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May
1
comment Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners
We have one that lowers on its own, slowly, but you still have to pull it slightly forward to start it closing. Are there other varieties that close without assistance? If so (and how can I put this delicately?)... do they go slowly enough to not drop in front of a guy unloading a particularly full bladder?
Apr
30
comment What are some suggestions for helping with potty training?
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Apr
30
comment Do all video games really have to be moderated?
Keep in mind that most games (one might argue all successful games) provide extrinsic motivation in abundance, even if it is just making it to the next level. Leveling up generally results in increased powers/abilities. Performing exceptionally well is rewarded by higher scores or achievements. These are all extrinsic motivators. That doesn't mean that the intrinsic factors you mentioned don't count; merely that they are reinforced by extrinsic rewards.
Apr
29
comment Is having a sibling better for a child?
@BarryStaes The problem with anecdotal observations: they represent an extremely limited sampling, and therefore may not be at all representative. The children with siblings that my son knows have "these little social shortcomings", most frequently to a much stronger degree than the only children we know. In fact, the kids with siblings we know mostly have a harder time sharing, fight to be the center of attention, and are generally out of control. Is it fair to blame that on their having siblings? No. Neither is it fair to blame the characteristics you described on kids being an only child
Apr
24
comment How can I avoid my girlfriend getting depressed over studies?
@Jorge There was a relationships.se that was started that would have been an appopriate site for this question, but unfortunately that site failed to make it out of private beta. This isn't really the right place for this, as currently worded, but your concerns would be perfectly valid as a question here were your relationship be parent/child, or even as siblings.
Apr
23
comment How should we deal with some inappropriate behavior from our 10-year-old son?
A message with inappropriate language is not "cyberbullying by definition". Part of the definition of bullying in general is "Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once." We cannot assume from the information provided that A) the message was harassing (it may not have even been directed at the girl, as Doc pointed out), or B) that it had the potential to be repeated (again, for the same reasons Doc pointed out).
Apr
22
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
@sampablokuper Thank you, that's a huge improvement. I've changed my -1 to a +1.
Apr
22
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
Hello, and welcome to the site! Please take a moment to take our tour. While the website you linked may have useful information, answers here should be reasonably self-contained. Please edit your answer to include some details about what the person asking the question can do. Explaining why timeouts may not work may be interesting, but an answer here should detail actions that can be taken.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Let's keep comments for clarifying or requesting clarification to the content, and not for criticisms or discussion. Extended discussion should occur in Parenting Chat. If you disagree with an answer, it is okay to post a short comment explaining why you are (presumably) downvoting it, but let's keep it civil, and directly to the point.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Let's keep comments for clarifying or requesting clarification to the content, and not for criticisms or discussion. Extended discussion should occur in Parenting Chat. If you disagree with an answer, it is okay to post a short comment explaining why you are (presumably) downvoting it, but let's keep it civil, and directly to the point.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Let's keep comments for clarifying or requesting clarification to the content, and not for criticisms or discussion. Extended discussion should occur in Parenting Chat. If you disagree with an answer, it is okay to post a short comment explaining why you are (presumably) downvoting it, but let's keep it civil, and directly to the point.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Let's keep comments for clarifying or requesting clarification to the content, and not for criticisms or discussion. Extended discussion should occur in Parenting Chat. If you disagree with an answer, it is okay to post a short comment explaining why you are (presumably) downvoting it, but let's keep it civil, and directly to the point.
Apr
21
comment Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?
Let's keep comments for clarifying or requesting clarification to the content, and not for criticisms or discussion. Extended discussion should occur in Parenting Chat. If you disagree with an answer, it is okay to post a short comment explaining why you are (presumably) downvoting it, but let's keep it civil, and directly to the point.
Apr
21
comment How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome
This all seems like good advice, but the question is about how the situation should be explained to the children, which your answer doesn't address. Could you please update your answer to include information relevant to communicating with the children, since that is the primary focus?
Apr
10
comment What potty training goals should I use for my son's reward chart?
The advice you give is good, but honestly, I don't feel like this answers the question. You're discussing what the rewards should be. I already know the rewards (the various parts and residents of the aquarium). What I'm looking for are what are the best milestones to which I should tie those rewards.
Apr
8
comment I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful
OP, I would also suggest that you provide more details about the actual behavior your daughter is exhibiting. It will be difficult, if not impossible, to provide you with specific advice if we don't know what type of things your daughter is doing that you consider disrespectful. It would also help if we knew what you have done (aside from taking all her possessions) so far. I removed a lot of detail on your upbringing, because your daughter's upbringing, what your expectations for her are, and how you've attempted to address the situation so far are far more relevant.
Apr
8
comment I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful
I've made some significant edits to this, to help clarify what you are asking. Please feel free to make further changes as you feel necessary. I also ask that everyone remember to vote based on the quality of the question itself, and not how it is worded or presented.
Apr
7
comment What potty training goals should I use for my son's reward chart?
@Joe For things like '14 days without an accident', we hope that the stars listed under each will help. Each day he goes without an accident, we'll fill in a blank with a star, but if there's an accident, we'll remove all of the stars for that goal and start over. I'm hoping that will make it a bit more "real", without being overly frustrating/discouraging.
Apr
7
comment First keyboard: Qwerty or Dvorak?
Hi, and welcome to the site. Your answer is receiving downvotes for a couple of reasons (Jeremy Miller already mentioned spelling, formatting, and lack of references). The main reason, in my opinion, is because rather than focusing on the question, you seem to be mostly posting about which keyboard you prefer (and even that isn't terribly clear), rather than what keyboard is best to start a toddler on. Please consider editing your answer for clarity, and to better address the question.
Apr
7
comment First keyboard: Qwerty or Dvorak?
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