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Jan
13
comment What are the risks of putting a newborn baby to sleep on their front?
@urbycoz that was definitely one of the main rationales for having infants sleep prone. However, research has since then shown that this is actually unfounded.
Jan
12
comment How many buggies, prams and strollers do we need?
@morahhochman No apology needed... I realized after I responded that that disclaimer was not in the actual answer, and I agree that it should be. I've edited Torben's answer to make sure that point is clear.
Jan
12
comment How many buggies, prams and strollers do we need?
I would actually suggest a third stroller. A small umbrella stroller is handy to have, and cheap. Granted, it isn't for infants, but once a child is big enough to use it, it becomes much more convenient to tote along than a full-sized stroller.
Jan
11
comment At what age should a child be introduced to the Television?
@Bryce I converted your answer to a comment as it does not actually answer the question.
Jan
10
comment Adaptive Teaching of Math Fluency
@blunders If, instead, the question is "does this exist", then the possible answers would be "yes" or "no", and would therefore still not be a good question. If you would like to discuss this further, I suggest we take it to Parenting Chat.
Jan
10
comment Adaptive Teaching of Math Fluency
@blunders You are saying "I need software that does x". Whether there's one package that does it, or 50, you're requesting a list of matches. As I said before, questions that request a list of answers are off topic. Whether you intend to purchase or not has nothing to do with it being categorized as a "shopping" question, nor does the quantity or variety of answers that meet your criteria. As the blog states, even if you do get a "perfect" answer, "technology moves so rapidly that the best shopping recommendations will be utterly obsolete within a year".
Jan
10
comment Adaptive Teaching of Math Fluency
@blunders The blog I linked goes into much better detail than I could, but yes, the question is subjective, and also any answers would be too localized and subject to change (if you got a good answer, a year later that answer may be obsolete).
Jan
10
comment Adaptive Teaching of Math Fluency
Regarding teaching math and its relevance to parenting... that's a very timely question! We're currently having discussions as to where the line should be drawn between "teaching" and "parenting" as it pertains to our site. I encourage you and everyone else to hop into our meta site and chime in.
Jan
10
comment Adaptive Teaching of Math Fluency
@blunders I said it was "essentially" a shopping request. A shopping request in Stackexchange terms doesn't mean "I'm looking to exchange money for a product" but rather "I need something that meets these criteria; please provide recommendations that might work". This typically results in a list of answers each recommending a different product or products, and are considered off topic for stackexchange sites.
Jan
10
comment How can we avoid tantrums over sweets and cakes?
@Urbycoz There are plenty of healthy snacks. Fruits and veggies make great snacks. Yogurt. Granola. My son loves tortilla chips (we give him baked multi-grain) dipped in salsa.
Jan
9
comment What are the key considerations when selecting a potty?
@LennartRegebro if roughing up the bottom with sandpaper doesn't work, you might want to try Sugru. I love this stuff, and you should be able to make a good textured bottom with it.
Jan
6
comment Is this considered child abuse
@root45 You are right. Despite the efforts to improve the quality of the question our users have made (which is very much appreciated), the question is at best marginally on topic, too localized, and is now only drawing attention as a vehicle to castigate the OP (who likely won't even bother returning to see the responses).
Jan
6
comment How do I help my 3 month old sleep better through the night?
@joe_coolish We used a variant of the Ferber method when my son was about 6-7 months old. IMHO, 4mo is very early for sleep training. Some children will naturally adjust to sleep training better than others (my son made the transition after 2-3 nights), so its not inconceivable that it would work on a 4mo, but my suggestion would be to either wait a few more months, or, if you want to try asap, look for signs that it is not going well, and be willing to abandon the attempts for another month or three if it looks like you're getting a lot of resistance.
Jan
6
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
@Marie You're absolutely correct that it is too early to start making assessments about her abilities. I added the [gifted] tag mostly based upon your last question ("Is there some relationship between 'smart' kids and emotional dysfunction, for want of a much better term?"), but it's perfectly fine if you want to remove it from the question if you feel it is distracting from your main intent.
Jan
6
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
@Marie I've re-edited... hopefully that is a bit better. Again, if its not clear, you are welcome to change it further :) Regarding the meaning of "gifted", it is commonly accepted that there are different levels of giftedness, and even if she isn't designing robots at age 5 (which would probably qualify as "profoundly gifted"), it is possible that she is somewhere on the "gifted" scale.
Jan
6
comment How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
Hi Marie, and welcome to the site! This is a good question. I've taken the liberty of changing the title a bit, and adding the primary-schooler and gifted tags. If you disagree with those changes (say, for example, you feel pre-schooler would be more appropriate than primary-schooler), feel free to edit them, or even rollback to your original version.
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
I understand that there was a humor element to your answer, but I believe it is still not really applicable to the question (and it is also not really a safe assumption that everyone watched TV as an infant 40, 30, or even 20 years ago). As for your third paragraph, I do not believe it is an accurate answer, considering the other answers citing valid reasons why focusing on a television could be harmful (especially considering the numerous studies on the topic that indicate that it may, in fact, be tangibly harmful over the long term).
Jan
4
comment How should a child be prepared for adulthood?
@monsto I presume you were addressing perspapa. If you start your comment with @*username*, that user will get a notification. If you don't address the specific user, the person who posted the question or answer you commented on gets the notification instead (in this case, I got the notification instead of perspapa).
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
As it is, you aren't answering the question. Instead, you seem to be disagreeing with the premise of the question.
Jan
4
comment Is TV harmful to my infant's development?
"while I gave my opinionated answer to the direct question, the answer to this question is 'If it was, we'd all be idiots.'" I disagree for several reasons. First and foremost, you cannot equate the effects of television on an infant or toddler mind with the effects on an adult. Its apples to oranges. Also, you cannot assume that the only effect would be total idiocy. That's reductio ad absurdum. If watching television made us just slightly less intelligent, social, or physically active than we would be without it, then the answer would be "yes" even though we aren't all "idiots".