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Jan
9
comment What are the key considerations when selecting a potty?
@LennartRegebro if roughing up the bottom with sandpaper doesn't work, you might want to try Sugru. I love this stuff, and you should be able to make a good textured bottom with it.
Jan
6
comment Is this considered child abuse
@root45 You are right. Despite the efforts to improve the quality of the question our users have made (which is very much appreciated), the question is at best marginally on topic, too localized, and is now only drawing attention as a vehicle to castigate the OP (who likely won't even bother returning to see the responses).
Jan
6
comment How do I help my 3 month old sleep better through the night?
@joe_coolish We used a variant of the Ferber method when my son was about 6-7 months old. IMHO, 4mo is very early for sleep training. Some children will naturally adjust to sleep training better than others (my son made the transition after 2-3 nights), so its not inconceivable that it would work on a 4mo, but my suggestion would be to either wait a few more months, or, if you want to try asap, look for signs that it is not going well, and be willing to abandon the attempts for another month or three if it looks like you're getting a lot of resistance.
Jan
6
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
@Marie You're absolutely correct that it is too early to start making assessments about her abilities. I added the [gifted] tag mostly based upon your last question ("Is there some relationship between 'smart' kids and emotional dysfunction, for want of a much better term?"), but it's perfectly fine if you want to remove it from the question if you feel it is distracting from your main intent.
Jan
6
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
@Marie I've re-edited... hopefully that is a bit better. Again, if its not clear, you are welcome to change it further :) Regarding the meaning of "gifted", it is commonly accepted that there are different levels of giftedness, and even if she isn't designing robots at age 5 (which would probably qualify as "profoundly gifted"), it is possible that she is somewhere on the "gifted" scale.
Jan
6
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
Hi Marie, and welcome to the site! This is a good question. I've taken the liberty of changing the title a bit, and adding the primary-schooler and gifted tags. If you disagree with those changes (say, for example, you feel pre-schooler would be more appropriate than primary-schooler), feel free to edit them, or even rollback to your original version.
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
I understand that there was a humor element to your answer, but I believe it is still not really applicable to the question (and it is also not really a safe assumption that everyone watched TV as an infant 40, 30, or even 20 years ago). As for your third paragraph, I do not believe it is an accurate answer, considering the other answers citing valid reasons why focusing on a television could be harmful (especially considering the numerous studies on the topic that indicate that it may, in fact, be tangibly harmful over the long term).
Jan
4
comment How should a child be prepared for adulthood?
@monsto I presume you were addressing perspapa. If you start your comment with @*username*, that user will get a notification. If you don't address the specific user, the person who posted the question or answer you commented on gets the notification instead (in this case, I got the notification instead of perspapa).
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
As it is, you aren't answering the question. Instead, you seem to be disagreeing with the premise of the question.
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
"while I gave my opinionated answer to the direct question, the answer to this question is 'If it was, we'd all be idiots.'" I disagree for several reasons. First and foremost, you cannot equate the effects of television on an infant or toddler mind with the effects on an adult. Its apples to oranges. Also, you cannot assume that the only effect would be total idiocy. That's reductio ad absurdum. If watching television made us just slightly less intelligent, social, or physically active than we would be without it, then the answer would be "yes" even though we aren't all "idiots".
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
@monsto understood, but it doesn't actually address the question, and opposing the negative portrayal of television viewing by infants needs some concrete facts to back it up, or at least some detailed and comprehensive reasoning to support the view, as you provided in your answer.
Jan
3
comment How can I get my toddler to sleep later in the mornings?
He kicks off the blankets immediately most nights, but the room is warm enough that his onesie is sufficient. We've deliberately avoided being completely quiet when he sleeps in the hopes he learns to sleep more soundly (and it seems to have worked; his bedroom is right next to ours, and next to the bathroom, and despite our keeping both his and our door open, late-night TV or bathroom runs don't disturb him). Recently we've added a humidifier, which acts as white noise, but that makes no difference. The house is dark and silent at 5am, though (until he wakes up, that is!).
Jan
3
comment How can I stop my pre-schooler from whining?
I've removed the [children] tag from this and one other question, and the [child] tag from another question you created. Those tags are just too general for our site (as a parenting site, almost every question is going to relate to a child or children). Instead, I've used what seems to be the age-appropriate tag (although if you think [toddler] would be more appropriate, feel free to change it, as the tags are only loosely based on age).
Jan
3
comment When is too young to give up the nap?
This is a nice, detailed answer. +1 from me! Would you be able to add in a description of what the "Sleep Lady Shuffle" is for those of us who don't have access to the book?
Jan
3
comment How do I help my 3 month old sleep better through the night?
A quick google indicates that even experts who have concerns about pacifier impact on language feel it is okay to use them until 1 year. Others feel that pacifiers interfering with speech is a myth. Taking problems understanding the speech of a few habitual pacifier users (who are presumably much older) and extending it to "take it away from your 3 month old now or you will have problems" is too far a stretch.
Jan
2
comment How do I help my 3 month old sleep better through the night?
Do you have any reference supporting the claim that pacifier use at 3 months can interfere with language development?
Jan
2
comment What are the objective arguments against immunizations for infants and children?
@LarianLeQuella That sums up my general impression of Dr. Sears. Just about everything I've read of his work seems to be largely based on speculation under the guise of his "decades of experience", rather than scientific research, and he seems to have no hesitation to exaggerate the risks of not buying his book and following his advice.
Dec
31
comment How to remove Toddler's attraction for iPhone /iPad?
I'm with Torben on this (+1, btw!); the phone features are one of the least used on my iPhone. It is primarily a PDA (and a far more useful one than my old PDA), secondarily an entertainment device, and tertiarily a phone.
Dec
30
comment Are there any dangers or downsides to white noise as a calming tool
Exactly. You said studies show a link, yet that is followed by "here's a theory why airplane noise causes autism", which is a clear assumption of causation. As for "read the book", you could include a link to the book in your answer, or at least list the author. Or, better yet, you could provide the citation the book lists for the studies referenced (if the book doesn't cite references for these studies, "read the book" wouldn't help, anyway).
Dec
30
comment Are there any dangers or downsides to white noise as a calming tool
This seems to be an example or mistaking correlation with causation. "there's a link" followed by "this might be why airplane noise causes this problem". Do you have any links to the studies on this? As far as I know, there is zero scientific evidence as to the cause (or causes) of autism, but a whole slew on unscientific speculation.