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comment How can I prevent my parents' divorce?
My parents got divorced when I was very young. Neither were violent, depressed, suicidal, or alcoholics. The divorce was hard on me, but you know what would have been harder? Growing up in a house with both my parents fighting with each other all the time. Divorce worse than death? That's a gross and naïve oversimplification.
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comment I don't know why my five year old son is acting out
I'm putting this on hold, because as CreationEdge pointed out, there just isn't enough information here. Please edit your question to give as much relevant, specific information as possible, and we can remove the hold and hopefully get you some helpful answers.
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awarded  Notable Question
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@Adam Davis No problem! It felt like my answer was drawing attention away from the other answers, and frankly, I like yours better than mine.
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reviewed Approve How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
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awarded  Great Answer
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comment As a university undergraduate, how can I get more self-disciplined in my academic studies?
I'm contacting moderators of other SE sites to see if this would be welcome elsewhere, as I agree it seems pretty off-topic here.
Jan
24
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
I've downvoted your answer, not because you disagree with me about sneaking peaks at a child's diary, but because you barely address the question, and instead focus on addressing other people's answers. The fact that other people's answers is what motivated you to respond is irrelevant. That is not what answers on this site are for. Discussion about other people answers should take place in chat, or, in highly limited fashion, through focused and constructive comments. Both of those options open to you with just a small amount of reputation. Please feel free to edit your answer to focus it.
Jan
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@blankip again: if you let your 10 believe that the diary is private, then read it, it is unethical. Don't mistake practicality for ethics. Besides, having a child who can trust you is a better way to know what they're up to than to hope they write important secrets down that you can read without them knowing.
Jan
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@blankip that's quite a presumption. Not everyone is so unethical/immoral.
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@CreationEdge The difficulty I have had in framing additional advice beyond making sure basic sex education is in place is because any discussion would be potentially tempered by the fact that the OP may have read the child's diary without permission. If that is what occurred, it will be a hindrance to broaching the subject directly without the discussion becoming instantly derailed by the child's (justified, imho) indignation at the invasion of privacy.
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awarded  Good Answer
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awarded  Nice Answer
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@LCIII I see what you're saying, I think. I'm not saying anything is acceptable beyond a 10 year old girl writing "I love x" in a diary that is (presumably, although not certain) intended as a private repository of thoughts and feelings. I don't see that as being on par with dating, holding hands, or even telling the boy how she feels. Basically, I'm of the thought that it isn't what emotions children have that needs to conform to parental standards, but rather how they express those emotions. As such, I think expressing an emotion in a supposedly private venue is perfectly fine.
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@j.rightly A 10 year old has the right to privacy if the parents allow them to believe they have the right to privacy. It's one thing to say "you can keep a diary/cell phone/email account, just so long as you understand that they aren't private, and I will periodically read it", but allowing a child to believe that it is private, and the parent then reading it without the child knowing about it is setting a very bad example. The OP was not clear which situation applies.
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revised How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@LCIII That's your prerogative, of course, but I strongly disagree with the second part of what you claim I am saying. Yes, I am absolutely saying make sure they know how sex works, because I believe not providing basic education at that age is dangerous. However, the claim that I am saying let them do what they want is wholly inaccurate in my opinion. I make no such claim, neither explicitly nor implicitly. As for the idea that the OP desires to prevent a young, frivolous romantic attraction, I don't believe that preventing that is possible, especially not after the fact.
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answered How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
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comment What are the pros and cons of opting for an elective C-section?
Hi Niv, and welcome to the site! I agree with Rory's comment: this is a duplicate because medically necessary vs. optional doesn't really change what would be an acceptable answer on the older question. Also, Joe is absolutely correct about answering your own question: it's fine to do so, but the answer should be clearly separated from the question, and including too much opinion in the question itself does tend to attract downvotes.
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comment How do we stop our child screeching?
@MaxWilliams It's been a while (he's 4 now), but I believe it was when he was around 4-6 months. The screeching didn't last that long (fortunately!).