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comment Is non-professional homeschooling detrimental to children?
@rumtscho I've defined detrimental in the question, then dismissed it and asked instead "Have worse outcomes in life". Are you asking me to define what a successful adult is? I'd love some studies, but I'm guessing that long term studies of this are rare, so I've left the question open to personal experience as well. But there are a myriad of other long term studies that do try to correlate adult outcomes with childhood experiences and try to understand which experiences produce a better adult outcome, so I didn't expect I'd have to define what "worse outcome" meant.
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comment Is non-professional homeschooling detrimental to children?
@Joe I don't mind personal experience, and the title is intended to bring interested user to the question rather than pose the entire question. I feel the last sentence in the post is sufficient for my needs.
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asked Is non-professional homeschooling detrimental to children?
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comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
@anorton My understanding is that it is a belief layered over ones existing Christian faith, and does itself not call for the abuse of children. Perhaps understanding the level and rate of abuse and comparing it to child abuse within Christianity or other faiths would help us to understand if the quiver full movement itself was abusive. I've read some of these stories, and save for the differences of a large family it appears they could have been written about many fundamentalist households inside and outside Christianity. Perhaps if you linked to some official teachings that espouse abuse.
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comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
At any rate, I think there are parallels between what this parent wants to do and what the quiver full people are doing, and even if it's not a perfect example, it may still be useful and instructive to parents seeking to put their children in a bubble that the parent can closely filter and control, regardless of the purpose.
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comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
@jwg What human rights are these other parents denying their children? When I think of the quiver full people, I think of the duggar family, and it doesn't appear they are denying their children human rights, nor abusing them. The testimonies I've read don't suggest blatant abuse, just that those leaving that belief system felt restricted by their lack of exposure to the real world. In fact most of them seem to read more like conversion and normalization stories from an assumed future of servitude, not running away from an abusive past. Tho there must be some that would support your assertion.
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comment How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?
@jwg This parent is attempting to control all input and perform extreme filtering on views and perspectives their child will be exposed to in order to make sure the child grows up with a particular perspective and set of beliefs. Isn't this essentially the same thing? If so, why not label what this parent is doing as "basically abusive home environment" as well?
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
Wow, thanks for the bounty, @Beofett!
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comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
@Kevin I said, "that isn't necessarily the case." and your link to the definition shows that two of the three definitions do not require punishment, which backs up my assertion that discipline doesn't necessarily mean punishment. For instance, a person who shows a great deal of self-discipline need never be punished. Regardless, I hope that by reading my full answer my meaning and intent is clear.
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