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Husband of a wonderful woman who teaches me how to be a better father daily for our seven children, all boys.

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Jun
13
comment Is it preferable to have “sex talks” vs “all the time education”?
@user3143 I've read countless parenting books, talked with countless parents, and have my own experiences, so while I'd say my comment is reasonably well informed from a variety of sources, I simply don't have the time it would take to create the kind of great answer you appear to be seeking. However I hope my comment will help others, despite lack of citation.
Jun
13
comment In case of swallowed medicine, call poison control or 911?
I like this answer for the concrete information: If the patient is not responsive, or is having difficulty breathing, then 911 is necessary. They are in immediate danger. Otherwise, poison control can be used to help you determine the best course of action - but again, only if the person is currently responsive and breathing.
Jun
13
comment Is it preferable to have “sex talks” vs “all the time education”?
Both. There are aspects of human sexuality that won't come up in "natural conversation" that should be understood at points in their life. Further, the intimate and private nature of human sexuality lends itself to setting aside space and times to talk about it in a specific, directed manner to suggest that it isn't something to blurt out at inappropriate times. These needn't be long discussions, and one should certainly continue to discuss sexuality at other times as part of normal conversation. There is, however, no need to pit the two methods against each other. Use both as needed.
Jun
13
answered What are the signs that a baby is too hot?
Jun
13
comment Why do humans require assistance in childbirth so frequently?
Because we desire and seek for a very low level of infant mortality. Medical advances have drastically reduced infant, neonatal, and perinatal mortality to the point where it is an exception to have a stillbirth, or a child that dies near full term. Without active medical involvement during pregnancy and birth, we would be losing many more children, and mothers, at birth. Consider the RH factor, only understood in the early 1930s. We could go back to all home births with no medical intervention, but emotionally the toll a miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death is too great for most.
Jun
12
answered How do you deal with a spoiled niece?
Jun
12
comment How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
Pretty much, along with a technique that might be useful in teaching them not only that they won't get away with it, but if they continue to lawyer in the future then things will be harder than if they simply do the job expected of them.
Jun
12
answered How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
Jun
3
awarded  Yearling
Jun
3
answered How to handle unending questions that the child can answer themselves based on rules?
Jun
3
comment Are boys fussier than girls?
Note that you will observe a difference between the first and second child merely because he is the second. It is likely that when you had only one, that child received more attention without having to ask for it, while the second child will typically receive less attention than the first did at the same age, and may need to call for it more frequently. I would expect this effect to swamp any gender differences. That being said, each child is very different, and you will find people that say their first child, a girl, was more difficult than their second child, a boy.
Jun
3
answered My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care
May
28
comment Is it ok to microwave formula if I swirl the bottle and test the temperature afterwards?
For powdered formula, keep in mind that there is no damage done to the water when just heating the water prior to mixing, and mixing will certainly distribute the heat evenly. If you must use a microwave to heat your formula, then simply heat the water in the microwave prior to adding the formula. When you add the formula and mix it, you will have an evenly heated formula, and no damage from hot spots will have occurred to the nutrients.
May
15
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
@TomáÅ¡Kafka "Obey: to do what someone tells you to do or what a rule, law, etc., says you must do" You might decide your children do not need to obey your rules, or the laws of your society. Other parents may disagree with you and, believing that obedience is a good trait, this answer may be helpful to them. I hope you will respect their decision to raise obedient children without the implication that they are bad parents for choosing to encourage this trait.
Apr
29
answered How do I define 'rape' to an 8-year-old girl?
Apr
28
awarded  Editor
Apr
28
comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
@Shauna Thanks, fixed.
Apr
28
revised What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
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Apr
24
answered What type of tracking technology is practical for young children?
Apr
24
answered What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?