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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
I want to suggest that the reason you didn't know what to do when you were bullied was because you had the kind of relationship with your parents where they read your diary instead of having a respectful relationship with you that would have encouraged you to talk to them directly about what was happening. I spent most of my young adulthood assuming that my mother was a good parent, pretty much because she told me so, when in fact she was a shitty parent and our relationship was so toxic I nearly committed suicide. You might reconsider your point of view, is all I'm saying.
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comment What can we do to get him to behave?
Excellent answer. Don't try to control him because that won't ever work. Instead, teach him without assuming that he should already know how to behave.
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comment Is our toddler ready for potty training - potty training regression
My littlest had this issue and had accidents every time he became constipated. He would hold it because it would start to hurt, vicious cycle ensued. It was hard to tell when he was constipated otherwise, adding to the difficulty.
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awarded  Yearling
Oct
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comment How to teach greater attention and the ability to delay gratification?
When I was a kid, I couldn't hear anything when I was reading. I had to be physically touched or have a hand put between me and the text to get my attention. I still have this problem with pleasure reading, but now I'm aware of it. Maybe your daughter is the same way.
Aug
26
comment What can I do to prevent two well-behaving siblings from turning into a maelstrom of destruction when combined?
Understanding that it isn't always feasible, does a parent actually engage in play with the two of them together regularly? Or when they are supervised, is it just that—supervision? Children will model behavior and direct interaction is going to accomplish that faster than observation and correction. Is the problem that the two of them get into mischief (like setting the cat on fire) or do they end up in a fistfight? Do you help scaffold their activities—including end points and transitional behavior—before you leave them to their own devices?
Jul
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awarded  Excavator
Jul
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revised Help! My 5 year old just won't poop on the toilet
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Jul
13
comment Does this method of potty-training work?
If your child was doing well, and now is not, it could be caused by constipation or bowel retention. We learned this the hard way after trying for months to get our 3-year-old "back on track". He wasn't constipated, but he resisted sitting down to use the toilet, resulting in bowel retention and subsequent urinary issues. A year later, we're still correcting the bowel problem, but things are much much better.
Jun
23
comment How can I make noisy toys quieter?
Clear packing tape directly over the speaker worked wonders at our house.
Jun
6
comment How should I teach my son to play video games?
+1 LBP 1 & 2 are favorites with my two boys (4 and 6). We switched to co-op games (including Lego games too) after the eldest kept trouncing the youngest at MarioKart because the youngest couldn't work the controls. The benefit for both of them has been learning to accurately instruct the other about what they wanted to do. It went rapidly from "push the thing!" to "Stand next to the gray block and hold down the square button, then walk toward the wall." This has translated to better interactions in real life too. Also, I agree about avoiding casual games.
Jun
3
comment How can you offer other parents suggestions without making them defensive?
This has become a big internal struggle for me with a close friend of mine. She's homeschooling and both of her kids read well below the level expected for their age. Both of my children (4 and 6) read, and my 6-year-old reads at a higher level than hers (9 and 12). Her younger child doesn't write, and the older one is still using placeholder spelling and mixed case. I'm absolutely floored by it and have no idea how to discuss it with her, if at all.
Feb
12
answered How do I help a child overcome Severe difficulty with Task Initiation?
Feb
12
comment How to teach my daughter to get the shampoo rinsed out of her hair throughly?
You could give her only the right amount in a paper cup (we got to fill the cap of the bottle when I was a kid) to help with the measuring part.
Feb
12
answered What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?
Feb
12
comment How to keep jaundiced two-day-old awake during breastfeedings?
These are good suggestions. I'd add: my sister-in-law lightly flicked her son's nose or gently blew in his face. Singing to my eldest worked, but put the younger one to sleep even faster. The younger one liked to listen to nonsense noises (like 'om nom nom nom') and that would keep him awake long enough to nurse.
Feb
12
comment 3 year old with vicious temper
@Jax I'll put it here. This one is a scholarly review article about differences that children exhibit in response to abuse. (I'm not suggesting there is any abuse in your household, but exploring the interaction between genetics and behavior is probably relevant to you.) If you can't access the article, you can search for the title and find the complete pdf.
Feb
12
comment 3 year old with vicious temper
@Jax I don't know how experienced you are with scientific articles. You might start here. Here is another one that is more accessible to the laity. Searching for "genetic sensitivity aggression" will give you some good hits. You might also add "children" on the end. I have one more link, too long for this comment, so...
Feb
10
comment 3 year old with vicious temper
@Jax I agree about the possible genetic component. This kind of temper can signal a genetic sensitivity to adrenaline or testosterone, and it can be successfully controlled with cognitive-behavioral techniques once your child is old enough to be aware of what's going on. (It's similar to how anxiety disorders can sometimes be treated.)