Brian Vandenberg

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Software engineer, BS in CS & Math.


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comment Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?
I like that idea, except the part about it being electronics; I've debated doing that with all of my kids, and I've decided that's one of those things that should wait until they're able to follow instructions (eg, not argue with dad or try to do stuff behind parents' back, etc)
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comment Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?
I hope it's as simple as him just being more logical about it, but to do best by him I need to prepare by learning what to look for and how / what to teach him.
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comment Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?
I'm unsure whether there's a problem, but from my own childhood experiences I know this: if I try to force him into the same mold his older siblings have made for themselves, it will cause him serious if not irrepairable harm. Like you, I don't subscribe to the notion that ODD, or ADHD are disorders; it more or less means they are wired differently and therefore they need a different approach to parenting -- which might involve drugs if necessary, though I think that happens much too often. (cont)
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comment Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?
I'm torn between the two seemingly extreme possibilities. If it's just a sign that he's more mature [in some respects] than other kids his age, I won't mind a bit. However, I don't want to ignore possible warning signs when I still have an opportunity to help him before it becomes serious.
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comment Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?
Thank you ... that actually makes a lot of sense. I've modified my original question to include two other pieces of information I forgot to add: he picks at his thumb just like his mom & uncle (this is a recent development), and as you said: [most] rewards, as well as punishments, just don't work on him.
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comment Avent manual breast pump problems
I think monsto is right; the seal is probably breaking. Anything you can do to help improve the seal (lotion or something similar on skin if that's where the seal is breaking, or if you can figure out where in the device the seal is breaking either clean it or add something that can improve the seal like plumbers tape).
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