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Jul
17
comment Enforcing minority languages at home
Welcome to the site. As jpatokal pointed out, this answer seems to be missing the crux of the question. I've noticed also that all of your answers reference your blog site. I appreciate that you are open with your affiliation, but please take a moment to review our faq, particularly the behavior section: " if some (but not all) happen to be about your product or website, that’s okay". So far, all of your answers have referenced it, even this one, even though you don't cover this on your blog (yet). Please be mindful of our promotion rule
Jul
16
comment What is the condition causing a parent to care excessively more for other children than for their own?
I'm afraid this seems too broad. There is no way to know why the father acts this way; all we can do is speculate, and the possibilities range from wanting to be perceived as powerful/wealthy/etc., as MJ6 suggested, to believing that he is trying to avoid spoiling his own kids. I'm going to close this, as we can't diagnose a condition (if one that would describe this were to exist), and we just don't have enough information.
Jul
7
comment What to do if my new-born child urinated into own ear?
@200_success Actually, I have heard that temperature change from the cooler air can trigger urination. I don't think it has anything to do with intelligence, especially in a newborn.
Jul
7
comment Abusive behavior of 12 years old son
Thanks for adding more details. I've reopened it. Hopefully you get some helpful answers; I can understand why you're concerned. This does not sound like a healthy situation for anyone involved.
Jul
7
comment Abusive behavior of 12 years old son
As ChristopherW says, we'll definitely need more information. What have you tried already? What does your son say when you confront him about it? Please edit your question to provide as much relevant detail as possible, and then flag for moderator attention so we can see about re-opening it.
Jul
3
comment Is there any benefit of pushing your child to go to school each and every day?
Please clarify what you are specifically asking. What age? Public/Private school, or homeschooling? Why would you consider not sending a child to school on certain days? You may edit your question to add more detail. If you do, please flag for moderator attention so it can be re-evaluated.
Jul
3
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
Just as follow-up, we had the party last weekend. We actually wound up following your advice, in that we did not call them, and we did not bring a present (my son made a donation in their son's name, but that was not communicated to them). We arrived and were told to put our presents on the red table. Our invitation was not the only one that said "no gifts", but it was apparently understood by everyone else that this was to be ignored, and one of the grandmother's had a pen and paper ready to record who gave which presents. I'm pretty certain we were the only ones to not bring a present
Jun
28
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
It was... rather bizarre. We decided to just have my son make a donation in the birthday boy's name. We arrived and we're told to put any presents on the red table. Apparently only some invitations had "no gifts" written in them.
Jun
27
comment How can I help a preschooler who refuses to sleep?
I believe you can add links on the mobile site by manually using the syntax of [display text](URL).
Jun
17
comment How do you explain “Right” and “Left” politics to a child without bias?
@kleineg That's exactly the kind of problem I'm pointing out. I don't know any "left wingers" who would support more taxes, even for schools (and I no absolutely no one saying "more money for roads!"). Rather, they'd rather see existing funds reallocated. I also know people on the left who are strong supporters of gun rights. This is why an "unbiased" assessment is so difficult (impossible).
Jun
16
comment How do I get my pre-teen to stop asking to watch a TV show/movie?
"without giving her all the details of course" - Could you elaborate on why you are withholding details of your reasoning? It would make it easier to answer.
Jun
16
comment Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?
Welcome to the site. I've made some minor changes, including removing your last sentence because your question is absolutely appropriate here! I've included the link above because there might be some information in the answers that could help you, although I don't think they'll give you everything you need. I feel for you, and hope you get some great (and helpful!) answers.
Jun
16
comment Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?
Related: parenting.stackexchange.com/q/146/420
Jun
16
comment Do we have a recourse against an anonymous parent making our child's life harder?
@QuoraFeans I'm not sure that I agree that hearing a third-hand report from your child, and then contacting the school to file a complaint without obtaining further information, would qualify as "doing the right thing" in my book.
Jun
10
comment How do you deal with a spoiled niece?
@Doc I'm certainly not going to tell them how to raise their kid; I agree with you 100%. I was only referring to how I will interact with her, if at all, while she's misbehaving, and how to communicate with my son.
Jun
10
comment Video game addiction
Reminder: comments are for clarifying content, not discussion. Please take any discussion to Parenting Chat. All prior comments have been purged.
Jun
9
comment What should I look for in a crib?
@wardr we have clearly defined site rules. Your comments were flagged by other users. Comments are not for discussion; they are for clarifying content. Even then, SE has a strict "play nice" rule. So yes, content that violates our rules will likely be removed, as will comments that are no longer relevant, too "chatty", or generally off topic.
Jun
9
comment What should I look for in a crib?
I deleted the previous comments due to flags, because discussion on whether you agree or disagree with a question belongs in Parenting Chat, not comments, and because some of the comments were getting a bit rude. Politeness is a requirement on this site,regardless of your opinions on its merits or drawbacks. Please keep this in mind moving forward.
Jun
7
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
Neither situation is actually someone saying "you might believe that, but I'd like you to put that aside anyway." In my example, asking the parents why they are asking for no presents can help distinguish whether they want no presents, or no presents at the party, among other possibilities. In your example, sayin "hey, want to come out with us?" is not the same as saying "hey, come out with us, and we'll try to force you to drink,"
Jun
7
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
I'm not sure why this answer received so few votes. I think the communication aspect is great, as are the alternative options.