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Jan
24
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@blankip again: if you let your 10 believe that the diary is private, then read it, it is unethical. Don't mistake practicality for ethics. Besides, having a child who can trust you is a better way to know what they're up to than to hope they write important secrets down that you can read without them knowing.
Jan
23
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@blankip that's quite a presumption. Not everyone is so unethical/immoral.
Jan
23
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@CreationEdge The difficulty I have had in framing additional advice beyond making sure basic sex education is in place is because any discussion would be potentially tempered by the fact that the OP may have read the child's diary without permission. If that is what occurred, it will be a hindrance to broaching the subject directly without the discussion becoming instantly derailed by the child's (justified, imho) indignation at the invasion of privacy.
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@LCIII I see what you're saying, I think. I'm not saying anything is acceptable beyond a 10 year old girl writing "I love x" in a diary that is (presumably, although not certain) intended as a private repository of thoughts and feelings. I don't see that as being on par with dating, holding hands, or even telling the boy how she feels. Basically, I'm of the thought that it isn't what emotions children have that needs to conform to parental standards, but rather how they express those emotions. As such, I think expressing an emotion in a supposedly private venue is perfectly fine.
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@j.rightly A 10 year old has the right to privacy if the parents allow them to believe they have the right to privacy. It's one thing to say "you can keep a diary/cell phone/email account, just so long as you understand that they aren't private, and I will periodically read it", but allowing a child to believe that it is private, and the parent then reading it without the child knowing about it is setting a very bad example. The OP was not clear which situation applies.
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@LCIII That's your prerogative, of course, but I strongly disagree with the second part of what you claim I am saying. Yes, I am absolutely saying make sure they know how sex works, because I believe not providing basic education at that age is dangerous. However, the claim that I am saying let them do what they want is wholly inaccurate in my opinion. I make no such claim, neither explicitly nor implicitly. As for the idea that the OP desires to prevent a young, frivolous romantic attraction, I don't believe that preventing that is possible, especially not after the fact.
Jan
19
comment How do we stop our child screeching?
@MaxWilliams It's been a while (he's 4 now), but I believe it was when he was around 4-6 months. The screeching didn't last that long (fortunately!).
Jan
18
comment Consequences of smoking marijuana during pregnancy (especially first weeks)?
I'd love to upvote this, simply because you actually cite evidence, unlike the other higher-voted answers. Unfortunately, the papers you cited don't necessarily seem applicable to the first few weeks of pregnancy, and instead seem generalized throughout the whole pregnancy. Definitely doesn't deserve a downvote, imo, though.
Dec
10
comment My sister thinks her kid can “swim”, but he can't breathe in the water. This is DEFCON-1 danger, right?
Please do not use edits to attempt to remove your question. This is considered vandalism.
Dec
8
comment Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?
I'd say non-violent punishment is less of a risk than skipping consequences for negative behavior altogether.
Nov
27
comment What harm is porn?
@zxq9 I'm not exactly sure what point you're trying to make. Correlation is not the same as causation. Making loose connections based upon correlation and using them as a possible "solution" is generally not sound.
Nov
16
comment Explaining mental illness to children
10 year olds should be able to manage explanations of more than 7 words. My 4 year old can, for that matter. Perhaps you're underestimating children.
Nov
14
comment Explaining mental illness to children
"Labels aren't the point. Clarity is." Clarity is exactly why labels are problematic: labels are frequently short, simple words that are used to describe a range of complex characteristics, and therefore carry a lot of meaning and baggage that is not relevant to every case. That is what @CreationEdge is referring to by stereotypes and stigma. Saying "this person has some problems", and then elaborating on those problems, can provide clarity. Saying "this person is crazy" is rather the opposite. It is broadly categorical, stigmatizing, non-descriptive, and fundamentally pejorative.
Nov
14
comment TV shows for toddlers that don't teach bad gender and race dynamics
@Marc Please refer to my previous comment, above. If you feel that you disagree with the fundamental premise of a question, then you should just pass it by. While I appreciate that you posted a comment, rather than an answer, the history of the site has shown that telling someone that a question or request is based off of a flawed premise (which is, in itself, a subjective claim), is at best divisive, and at worst, outright unwelcoming and inflammatory. I am deleting the comments that don't directly relate to what the OP is requesting.
Nov
6
comment What are some good “dad jokes”?
Sorry, but this is considered a "list question", and is off-topic for our site. Generally, if you're asking for a list of answers, where every answer can be completely different, but equally valid, it's not a good fit for our site. This is specifically addressed in our help center, under What types of questions should I avoid asking?: "To prevent your question from being flagged and possibly removed, avoid asking subjective questions where … every answer is equally valid: “What’s your favorite ______?”"
Nov
3
comment TV shows for toddlers that don't teach bad gender and race dynamics
Remember: if you disagree with the premise of a question, pass it by. If you find a question rude or offensive, flag it. Arguing about it in comments is not acceptable.
Oct
17
comment Is it too dangerous for my 2 years old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?
I agree, and I had clarified the distinction between the implied correlation, but lack of established causality, in my original answer. I'll edit to put that initial caveat in here, too.
Oct
10
comment Using and not using a car seat for transporting between car and building, how do I get a infant from the car to a building when it's freezing outside?
@JeremyMiller Actually, he probably did mean inches, not pounds. Car seats fit children based upon weight and height, as both factor into whether a child fits properly, and infant carriers typically safely accommodate infants between 5 and 22 pounds, or up to 30 inches. Once they exceed one of those two constraints, they transition to a forward-facing upright car seat. When they graduate to a booster seat is again determined by height and/or weight. Ensuring that the seat belt fits properly across the chest, without going across the neck, is more a function of height than weight.
Oct
3
comment Should I let my child play with gun toys?
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Oct
1
comment Should I let my child play with gun toys?
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