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Software developer by profession, smalltime hacker and gamer by interest. Look at my website to learn more about me

Jul
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awarded  Critic
Jul
9
comment How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?
@SalvadorDali: no, no, a hundred times NO!!! That is the most dangerously idiotic thing I have read all day! Escalating the violence is NOT a solution in any sense unless you're willing to kill the guy and go to prison over it. Otherwise you're just as likely to cause him to use lethal violence as to scare him into stopping. Oh, and of course as Tim says that "crap" people like this usually were made so by their own parents through the application of violence.
May
14
comment Does good cop/bad cop work with children?
@wberry: perhaps the best approach is to distinguish between rules which must be backed by reasons (and apply to everyone), requests ("please do this for me because it would make me happy") and commands (rare but important, urgent, no questions asked). And as I mentiond before, this is of course too complex for toddlers.
May
14
comment Does good cop/bad cop work with children?
@Miles Route: That is a horrible, appallingly authoritarian approach to childreading, and the exact opposite of reasonable.
May
14
comment Does good cop/bad cop work with children?
@MilesRout: It's neither wrong nor absurd. Sure, the rules can be different, but there must be an understandable, explainable reason for that (e.g. Daddy skipped lunch because of work). If the only reason you can give is "because I say so and I can make you do what I want" then you're basically teaching the child that might makes right and whoever has the power sets the rules. That's not something you want them to internalize. Obviously, this is probably beyond a toddler's understanding, but it's good to get into the habit early.
Apr
29
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Apr
29
reviewed Approve suggested edit on How do I define 'rape' to an 8-year-old girl?
Apr
22
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Apr
22
revised What stories for children have strong female role models?
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Mar
31
awarded  Nice Answer
Mar
31
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Mar
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Mar
28
answered How do I define 'rape' to an 8-year-old girl?
Mar
12
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Mar
12
revised How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
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Mar
11
suggested suggested edit on How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
Mar
11
comment How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
@Stephanie Daigle: you're treating an almost-adult like a small child, which can only end badly. Punishment will not change her attitude, but can damage your relationship permanently.
Apr
25
comment How do you gauge if a show, movie or story may be too frightening for your child?
@Vicky: absolutely. Personally, I've had nightmares from a movie (that I remember) exactly once - and it was that lovely children's classic "The Wizard of Oz". That wicked witch was scary!
Apr
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Dec
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