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Jun
4
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
You asked why you received a -1. I speculated as to a possible reason (it wasn't me who downvoted). As a new user, I was attempting to provide the assistance you requested. You are, of course, entitled to ignore what I said. However, note that the question asks " Is there some compromise we could aim for?". If you think part of a question is something you should discount, and instead only provide a "yes/no" answer, then you may want to pass it up for a different question.
Jun
4
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
Hi, and welcome to the site. I suspect the downvote is because you posted this as an answer, despite not understanding the question. The question was not "should we bring a present: yes or no?". The question was looking for best approaches, possible compromises, etc. You mentioned compromise, but don't actually offer any suggestions, and therefore don't actually answer the question. Please take a few moments to familiarize yourself with our faq.
Jun
4
comment Are there any concrete citations for the range of expected costs of raising a child?
If you're looking from the perspective of "can I afford it", would annual minimums, rather than a summary range, be useful as an answer? I know of some sources I can pull together to draw a picture for a low-end ballpark, but I don't want to post it if it won't really address your question.
Jun
4
comment What are the effective durations of punishment at various ages?
I don't think "primarily opinion based" applies here. However, I do feel it might be a bit broad. I think it would help if the scope could be narrowed down, either by restricting it to a specific age group, or using specific examples. Duration of loss of privileges will also vary in effectiveness depending on what privileges, and what the offense was (e.g. losing weekly soccer games is different than losing daily video game time).
Jun
3
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
@JamesRyan Possible != Required. If you want to post an answer, feel free.
Jun
3
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
@JamesRyan re: your second point - if you distill the situation down to the assumption of self-satisfaction over the parents' request (and discard all other factors), probably not, which is why I asked this question, looking for possible compromises or alternate suggestions.
Jun
3
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
@JamesRyan I think at 3, the distinction between "training" and their own decisions is a bit difficult to distinguish. Much of what kids learn at that age is based on behavior modeled by the parents. We do model giving, both by giving each other presents, and by showing and explaining to our son how and why we donate to charities. However, we have never asked him to give away his own toys to his friends. The closest we've done is to periodically go through his toys and decide which, if any, he no longer enjoys and would be willing to donate to charity.
Jun
2
comment What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?
Great answer, and nice example names :)
May
30
comment Are boys fussier than girls?
How do you objectively measure fussiness?
May
27
comment Are there any benefits to taking a bath over taking a shower for a child?
+1. I would suspect that a shower might, at least in some situations, be better for sore muscles, simply because you can focus the water on the necessary spot, and ensure that the temperature remains consistent, whereas a bath will gradually cool, limiting the amount of time you can apply heat to the area (unless you're in a heated whirlpool or such).
May
26
comment How can I encourage my child to eat “spicier” healthy food?
Debates about the potential benefits of foods are better suited for skeptics.se. If you need to discuss it further, please take it to Parenting Chat.
May
24
comment When can I introduce different music?
@ChristopherW here's one:amazon.com/Rockabye-Baby-Lullaby-Renditions-Ramones/dp/…
May
23
comment What age is it appropriate to start martial arts?
I'm downvoting this because the anecdotal evidence you present (your sister's son) doesn't provide any actual support to the question, because you don't include the age of your nephew. Since the question is "what age is appropriate", that's a vital piece of information missing to make your answer relevant; without it, essentially your answer is an unqualified "as soon as possible!", which is questionable, at best. Is 1 year possible? 6 months?
May
23
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
@DVK I suggest you pop into parenting chat before putting too much store into that study; it appears that "cold feet can lead to sickness" may be an... overstatement... of the actual findings.
May
23
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
Let's take it to Parenting Chat. The comments here are getting off topic.
May
23
comment Walking barefoot is bad for my child health?
There may actually be some evidence that exposing feet to acute cold may cause some symptoms of illness.
May
23
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
@DVK If they're taking them off because the socks aren't comfortable, no, it won't work, but if they're taking them off because their feet are too warm, it might work if you dropped the temperature even lower. Still, I realized I missed something key from my answer, so I'm editing it.
May
23
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
Related: Will getting your feet wet make you sick? on skeptics indicates that acute chilling of the feet may lead to cold-like symptoms.
May
22
comment Is it a good approach to have a policy of apologizing for yelling at a kid?
《Comments removed. Please do not use comments for discussion. Comments are for clarification of the question or answer only. If you'd like to have a discussion, please take it to our Parenting Chat system>
May
22
comment How do you correct slang or other improper grammar in a pre-schooler?
@JeremyMiller Doh! I do pronounce it with 2 l's, though!