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May 24 |
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When is physical punishment appropriate? -1 Sorry, I don't see any useful content in this "answer". |
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May 24 |
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When is physical punishment appropriate? -1 for claiming that spanking is "very effective" if not abused without citing references (especially as numerous references showing the opposite have been cited elsewhere), plus the comment about many children who have never been spanked being disrespectful. |
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May 23 |
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How do I explain regional differences in language? @Darwy Apologies on the gender! I'd edit if I could.... |
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May 22 |
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task? By expanding "reward" to encompass, well, everything, you are bringing it beyond the usual definition of the word. By your phrasing, life is a "reward" offered to children for eating and breathing. "Reward" in the context of motivating children to do specific tasks generally is something "special". Saying "dinner is a reward" implies that children don't deserve dinner unless they do something to earn it. Expanding definitions of terms to blur meaningful distinction is a semantic argument that does nothing for providing practical advice. |
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May 22 |
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task? @Ale sorry, but I think there's a big difference between "here's a prize for making your bed" and "sorry, you can't go over to the playground because you haven't done your chores yet". I also think there's a difference between "go sit in time out because you didn't make your bed" and "sorry, you can't go over to the playground because you haven't done your chores yet". Claiming "its all rewards" and "it just depends on how you sell it", while arguably true, reduces it to the point where meaningful discussion on what works and what doesn't fails. |
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May 20 |
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task? Agreed. It looks interesting enough that I ordered a copy. |
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May 20 |
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task? @Hairy at no point did I imply that you were wrong. I merely stated that I disagree. Life is full of things we have no control over. Adults have to take responsibility for things they don't have control over, so I likewise disagree that kids shouldn't. However, as has been mentioned repeatedly, comments are not a place for discussions like this. If you wish to discuss this further, I would be happy to join you in the chat room. |
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May 20 |
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task? That's entirely your prerogative. However, I believe it is a parent's job to teach children the lessons they need in order to be a good adult. "You don't have to do basic chores, and you should only do tasks that aren't fun if there's some additional benefit to you" is not a good lesson, and "if you refuse to do things that I ask you to do, I'll reward you" is even worse, and I believe these result in adults who have poor attitudes towards work, chores, and sometimes life in general. |
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May 19 |
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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed? @repecmps I'm glad you're daughter is okay. I can only imagine how frightening that must have been. No need for an apology. Incidentally, if you decide to edit your answer to incorporate your personal experience, while mentioning more about the potential dangers of improper use of pillows (as opposed to your recommendations of removing the pillow once the baby is asleep), let me know as I will happily remove the down vote. If you can cite sources recommending the pillow you use, too, that would be great. |
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May 19 |
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What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years? How, exactly, would the mix-up possibly be discovered? This sounds like a hypothetical situation which could never actually happen. |
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May 18 |
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When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships? Wow, somehow I missed that "until they are almost old enough to get married" part. Reading fail :( |
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May 18 |
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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed? "It is strongly recommended ... to use this kind of pillow to avoid suffocation by regurgitation after the meal... in a flat position it is extremely dangerous." Further reference material: "There is no evidence of an increase in aspiration or increased complaints of vomiting since the incidence of supine sleeping has increased dramatically" and "there has been no increase in infant deaths attributable to aspiration in the United Kingdom with the change from prone to supine sleeping for infants." aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;105/3/… |
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May 18 |
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What is the impact on kids of having two working parents? @Hairy yes, it was far from ideal. Unfortunately, in the US parents are only guaranteed 12 weeks of maternity leave (unpaid). My wife had enough accumulated overtime to take a bit more, and I saved up all of my paid time off to extend it further, but by 7 months the choice was drop an income, or find a private daycare. |
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May 18 |
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What are the (dis)advantages of putting a child in a nursery or pre-school even when one parent is at home? While I agree that this answer is overgeneralized, at least there was acknowledgement that some day care programs are better than others, and not all the cons may apply to all the cases. I think it is a valid point about socialization, as well, however it is a narrow interpretation. Not all socialization is mimicking how other children behave. Some of it involves dealing with negative situations, and can be just as important, as Hairy and Lennart pointed out. |
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May 18 |
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What are the (dis)advantages of putting a child in a nursery or pre-school even when one parent is at home? At the risk of having my answer there downvoted, I think this question is related, and might have useful information for you: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/1191/… |
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May 18 |
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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed? Incidentally, I did not bring up SIDS, and in fact, if you had read the link I posted, the reason the announcement I listed was made was because of claims that pillows help prevent SIDS that were not backed with verifiable evidence: "To date, there is no scientifically sound evidence that infant sleep positioners prevent SIDS". The article does not claim that pillows cause SIDS. The AAP is concerned that not only do they not prevent SIDS, but they may also lead to suffocation, which is different from SIDS. |
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May 18 |
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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed? @repecmps if you read the announcement, it advocates against use of all pillows and sleeping wedges. While I agree that yours is better than the ones pictured, and it certainly is better knowing that you try to remove it once the baby is asleep, the downvote is not for advocating the pillow, but rather not making clear the risks associated with them. Your edit helps, but it would be better if you cited actual sources. My facts are "verified" because there is an actual link to a document by a reputable body of professionals. |
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May 18 |
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What are the pros and cons of a chicken-pox party vs immunization? @Hairy good link. However, it seems to contradict the info in the two links I supplied. Is it possible that the percentages in that article are not adjusted for only people who have had chicken pox (i.e. maybe that's the percent of the total population, and not the percent of only people who have had chicken pox)? |
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May 18 |
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What are the pros and cons of a chicken-pox party vs immunization? Any supporting evidence for "shingles happens to only a fraction of 1% of those who have had chicken pox?" The number I found was much higher (up to 20%): kidshealth.org/parent/infections/skin/chicken_pox.html afmc.org/HTML/consumer/health_info/shingles07.aspx |
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May 18 |
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What are the pros and cons of a chicken-pox party vs immunization? At no point did I claim that chicken pox causes complications. However, I did cite a number of medical sources that did indicate that complications can be associated with chicken pox. Feel free to provide sources that show that the risk of complications associated with chicken pox are just as likely for people receiving the vaccine. As for "bacterial infections are caused by bacteria," please note that active chicken pox results in open sores, and open sores increase the likelihood of bacterial infection. |
