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| location | Germany | |
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| visits | member for | 8 months |
| seen | Mar 19 at 20:57 | |
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Mar 16 |
answered | How to get toddler to eat eggs? |
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Mar 15 |
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council says my 16 year old daughter and 1 year old daughter should share a bedroom I would add that this situation is temporary. The teenager will finish school soon and move out. Then the second room is free for the youngest daughter. Until that time the smaller child will actually profit emotionally from the intimacy of sharing a bedroom with her mother. Children don't want to sleep alone, it is just our culture that puts such emphasis on the parent's privacy. |
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Mar 14 |
awarded | Excavator |
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Mar 14 |
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We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances? minor orthography |
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Mar 14 |
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We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances? Great instructions. I miss one important point: de-stress. Many women simply don't conceive because they have so much going on in their lives that a child would not fit in -- and their body know this and avoids getting pregnant or "loses" the child. |
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Mar 14 |
suggested | suggested edit on We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances? |
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Mar 14 |
answered | Does daycare mentally damage children under three? |
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Mar 14 |
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian? Great answer and +1. I'd combine this with an attempt at financial independence as suggested by GdD's answer. |
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Mar 14 |
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian? +1 for the solution to the financial problem - ideological freedom comes with that. As for the "tell them"-part, I'd go with JamesBradbury's assessement that it is not necessary to tell the parents at all. The important part is to choose to DO what you want to do, they can't look in your head anyway, so there's no need to "confess". |
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Mar 14 |
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Daughter is whining for every small thing since her brother was born I'd like to add an explanation: Children need continuity. If the mother is busy with the newborn, the older child needs someone else to give her what is now lacking. This was easier in larger familiy structures and is a problem only in the mother-alone-at-home-with-her-kids situation. Including the child in the activities is a good patch, ideally someone like the father or other familiy members or friends would give the older child the attention that it has not stopped needing because it now has a sibling. It's a bit unfair to expect a child to suddenly not need the same amount of love. |
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Mar 14 |
answered | At what age should I explain to my kids that we don't believe in God? |
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Oct 28 |
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5yr Old Has Trouble With Letters & Reading I'd say: You cannot hurry development. Children cannot learn to read at every age, they have to develop certain mental abilities before that. I friend of mine could not write until the age of 12, now she finished school as one of the best of her class (at the regular age) and successfully studies at a elite university. I have experienced and observed that the best path in educating children – in everything from potty training to reading – that children will learn by themselves, if you provide the opportunity, and they will learn nothing, if you try to force them. |
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Oct 28 |
awarded | Commentator |
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Oct 28 |
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4 year old refuses to color Children, especially at the age around four and five years, where they develop their own will and test your boundaries, are naturally curious. There is no need to force them to learn, they are made by nature to learn. The more parents meddle in this natural learning instinct, the more they block it. It has been proven again and again, that children's motivation to learn strongly declines once they enter school. Because they can no longer follow their learning needs, but have to follow the rhythm and topics prescribed by the teacher. An adult's should support a child's learning, not direct it. |
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Oct 28 |
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4 year old refuses to color @Beofett From the perspective of developmental psychology, most children are ready to sit still and work in a class room environment at the age of six or seven. At four years a child will begin to explore his own will, test boundaries etc. It is not an age to expect a child to follow a teacher's instructions. I believe that this early schooling is only helpful for a small number of early developers, and that NO child will perform better in adult life because of it. It is a waste of energy, money, and the child's freedom to develop in his own tempo. |
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Oct 11 |
answered | Should a parent tell their child that father christmas is not real? |
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Oct 11 |
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Should a parent tell their child that father christmas is not real? I totally agree with that. As it happens, just recently I talked about this exact question with a couple of friends, and no less than three of them told of how they had felt angry towards their parents for having told them these "lies". It didn't destroy their relationship with their parents, and worse things happen in families, but as you say, I believe that relationships are built on trust, and I would never dream of telling my child untruths when he wants to understand the world. Maybe, in my eyes, that is even more important: that providing untrue explanation will hinder their development. |
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Oct 11 |
answered | How can I avoid ugly arguments with my wife? |
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Oct 11 |
answered | 1 yr old boy prefers dad |
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Sep 24 |
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How do you get a teenager to take shorter showers? Only in German. Google for dermatologist + skin + shower or something like that, these findings are regularly reported in the media. Here is a sample article from the the Daily Mail, you can look up the name of the scientist and find more substantial proof: dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1380504/… |
