyed brain teasers as a child, but not everyone will. Similarly, some people actually enjoy straight algebra problems. However, brain teasers does seem to me like a good match for what the OP is asking for.
Sep
4
comment Teaching logic and problem solving to children?
Please avoid prolonged discussion in comments; comments are intended for clarification and improvement of the answer. If you need to discuss this at length, please take it to Parenting Chat. However, I would advise everyone to tone it down a notch. Insults do not belong here or in chat.
Sep
4
comment When and how to teach a 2 year old how to walk properly
The second issue is the tone of your answer. Its fine if you aren't trying to be subjectively judgemental, but that's not the way you're coming across. I don't believe your intent is to be rude or condescending, but the words you are using could easily be construed that way. That is why I offered you some advice to be careful about your phrasing. I'm not going to get into an argument as to whether your phrasing could possibly be construed in a way other than what you intend; I'm merely pointing out the community expectation, and offering advice and feedback.
Sep
4
comment When and how to teach a 2 year old how to walk properly
@MikedeKlerk I am pointing out two things. The first is that your answer did not answer the question. It is an established policy that if you feel the question is not asking the "right" thing, you should not answer, rather than posting an answer to what you think they should have asked.
Sep
4
comment When and how to teach a 2 year old how to walk properly
Phrases like "i sense ego in action here", "i think you are exaggerating", "your task is to ASSIST your child in growing up. Not by prioritizing your kids needs/wants to your liking", and even "delusional" are all "judgemental words"
Aug
30
comment What harm is porn?
I agree, but then, the converse of that is that no one can point to porn and go "that's absolutely not a problem" with any certainty, either.
Aug
30
comment What harm is porn?
In general, I like your answer. However, these two points: "Will viewing porn as a child cause the adult person to inflict sexually related abuses? No. Will viewing porn as an adult cause the adult to inflict sexually related abuses on others? No." strike me as rather questionable claims. Saying the (unreferenced) Psych Today article doesn't prove causation with the claims of correlation is valid, but then saying unequivocally that there is no causation without citing research seems pretty invalid.
Aug
28
comment 9 Month old vomiting for the first time when waking up in morning then acts normal
Yep, that sounds like vomit! Thanks for bearing with my questions.
Aug
28
comment 9 Month old vomiting for the first time when waking up in morning then acts normal
Spit-up can easily include solid remnants of previous meals, and even a few teaspoons looks like a significant volume once it comes out. The main difference is the force with which the contents come out, not the consistency or volume (i.e. did it come launching out of her mouth, or did it fill her mouth and spill down her chin?).
Aug
28
comment 9 Month old vomiting for the first time when waking up in morning then acts normal
To clarify, is the baby actually vomitting, or just spitting up? "Vomiting is the forceful throwing up of stomach contents through the mouth. Spitting up (most commonly seen in infants under one year of age) is the easy flow of stomach contents out of the mouth, frequently with a burp."