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Jul
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answered How to communicate with tiger parents?
Jul
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comment How to teach a toddler to draw?
@Joe You let the restraining order expire.
Jul
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answered 8-year-old right away repeats action after she is told not to do them
Jul
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comment What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?
Giving control works well, along with acknowledgement of their desires, and an implied warning of what will happen should they choose not to get ready. "I understand you want to keep playing, and I'm sorry this is interrupting your activity, but we have to go, so do you want to put your coat on by yourself, or shall I help you with it?" The choice is still theirs, but they understand that the next step if they continue to refuse is that I will be getting them ready to go, and they lose a little autonomy during the transition to the next activity. I don't do this for unimportant things.
Jul
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comment Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
@Lembik It's quite possible that it's a phase. A 4 year long phase, from age 12 to age 16, though, isn't insignificant. Several other answers approach it from that perspective, and they may be more helpful to the OP than this suggestion. Once the parent seeks professional help, the professional should be in a better position to analyze the situation and provide counseling and help. They may not identify it as abuse, and they may agree with you that it's a stage. I don't think we have enough information to determine it ourselves, but it's worth considering the abuse possibility.
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Jun
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answered Step Parent - To be concerned or not to be
Jun
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answered Why does my 16-year-old hate me?
Jun
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comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
@JimW Yes, that's less direct - it's asking if they'd mind before asking if they would actually act. Of course, if they don't mind they'd be expected to act, so a lot of people use it the same way, but it is slightly softer, being more indirect. If that feels comfortable, use that.
Jun
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comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
You were annoyed being seated right behind the child. I'm curious whether you would have still been annoyed if you chose a seat much further away from her. Given that the bus is nearly 40 feet long, my expectation is that re-seating yourself may be an easier option for both you and the other passengers.
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Jun
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comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
I like this because I prefer treating children as equals. On the other hand many youth see adults as authorities of one form or another, and will not stand up for their own rights in the face of even a very polite request ( see, for example, travel.stackexchange.com/questions/48775/… ) so I'm a bit torn as to whether this is a good idea when the child is traveling with their parents. As a retail worker, you were in a position of some authority. That is a different relationship than a fellow passenger.
Jun
15
comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
I like this answer because it provides a permanent fix for a problem they will encounter throughout their life. Otherwise they will have to ask for quiet from people around them whenever they encounter it.
Jun
15
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Jun
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comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
@Joe Yes, the OP never specifies whose acceptance they are seeking. Do they want to know whether society finds it acceptable? The parent they are asking? The bus company? Legally? It may be obvious to us that it's legal and there are no significant repercussions, but on the other hand I don't want to give them the impression that everyone finds it acceptable and no one will find offense with it.
Jun
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comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
" If you're simply annoyed about "normal" children's behavior, that's not really appropriate to bring up" reminds me of the recent question travel.stackexchange.com/questions/48775/… where a youth is asked to give up their rights to an adult merely because many adults believe they have more rights to something than a youth does. You can ask a cell phone talker to get off the phone when sharing a bus with them, but they certainly don't have to. I agree with the above statement - it's not appropriate, but it can be done.
Jun
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answered How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
Jun
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answered I think my 11 month old is afraid of his dad
Jun
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comment My 4-year-old refers to himself as me
I enjoy this stage with my kids. It provides a lot of opportunities to have fun, and a number of teachable moments.