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May
16
comment How to teach a 2 year old to go on the toilet?
@YasserZamani-- the trick is to find the thing your child wants, and that you can give them in 20-30 minute increments. Maybe a sticker for every time on the pot? Food-based bribes can seriously backfire, as in, all of a sudden the kid's eaten 20 cookies and is completely wired. Also, I think it's important to consider that your child may just not be physically capable of controlling themselves yet; they might not yet have all of those muscles sorted out yet.
May
15
comment How to teach a 2 year old to go on the toilet?
@MarkDominus-- thanks for the upvote :) I agree, different kids react differently.
May
15
comment How can I strengthen my baby's arms?
We did this to great effect: markmroden.com/Kids/TMR/Thomas-McKenzie-Roden/…
May
14
comment Daughter won't take formula
Have you contacted your pediatrician?
May
14
comment How much vitamin D does a toddler typically need?
@jrennie-- if the doc isn't looking into vitamin D (especially after you mention it specifically), then I'd look into other causes first. Did the allergy test come back with any positives?
May
13
comment How much vitamin D does a toddler typically need?
How do you know that the 400 IU recommendation is on the low side? Here's the CDC link: cdc.gov/breastfeeding/recommendations/vitamin_D.htm and here's the original source: pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/122/5/1142.full His skin issues may be entirely unrelated to sun exposure or vitamin D; he may be irritated by the detergent you're using, by swimming in extremely chlorinated pools, or some other exposure. What does his pediatrician say about his 'issues'?
May
13
comment How can I stop bad language in the home?
potentially relevant: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/4646/…
May
13
comment Should we switch from cloth to disposable diapers?
@tomjedrz-- agreed. The assumption that they are better for the environment is false (skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/5614/…). Cloth causes more water waste, disposable more solid waste. But I think that cloth gives you more Parent Points, so you can brag about how awesome of a parent you are (parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/10/never-mom-enough)
May
13
comment Gift idea for breastfeeding mom
No idea. Have an upvote.
May
11
comment Gift idea for breastfeeding mom
My wife just wanted wine and sushi. Could you do a night out with a babysitter watching the kids?
May
9
comment Is the child obesity epidemic biasing growth charts?
@tomjedrz-- these charts help you to define if the child is healthy; that's their purpose. If the child is that much below the median size, then there could be a nutrition problem.
Apr
9
comment How to tell my son (10yo), somebody he knows as a man, is actually a woman?
Your son may have already figured it out. 10 years old is not that young for these kinds of observations-- but that depends on how observant your son is. As for the exploration of homosexuality, from all the gay people I've talked to, it's more about not being able to control who you feel attracted to. I happen to be attracted to women, but that's not a particularly conscious effort on my part.
Mar
30
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@kiev-- we'll be trying this out as well. As I said earlier to tomjedrz, I can't discount this approach before I try it, as the stuff I'm doing now isn't working.
Mar
28
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@refro-- ah, I see. Essentially, a huge time investment up front, to make it easier in the late game.
Mar
27
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
No, I mean he won't sit still for more than ten seconds, so it doesn't matter how long I want them to be, because he always runs away after that first little bit.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@dave-- you remind me of what my dad said to me. "Well, now I know how to raise kids. I just had to mess up a bit first." Thanks, Dad.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
Having said all of that, though, I've read the except you posted, and a lot of that makes sense. I think where I diverge from Dobson is the methods of implementing his practice, at least in this instance. But then again, since my methods aren't working to the point that I posted the question, I think I have to think about this and go over it with my wife.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@tomjedrz-- yeah, reasoning with three year olds is bound for failure. We did try for a while with happy face/sad face drawings on a wall, but I couldn't think of a way to say 'one sad face cancels out three happy faces!" to a kid who can't count that high yet.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@dave-- I think you're definitely right. My wife and I both noticed that he's acting up when he's bored (I spend the day watching just to see...)
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@Shauna-- All good points. I watch him 3+ hours a day, and I have not seen him attach to any toys, and I have seen him jump off of some pretty high heights. He has reacted pretty well to having his TV time reduced though, so that's the route I'll start with.