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revised My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
Explained reasoning behind solving the problem.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
Because after all, how valuable is a child? If he really knows that, he will want to excel, to do the right thing. There's a place for hitting him over the head with a sharp (metaphorical) stick, and a place for scooping him up out of the mess he's made and just being a daddy.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
Here's what we do when our kid does something stupid
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
@MattSamuel - you are right, I didn't mean to imply lack of personal responsibility, that was sloppy language on my part. I have edited for clarity.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
@RubberDuck - I agree with you. My father always used to say "never a lender or a borrower be". He refused to lend me money when I was in trouble, but would freely give of what he had. This did not teach fiscal irresponsibility, but the opposite as I saw how money could be used as a tool. A lesson can be learned in an hour, in a moment. I don't think it's necessary to drag the problem out until the debt is paid, it only needs to be dragged out until the lesson is learned. Just my opinion.
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revised My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
Clarified the language in the first point. I didn't mean to imply lack of free will.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
@RubberDuck - If you don't act, you have a $500 problem to sort out. This is going to drag on for months, perhaps years. The child will be in debt to the parent. It's a true statement that the borrower is slave to the lender. This is not a good situation for a parent and child. I say learn from it, forgive it, fix it if possible for bonus points, and move on. All part of child rearing.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
@reirab - perhaps I over-egged it a little Think back to when you were 13, and a pretty girl you liked fluttered her eyelashes at you. Would you have done pretty much anything (within reason) to make her smile? A shoe for a smile would have seemed like a fair trade back then.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
@RubberDuck - we have two options. We can either make him pay for the shoes which is going to turn into a dragged out affair, or you can see the humour in the situation, make him sweat for a week or so, show him the problem so he understands what he has created, then save the day. At this point your kid will think you are the coolest parent ever. Respect is important. If your kid respects you, you can teach him.
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comment My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
@msb - no, it teaches good humour
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revised My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?
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comment How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
This is definitely an answer rather than a comment, and a good one at that. I have taken the liberty of framing it as such.
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revised How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
This definitely should be an answer, and a good one too. Also no need to criticise other posters, we have a rating system for that.
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revised How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
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comment How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
@Erica - Ah, looking at the previous versions I see why this was considered rude.
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answered How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
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comment How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
I see nothing wrong with this answer, why the downvotes?
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comment How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
Welcome to the site @Tbobay. This is a little different to the normal discussion forums you may find around the place. The goal of this site is to answer the question. Once you get some upvotes you can then comment on other people's answers in the comment boxes. All the best.
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comment 9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?
Explaining the reason for the rule is important. The rule is clearly mad, but unfortunately perhaps necessary.