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bio website hochmanfamily.com
location Stamford, CT
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I am a teacher of Navi to 6th and 7th graders as well as a technology teacher to grades k-3 in a Jewish Day School in Stamford, CT. I am married and have four wonderful children who keep me on my toes.


Dec
22
comment Should I discourage my son from “stealing” toys from Let's Rock Elmo?
We have taught our kids about sharing and giving up toys at a very early age (even before 15mo. we start) We say on their behalf, when their sibling asks for a toy, I will give it to you in 2 minutes. We then set a timer and when it goes off we help the child give it to his/her sibling. They learn this much more quickly then you think, and well before they have words.
Dec
22
comment Should I discourage my son from “stealing” toys from Let's Rock Elmo?
15 months is to young to expect it but not to young to teach it. My 18month old already understands your turn, my turn and giving up a toy to another child after he/she asks and a self designated (with our help) time has passed. If he is grabbing, as far as I'm concerned that is violent, maybe he won't actually break the toy, but it is not appropriate behavior, as you pointed out.
Dec
21
comment What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?
I agree. We also have dessert everyday and often it is a treat.
Dec
21
comment I don't like my child's teacher's teaching style
so you let your child know you don't value the homework that is coming home?
Dec
20
comment I don't like my child's teacher's teaching style
@DAO1 This is different, one is academic disagreement (disagreement on the information taught) and one is style (disagreement on how something should be taught)
Dec
20
comment When is it appropriate to start explaining the religious components of the various holidays?
I don't always believe that the reason behind the holidays of other religious is historically accurate, so this will not work.
Dec
20
comment How do you balance time for playdates vs family time?
Recess is great, but usually group play. As well, it is very important to the children that they have playdates, it is part of growing up.
Dec
20
comment How do you balance time for playdates vs family time?
I complete agree about over scheduling. My children are allowed one activity a week and that is all. Playdates are important from a social point of view, the social interaction of one to one and of having to choose an activity themselves is very different from school socialization.
Dec
20
comment How do you balance time for playdates vs family time?
Seems that simple, but with four kids and school not getting out until 3:30 this plan does not work. As well you mention before school? I agree completely that meal time is the best family time however the kids need more than that!
Dec
19
comment Balancing toy interest and value with noise
I agree. I hate noisy toys and in fact go out of my way not to buy anything that makes noise. However, now that you have the toy and you see how great it is for your daughter I understand why you have a problem.
Dec
19
comment How can my 7yo daugher increase her attention span in school?
Why assume it is the teacher's problem? What is the harm in researching other possibilities? Having her tested for attention issues won't hurt anyone and may explain what is going on.
Dec
19
comment When is it appropriate to start explaining the religious components of the various holidays?
@DA01 I teach tolerance and acceptance from the beginning, as explained in the question, I am wondering about when to teach the details of the holidays.
Dec
17
comment How do I figure out why my child no longer likes preschool?
@kibbee I don't think sharing the worst part is a good idea at the dinner table. complaints come out all day both from you and your kids, you don't need to ensure they know you sometimes have bad parts of your day, they know that by default.
Dec
14
comment How do we help our toddler to sleep through the night?
What about snacks between meals, most toddlers eat three full meals AND a morning and afternoon snack.
Dec
12
comment 16 months old and no signs of communication. Should we be concerned?
@JohnIsaacks in Connecticut it is called Birth to Three, I am sure other states have programs similar to it. We used it for both our son and daughter, both of whom had different speech problems and found them very helpful and right on target in terms of their recommendation. Also, if you do need services they have a rolling pay schedule depending on your income, so it is a great program.
Dec
7
comment Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?
I read the reference to the "mommy-daddy come help me" differently. I don't think it literally means the baby is saying the words, if so, in my opinion you have waited too long to teach your child to sleep. I thought more it was the crying that the parent is translating into meaning this, which might not be what it means at all.
Dec
7
comment Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?
Your question is extremely well thought out and complete. Therefore it requires a complete answer, which I will try to provide at a later date, when I have some time to flesh it out. Good job on a great question.
Dec
6
comment How do we get an eight month old back to sleeping in his crib?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun just because you don't like something does not make it wrong. It is the best thing for the child even though it causes unhappiness. My children are happy, well adjusted, and feel loved even though I had them cry it out because it was the right thing to do to teach them what is best for them
Dec
6
comment Should I replace the food my 18 month throws on the floor?
I agree, however, when food is thrown on the floor it is no longer any good, but I would not serve more. It is a sign that he/she is done. If the child is hungry later provide a healthy snack, but dinner/lunch is over when food goes on the floor intentionally.
Dec
1
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
Limit does not mean outlaw. Yes, some computer time and computer interaction, at the appropriate age (maybe another question?) is a necessity in today's world. (I teach technology in grades K through three and I am a big proponent of teaching computer skills very early. However, we do need to be careful and therefore limit 'screen time' in order to ensure that our children learn face to face interaction.