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Web Software engineer in the video game industry since 2004. I'm mostly working with the following technologies (without special ordering, just a list of what I have to deal with on a day to day basis): java / spring / solr / hibernate / memcache / freemarker / sql (mostly on Oracle DBs).


Sep
15
comment Letting a newborn sleep - bassinet or full-sized baby bed?
If you plan in nursing, I think it's much easier to have the baby right next to you. This way you can still be lying down while (s)he eats it'll be less tiring. From my experience, I had both girls (twins) sleeping in a a cosleeper next to the bed, and will just reach for one or the other throughout the night. After 2 months, they wouldn't both fit in so they went in the SAME crib for the next 3 months (but I was still sleeping in the same room as they did). Now they are 15 months old and are pretty good sleepers (8pm30 till 7am, and no crying to go down :)).
Sep
11
comment How do I get my father to stop making everything about him
What does he say when you bring those topics to him? Did you clearly explain him that you'd love to see him more often and have him seeing the kids more often, but with a newborn it makes any kind of scheduling hectic (maybe try to ask him if he remembers how tough it was when you were born!). Tell him how tired you are, and how you'd rather for now keep weekends light and as relaxing as possible. Is he single? He might be demanding because he feels lonely and depressed, and needs the reassurance that he is important in your and your kids's life.
Sep
3
comment My four year old is out of control
Maybe he has too much energy, gets frustrated and ends up acting bad because of this? You could try going to the park after school to get him to burn some energy.
Aug
26
comment My 1 year old chews for a second and then swallows it whole
What kind of food is he trying? We started out with little pieces of everything: boiled carrots, steamed broccoli... to the point where the veggies get mushy and almost melt in the mouth. Then pieces of soft cheese and little bits of chicken. For the fruits, blueberries cut in half are perfect, or ripe banana bite size. We cut everything in small pieces that even if they swallow whole, it can't be dangerous, but they still learn how to chew.
Aug
26
comment My 1 year old chews for a second and then swallows it whole
Do you eat at the same time as him? I've been telling mine to chew and have been doing the motion (with exaggeration) with my own food to show them how, and it helped.
Aug
24
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Aug
21
comment How to handle a fussy baby?
unfortunatly, as for most answers related to baby's phases... it'll depend on the kids. One of mine is now really independent while the other still wants to sit on my laps or be in my arms regularly, but they started doing much better when they could do tummy time and then be in a bouncing chairs. Right now, they are just fresh out of the womb and still need to feel their mom's warmth :)
Aug
21
comment How to handle a fussy baby?
Both my girls (now 14mo twins) wanted to be carried all the time in the first months, it ended up VERY exhausting. Before my husband would leave for work, I would make sure I had water and snacks close by and then... sit on the couch with the nursing pillow (for twins) around me to let the girls be in contact with me. I would put them down when asleep. It's a phase, an exhausting one but it'll get better...
Aug
20
comment 9 month old waking several times a night.
Yes, sounds normal. During the first years there will be changes in the sleep patterns due to milestones reached, growth spurts... It'll go back to better at some point, but he's still a little being with lots of needs so if feeding is what he needs, go ahead and feed him :)
Aug
8
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May
19
comment How to change an active child's diaper?
Both our girls, almost a year old, are the same and sometimes it's a real battle. I've started to only really force a change when it's a dirty diaper or a change before we leave the house. Otherwise for a wet diaper, I'll wait till they are in a more quiet mood to be able to change them. Usually it works when they are in a proper state of mind (already lying down on a pillow, cuddling with me on the floor, when I'm singing a soft song, massaging them...). Good luck!
Feb
6
accepted Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
Feb
1
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Jan
30
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Jan
30
comment Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
@balanced mama: Sorry I didn't realize I had clicked yet. I was still wondering if it's the best answer. I still don't want to follow any "crying" methods yet :)
Jan
30
comment Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
She gets mad if I pull it away from her. If I try to replace it with the pacifier, she gets mad too. She really does know what she wants and won't get it any other way :( I try to talk to her when I remove her from the breast, explaining her that it's night time and that she needs to go to bed, but it doesn't do anything.
Jan
30
comment Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
@balanced mama: I could try to transfer her from our bed to her crib when she's asleep, but even when she seems sound asleep and I start moving her really slowly/carefully, she wakes up the second she's in the crib :( And otherwise yes I'm afraid of leaving her in the bed, lately they've really taken up on crawling, standing up and such. And she's the extremely curious and adventurous one (also loves doing stunts!), so when she's alone somewhere, she'll just crawl around to discover. So I'm afraid of her waking up, and be like: "oh hi freedom, let's see what's over there" =/
Jan
30
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Jan
30
comment Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
I probably won't be able to read the book BEFORE they do learn to fall asleep (they really don't leave me any free time), but I'll continue sticking to our routine/plan adjusting it to what you suggested.
Jan
30
comment Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
If I actually can transition from nursing to cuddling, I don't mind. It's just that right now, being used as a giant pacifier is getting a little frustrating (and I guess even more so because they are twins, so I still need to take care of her sister's needs!). I've been nursing on demand from the beginning, took a longer leave of absence to spend more time with them, so I don't mind giving them all this time and attention! But since I can't put her down in her crib after the nursing/cuddling, it has proven difficult for me to do simple things: eat dinner/shower/restrooms in the evenings.