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May
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comment Why would you lie to your children about Santa?
Its a shame this answer got buried at the bottom. Its the best answer here, IMHO. Wish I could upvote more than once.
Apr
13
comment How do you explain “Right” and “Left” politics to a child without bias?
@msouth and you're providing a good example of why gross generalizations based on "left" or "right" are fundamentally useless. Many (all) of the things you've just attributed to "the left" only apply to subsets of the left (and some of those subsets are so vanishingly small as to be actively disingenuous when used to describe "the left"). This isn't helped by the deliberately inflammatory phrasing you've choosen. It's no different than saying "the right wants to take away your freedom to not be beaten for being other than a heterosexual Caucasian christian".
Mar
31
comment When is corporal punishment abuse, really?
Complains it should be closed, doesn't vote to close, then posts an answer. Ah, some things never change.
Mar
21
comment Thumbs splitting from changing nappies & repeated hand washing
Valid point. However, an XY problem where there is insufficient information about the process is still a reason to put on hold, albeit as "not clear what you're asking".
Mar
21
comment Thumbs splitting from changing nappies & repeated hand washing
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because the parenting element is completely incidental. The question would be functionally identical if it was fishing that caused the splitting and cracking of your fingertips.
Mar
13
comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
Picking one small detail to address should be a comment. Answers here are supposed to be complete answers, fully addressing the entire question.
Mar
13
comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
-1 this should have been a comment, not an answer.
Mar
8
comment Flight travel during pregnancy
Related: http://parenting.stackexchange.com/q/2323/420.
Mar
7
comment Should a precocious child be prevented from devoting too much time to their primary interest?
@bjb568 How long might be considered excessive is highly variable dependent on age, but consider 3 hours to be a completely arbitrary placeholder for purposes of getting an answer. Please don't read too much into it.
Feb
22
comment Why does skin dryness occur in newborns and infants and how can I help with or prevent it?
-1 please don't confuse fringe conspiracy theories and dangerous pseudo science with "truth". This answer is a borderline rant at best, and dangerously wrong advice.
Jan
31
comment How can I prevent my parents' divorce?
My parents got divorced when I was very young. Neither were violent, depressed, suicidal, or alcoholics. The divorce was hard on me, but you know what would have been harder? Growing up in a house with both my parents fighting with each other all the time. Divorce worse than death? That's a gross and naïve oversimplification.
Jan
27
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@Adam Davis No problem! It felt like my answer was drawing attention away from the other answers, and frankly, I like yours better than mine.
Jan
24
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
I've downvoted your answer, not because you disagree with me about sneaking peaks at a child's diary, but because you barely address the question, and instead focus on addressing other people's answers. The fact that other people's answers is what motivated you to respond is irrelevant. That is not what answers on this site are for. Discussion about other people answers should take place in chat, or, in highly limited fashion, through focused and constructive comments. Both of those options open to you with just a small amount of reputation. Please feel free to edit your answer to focus it.
Jan
24
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@blankip again: if you let your 10 believe that the diary is private, then read it, it is unethical. Don't mistake practicality for ethics. Besides, having a child who can trust you is a better way to know what they're up to than to hope they write important secrets down that you can read without them knowing.
Jan
23
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@blankip that's quite a presumption. Not everyone is so unethical/immoral.
Jan
23
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@CreationEdge The difficulty I have had in framing additional advice beyond making sure basic sex education is in place is because any discussion would be potentially tempered by the fact that the OP may have read the child's diary without permission. If that is what occurred, it will be a hindrance to broaching the subject directly without the discussion becoming instantly derailed by the child's (justified, imho) indignation at the invasion of privacy.
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@LCIII I see what you're saying, I think. I'm not saying anything is acceptable beyond a 10 year old girl writing "I love x" in a diary that is (presumably, although not certain) intended as a private repository of thoughts and feelings. I don't see that as being on par with dating, holding hands, or even telling the boy how she feels. Basically, I'm of the thought that it isn't what emotions children have that needs to conform to parental standards, but rather how they express those emotions. As such, I think expressing an emotion in a supposedly private venue is perfectly fine.
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@j.rightly A 10 year old has the right to privacy if the parents allow them to believe they have the right to privacy. It's one thing to say "you can keep a diary/cell phone/email account, just so long as you understand that they aren't private, and I will periodically read it", but allowing a child to believe that it is private, and the parent then reading it without the child knowing about it is setting a very bad example. The OP was not clear which situation applies.
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@LCIII That's your prerogative, of course, but I strongly disagree with the second part of what you claim I am saying. Yes, I am absolutely saying make sure they know how sex works, because I believe not providing basic education at that age is dangerous. However, the claim that I am saying let them do what they want is wholly inaccurate in my opinion. I make no such claim, neither explicitly nor implicitly. As for the idea that the OP desires to prevent a young, frivolous romantic attraction, I don't believe that preventing that is possible, especially not after the fact.
Jan
19
comment How do we stop our child screeching?
@MaxWilliams It's been a while (he's 4 now), but I believe it was when he was around 4-6 months. The screeching didn't last that long (fortunately!).