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Dec
10
comment My sister thinks her kid can “swim”, but he can't breathe in the water. This is DEFCON-1 danger, right?
Please do not use edits to attempt to remove your question. This is considered vandalism.
Dec
8
comment Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?
I'd say non-violent punishment is less of a risk than skipping consequences for negative behavior altogether.
Nov
27
comment What harm is porn?
@zxq9 I'm not exactly sure what point you're trying to make. Correlation is not the same as causation. Making loose connections based upon correlation and using them as a possible "solution" is generally not sound.
Nov
16
comment Explaining mental illness to children
10 year olds should be able to manage explanations of more than 7 words. My 4 year old can, for that matter. Perhaps you're underestimating children.
Nov
14
comment Explaining mental illness to children
"Labels aren't the point. Clarity is." Clarity is exactly why labels are problematic: labels are frequently short, simple words that are used to describe a range of complex characteristics, and therefore carry a lot of meaning and baggage that is not relevant to every case. That is what @CreationEdge is referring to by stereotypes and stigma. Saying "this person has some problems", and then elaborating on those problems, can provide clarity. Saying "this person is crazy" is rather the opposite. It is broadly categorical, stigmatizing, non-descriptive, and fundamentally pejorative.
Nov
14
comment TV shows for toddlers that don't teach bad gender and race dynamics
@Marc Please refer to my previous comment, above. If you feel that you disagree with the fundamental premise of a question, then you should just pass it by. While I appreciate that you posted a comment, rather than an answer, the history of the site has shown that telling someone that a question or request is based off of a flawed premise (which is, in itself, a subjective claim), is at best divisive, and at worst, outright unwelcoming and inflammatory. I am deleting the comments that don't directly relate to what the OP is requesting.
Nov
6
comment What are some good “dad jokes”?
Sorry, but this is considered a "list question", and is off-topic for our site. Generally, if you're asking for a list of answers, where every answer can be completely different, but equally valid, it's not a good fit for our site. This is specifically addressed in our help center, under What types of questions should I avoid asking?: "To prevent your question from being flagged and possibly removed, avoid asking subjective questions where … every answer is equally valid: “What’s your favorite ______?”"
Nov
3
comment TV shows for toddlers that don't teach bad gender and race dynamics
Remember: if you disagree with the premise of a question, pass it by. If you find a question rude or offensive, flag it. Arguing about it in comments is not acceptable.
Oct
17
comment Is it too dangerous for my 2 years old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?
I agree, and I had clarified the distinction between the implied correlation, but lack of established causality, in my original answer. I'll edit to put that initial caveat in here, too.
Oct
10
comment Using and not using a car seat for transporting between car and building, how do I get a infant from the car to a building when it's freezing outside?
@JeremyMiller Actually, he probably did mean inches, not pounds. Car seats fit children based upon weight and height, as both factor into whether a child fits properly, and infant carriers typically safely accommodate infants between 5 and 22 pounds, or up to 30 inches. Once they exceed one of those two constraints, they transition to a forward-facing upright car seat. When they graduate to a booster seat is again determined by height and/or weight. Ensuring that the seat belt fits properly across the chest, without going across the neck, is more a function of height than weight.
Oct
3
comment Should I let my child play with gun toys?
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
Oct
1
comment Should I let my child play with gun toys?
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Sep
30
comment How should I help my 9years old son to get back on TAG program
@Ida Ah, strange. Thanks for the comment and the attempted upvote... hopefully whatever is giving the error will be resolved soon :)
Sep
30
comment How should I help my 9years old son to get back on TAG program
@Ida Normally, I don't say this about my own posts, but given the seemingly random downvote, don't forget to upvote if you think its a good answer :)
Sep
30
comment Are “pull-ups” worthwhile?
As I commented on your answer: the question is not asking "if I switch to pull-ups, will my son be potty trained?". I'm asking if pull-ups will help potty training, not replace it.
Sep
30
comment Are “pull-ups” worthwhile?
Actually, yes, my son knew the difference at 3 between pull-ups and regular diapers. The question is asking if pull-ups could facilitate potty-training, not replace it.
Sep
27
comment Daughter is reluctant to participate in proposed family meeting. What kinds of objections do you anticipate she has?
Please avoid discussion in the comments. Comments are intended for clarification. Discussion belongs in Parenting Chat.
Sep
25
comment What challenges exist in raising a child in an apartment?
Good point about lead. One thing to note is that some areas have local lead abatement programs to assist landlords and homeowners in identifying the presence of lead and removing it. Check with your local government agencies when moving in to an older apartment or home.
Sep
24
comment What challenges exist in raising a child in an apartment?
I just want to add under "Sound": your neighbors will scream bloody murder if your kid keeps them awake at night, too :)
Sep
24
comment Son 22 asks me how to deal with a friend with benefits, so that she does not get hurt
-1 from me. I don't perceive from the OP that the son wants a "revolving door of sexual partners". Instead, it seems like he just got out of a long term relationship, and isn't ready to get back into one yet (which is a fairly mature and healthy realization, imho). Nor does it sound like he's looking to avoid negative consequences, but rather how to best handle the situation, knowing that one way or another there are going to be complications. While I appreciate you've clearly marked part of your answer as opinion, you make some pretty significant leaps and assumptions that I disagree with.