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Husband of a wonderful woman who teaches me how to be a better father daily for our seven children, all boys.

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Dec
8
comment Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out
Yep. This is the first bird leaving the nest, so there's no established protocol, and on top of that all their social and family needs are met by those living at home. Once the other two leave I expect it'll change by itself, but until then the contact and fun you have with your parents and family will have to be induced by you. I'm sure you could just drop by for an evening, even unannounced, and hang out. That might be enough.
Nov
27
awarded  Nice Answer
Nov
26
comment Should we get her a doll?
Further reading: mamaot.com/2012/11/25/…
Nov
26
answered Should we get her a doll?
Oct
10
awarded  Nice Answer
Oct
8
comment Is there a benefit or harm in letting a 3 year old control her own bedtime routine?
I give my kids unstructured playtime between dinner and bedtime. Dinner is usually long (for a toddler!), and it gives them a bit of a break from having to sit still. I wonder if that's what you're trying to accomplish by giving her a choice to start the next step of the process? It may be better to split dinner apart completely and not consider it part of the bedtime routine.
Oct
8
answered Is there a benefit or harm in letting a 3 year old control her own bedtime routine?
Oct
8
answered Should I clean my newborn's umbilical cord stump or leave it be?
Oct
5
awarded  Yearling
Sep
4
answered 6 year old son gives money away (to parent, relatives, friends)
Jun
13
comment Is it preferable to have “sex talks” vs “all the time education”?
@user3143 I've read countless parenting books, talked with countless parents, and have my own experiences, so while I'd say my comment is reasonably well informed from a variety of sources, I simply don't have the time it would take to create the kind of great answer you appear to be seeking. However I hope my comment will help others, despite lack of citation.
Jun
13
comment In case of swallowed medicine, call poison control or 911?
I like this answer for the concrete information: If the patient is not responsive, or is having difficulty breathing, then 911 is necessary. They are in immediate danger. Otherwise, poison control can be used to help you determine the best course of action - but again, only if the person is currently responsive and breathing.
Jun
13
comment Is it preferable to have “sex talks” vs “all the time education”?
Both. There are aspects of human sexuality that won't come up in "natural conversation" that should be understood at points in their life. Further, the intimate and private nature of human sexuality lends itself to setting aside space and times to talk about it in a specific, directed manner to suggest that it isn't something to blurt out at inappropriate times. These needn't be long discussions, and one should certainly continue to discuss sexuality at other times as part of normal conversation. There is, however, no need to pit the two methods against each other. Use both as needed.
Jun
13
answered What are the signs that a baby is too hot?
Jun
13
comment Why do humans require assistance in childbirth so frequently?
Because we desire and seek for a very low level of infant mortality. Medical advances have drastically reduced infant, neonatal, and perinatal mortality to the point where it is an exception to have a stillbirth, or a child that dies near full term. Without active medical involvement during pregnancy and birth, we would be losing many more children, and mothers, at birth. Consider the RH factor, only understood in the early 1930s. We could go back to all home births with no medical intervention, but emotionally the toll a miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death is too great for most.
Jun
12
answered How do you deal with a spoiled niece?
Jun
12
comment How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
Pretty much, along with a technique that might be useful in teaching them not only that they won't get away with it, but if they continue to lawyer in the future then things will be harder than if they simply do the job expected of them.
Jun
12
answered How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
Jun
3
awarded  Yearling
Jun
3
answered How to handle unending questions that the child can answer themselves based on rules?