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bio website d7.pipemaze.com
location Vancouver, Canada
age 34
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Roleplayer, blogger, and full-time dad.

Started roleplaying with AD&D 1st edition and started GMing with AD&D 2nd edition. Ran D&D 3rd edition, D&D 4th edition briefly, then became a fan of indie games. Particularly fond of GMless and short-form games because they fit nicely into a busy schedule, and are very good for enticing non-gamers into the roleplaying hobby. Currently rediscovering a love of early D&D editions.

Running Adventurer Conqueror King SystemPlaying nothing • Scheming Mystic EmpyreanReading Killing Monsters: Why Children Need Fantasy, Super Heroes, and Make-Believe Violence


Jun
28
awarded  Yearling
Jun
22
awarded  Good Answer
Jun
18
awarded  Editor
Jun
18
comment Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?
@littlekellilee Of course they exist already. That's what Ed Griebel said.
Jun
18
revised Choosing a surname for child of unmarried couple
fix text being eaten by the HTML cleaner; light copyedit for spelling and run-on sentence
Jun
18
comment Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?
@user132193 Probably, but our most deeply-held beliefs can blind us to the reality of the actions we take and rationalisations we construct to pursue those beliefs. She might as easily be in denial that she's fundamentally undermining his authority, if she's telling herself some story about how her way is better for the children. I don't know her, so she gets some benefit of the doubt in the intro, even if I think it's unlikely she deserves it.
Jun
18
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Jun
17
awarded  Nice Answer
Jun
16
awarded  Yearling
Jun
16
comment How do I get my pre-teen to stop asking to watch a TV show/movie?
It would be helpful if you explained it to us. :)
Jun
16
answered Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?
Jun
13
comment Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?
+1 for "I don't want to start a bad habit on either side so it's one of those battles that I sometimes don't fight." Nothing like having mealtime discipline backfire spectacularly into an eating disorder when they're older.
Jun
13
comment Are there negative consequences to breastfeeding a baby that is older than our newborn?
That's not really how milk production works. Typically, more feeding increases production, not decreases it. Is she sick?
Jun
13
comment When should kids get a cellphone?
The world changes, though. The same argument can be applied to email addresses, having an Internet connection at home, or heck—going back far enough in history to really underline "the world changes"—it can be applied equally to transportation options other than feet. Since structurally it's not a valid argument for any of those, I don't see how it's a valid argument for mobile phones either. That's not to say that a good argument against kids having mobiles can't exist—this just isn't it.
Jun
11
awarded  Citizen Patrol
Jun
10
comment Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
"it's an interrupted defense mechanism": exactly, yes. Even very young children employ this strategy instinctively. I learned, the hard way, that when I'm angry and my child laughs at me, it's because she desperately wants me to be laughing too.
Jun
10
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
@deworde And having done studies on those TV studies, many were extremely procedurally flawed. The most egregious one didn't control for the laboratory viewing environment (the enforced watching period, the inability to choose the program, the sudden begin and end of watching), yet naively concluded that it was the content of the viewing that caused the increase in child frustration observed after.
Jun
10
comment Is it preferable to have “sex talks” vs “all the time education”?
Yes. One not-insignificant advantage of making a habit of talking about it with them is that they also get in the habit of talking about it with you. That's very valuable.
Jun
10
comment Strategies to reduce computer game interest
@ChrisLively Please don't make an excluded middle argument, it's not helpful, and sets an impossible standard of "proof" for me to link to. Nowhere in "you can use a timer to clearly communicate time" does the assertion "the timer should parent the child" enter. As for more interaction is always better: hitting? shouting? Obviously not. If a timer results in a more peaceful interaction over a 5-minute period than otherwise, that's an unmitigated improvement in relationship.
Jun
10
comment Strategies to reduce computer game interest
@ChrisLively Do you have a Back it Up for that? From my reading and experience, having an inanimate object that they can't argue with, but which has been given the backing of adult authority, is way better than making yourself the direct target of resistance to time warnings.