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comment How to tell my son (10yo), somebody he knows as a man, is actually a woman?
Your son may have already figured it out. 10 years old is not that young for these kinds of observations-- but that depends on how observant your son is. As for the exploration of homosexuality, from all the gay people I've talked to, it's more about not being able to control who you feel attracted to. I happen to be attracted to women, but that's not a particularly conscious effort on my part.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@kiev-- we'll be trying this out as well. As I said earlier to tomjedrz, I can't discount this approach before I try it, as the stuff I'm doing now isn't working.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@refro-- ah, I see. Essentially, a huge time investment up front, to make it easier in the late game.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
No, I mean he won't sit still for more than ten seconds, so it doesn't matter how long I want them to be, because he always runs away after that first little bit.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@dave-- you remind me of what my dad said to me. "Well, now I know how to raise kids. I just had to mess up a bit first." Thanks, Dad.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
Having said all of that, though, I've read the except you posted, and a lot of that makes sense. I think where I diverge from Dobson is the methods of implementing his practice, at least in this instance. But then again, since my methods aren't working to the point that I posted the question, I think I have to think about this and go over it with my wife.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@tomjedrz-- yeah, reasoning with three year olds is bound for failure. We did try for a while with happy face/sad face drawings on a wall, but I couldn't think of a way to say 'one sad face cancels out three happy faces!" to a kid who can't count that high yet.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@dave-- I think you're definitely right. My wife and I both noticed that he's acting up when he's bored (I spend the day watching just to see...)
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@Shauna-- All good points. I watch him 3+ hours a day, and I have not seen him attach to any toys, and I have seen him jump off of some pretty high heights. He has reacted pretty well to having his TV time reduced though, so that's the route I'll start with.
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comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@tomjedrz-- I'm really not inclined to take Dobson seriously, after reading his completely erroneous stances on homosexuality (viz freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1751579/posts). I'm also not keen on locking a kid in a room, or, as I said, hitting (aka corporal punishment), as I think both send some pretty nasty messages about acceptable behavior.