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comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
@n00b - Funny, but no, that's really not what I'm saying. "Let it go" didn't even work in the movie--Arendelle was still frozen. "Love" isn't really going to cut it either.
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Mar
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comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
I partly agree, but partly feel that this is too much in the vein of "how to be happy being ordinary".
Mar
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answered How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
Jan
14
comment 4 year old afraid of swimming
It's not indispensable if the child happens to fall into deep water. For examle, several hundred children die from drowning each year in the U.S., most of whom would not have drowned had they known how to swim (or been better swimmers).
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Feb
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comment My baby fell from the bed. Is there any problem?
Incidentally, surrounding a bed with pool noodles under the sheets (or any similarly high barrier) can make it dramatically harder for a baby to fall off.
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Aug
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comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@philsodad - I'm happy to move to chat; I agree such an extended discussion doesn't belong here. I thought it would be quick and simple. It's baffling to me to see such a mix of correct statements and logically invalid/contradictory ones: "do not know" -> "certainly nothing they do"; "different effects" -> "nothing...causes". The only way I see that this "makes sense" is if you're afraid that although your advice about the right thing to do is supported by the current data, it's not supported incontrovertibly enough for your comfort.
Aug
25
answered At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@philosodad - You're conflating two different issues: whether it is theoretically possible for parents (as part of the environment) to influence sexual preferences of their children, and whether we actually know how to deliver a particular influence. The answer to the latter is no. The answer to the former is probably to at least a modest extent, so language like "nothing they did do or didn't do 'caused' him to be gay" is probably false. You wouldn't say that parents giving drinks to their children in lead cups "didn't cause brain damage" just because they didn't realize lead was toxic.
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@philosodad - You're defining random fluctuations as "not environmental"? I guess that's okay, if a little non-standard. Otherwise, that which is not genetic is environmental. (This doesn't mean that you know what it is in the environment, or that it's at all obviously connected with the phenotype--maybe levels of stress hormones when 15 months old.)
Aug
25
comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
@philosodad - I am not aware of data showing that 11 year olds can be changed by parental intervention. However, the data mentioned by Byne suggests that there is a window when at least a modest difference can be made. (This doesn't mean that one can necessarily predict what will nudge things one way or the other, since people are both cooperative and contrary.) Anyway, when you get 30-50% rates among identical twins, it says there are major environmental factors. We just don't know what they are; it seems not to be the obvious "tell your son not to dress like a girl."
Aug
24
comment How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?
Whether or not logic will reassure the child depends in large part on upbringing (and probably temperament also). If adults haven't made a habit of carefully explaining and providing evidence for all sorts of things, then it's unlikely that a child will accept either a statement of fact (people can be wrong!) or an explanation (who cares about that, I'm scared!). So I agree regarding this particular child; the ghosts sound very real to her, and logic probably won't work. For other children, though, it may work just fine.
Aug
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comment How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?
It is overly simplistic to say that "sexual orientation is something people are born with". Like most things, the truth is complex, and there are both genetic and environmental factors. Here is a summary of both positions (note that they largely agree on the data but disagree on the interpretation; I don't understand why both "sides" don't just agree that there are major genetic factors as well as major environmental factors, which is what the data shows!): borngay.procon.org/view.answers.php?questionID=000019
Jul
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comment How does one formally educate a gifted child without wrecking childhood?
@balancedmama - Ah, okay, now I understand your point. Yes, makes sense.
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