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Jan
15
comment My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her
Good answer, particularly the "I" statements. This is something my wife and I try to use when discussing issues, and it really does work.
Jan
10
comment How to teach civil rights to children who don't know about racism?
It would help if you provided a little information about the book that explains why you think that book in particular is a good choice.
Jan
6
comment How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?
Just because corporal punishment was used for "thousands of years" (source?) doesn't mean it was actually effective in doing what was intended. There's considerable research that says otherwise, actually. Please provide some references when making claims like that.
Jan
3
comment How do you respond to your pre-schooler when they tell you that you're on Santa's Naughty List?
@Dariusz Three-year-old logic... if we say something that makes him unhappy (i.e. tell him he can't do something), we must be bad.
Dec
31
comment Baby does not sleep on her own
I believe the linked question covers this pretty well. The other question is for a 3 month old, but the answers should apply to a six month old as well (or better, in some cases).
Dec
30
comment How do I get my toddler to stop waking at 4am?
I've marked this as duplicate, because based on the information here, the answers on the older question seem likely to adequately cover it. If you feel the other answers don't apply to your situation, please provide more information and flag for moderator attention.
Dec
30
comment my 17 month old wakes up crying during night
I've marked this as duplicate, because based on the information here, the answers on the older question seem likely to adequately cover it. If you feel the other answers don't apply to your situation, please provide more information and flag for moderator attention.
Dec
23
comment Properly suctioning mouth of infant with bulb syringe
This is the technique we were taught when my son was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis. We used a small rubber palm percussor, and gently clapped the chest wall, along my son's sides and back. I see no reason why this wouldn't work just as effectively for a persistent cold or cough.
Dec
23
comment Why do toddler boys love trains and cars so much?
Great references. I can attest that television commercials, peers, and even toy catalogs are major factors in communicating societal expectations. While I agree it is not necessarily a major problem, it can cause some issues when your son insists that his friend likes anything pink, and all dolls, just because she's a girl.
Dec
19
comment How can I find good lullabies for my child?
I've made edits to try and keep this in a productive format. Note that questions that ask for a list of suggestions (e.g. "what are some good lullabies?") are a poor fit for the stackexchange model, and are (for the most part) considered off-topic.
Dec
18
comment What do I do with my husband?
Jessica, you need to get your son and yourself out of that situation. Teaching your son how to use a gun is secondary to the fact that your husband is abusive. I strongly suggest you check your area for woman's shelters or places that offer support for victims of domestic abuse, and get out of there. This website cannot provide you the information and help that you need, but I sincerely hope that you are able to find it.
Dec
17
comment How can I alleviate my 34 month old little girl's fear of poo?
I agree that there's already an answer that sounds like it covers exactly what you're asking about, including negative words about feces triggering the behavior (take comfort that this is pretty common, and not a major problem; you don't need to beat yourself up about this!).
Dec
12
comment Is Video Chatting Bad for Newborns?
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1468-2958.2011.01413.x/… "These findings suggest that TV co-viewing produces a relatively detrimental communication environment for young children, while shared book reading encourages effective mother–child exchanges."
Dec
12
comment Is Video Chatting Bad for Newborns?
All of the recent recommendations I've seen indicate that all television should be avoided before the age of 2, regardless of whether an adult is watching or not. Supervising TV time before 2 doesn't mitigate the problems caused by the rapidly changing scenes, and the pace of most shows are too fast for children that age to follow, essentially resulting in the child watching a series of flashing lights. Furthermore, watching TV with a child results in far less active interaction between the two of you, and active interaction is far more beneficial.
Dec
11
comment I plan to send my child to mission school at 4+, should I send them somewhere else before then?
More information on the (now deprecated) "too localized" justification for closing, including when not to close something as too localized: meta.stackoverflow.com/a/87415/166646
Dec
11
comment I plan to send my child to mission school at 4+, should I send them somewhere else before then?
With over 4 million people in Bangalore, I don't agree that this is too localized. This has the potential to be useful to a lot of parents.
Dec
11
comment What should my wife eat and drink during pregnancy?
As this question stands, it reads as a request for suggestions for specific recipes, which is not really something that this site is suited to answer, and is specifically off-topic. Would you please consider rephrasing it to ask something a bit more general, such as nutrition guidelines or tips for planning meals that don't require a specific list of recipes? The answers you've received may help guide you to reword your question. I'm going to put this on hold for now, but please flag for moderator attention, or ping me with a comment starting with @Beofett, if you reword it.
Dec
6
comment Babies and blood. A innate knowledge?
Keep in mind that kids that age are incredibly keen observers of their parents. They get most of their behavioral cues from watching how we react. Generally, when adults spill something, our responses range from frustration to "oh, no! My clothes/computer/phone is ruined!". In other words, we indirectly teach our children that spilling something can be Very Bad.
Nov
22
comment Skin turns blue after long crying
I'm closing this because it is asking for specific medical advice, and that is outside of our scope. For medical considerations, your first resource should be your pediatrician, instead of a group of people on the Internet, no matter how enthusiastic or experienced we may be.
Nov
21
comment The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?
@barrycarter I believe (but am not certain) that the Common Core curriculum doesn't have specific books, but rather standards for how books that are incorporated into classwork progress. I think it may be up to the individual states, school districts, or, in some cases, individual teachers, to select which books they use, and then explain how they fit into the Common Core Standards.