monsto

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I'm a 46 (hm had to check with the wife, yes i'm 46) year old father of 5 and I know i'm not a perfect parent. i've had a lot of practical experience. their ages are of a range where I can see that the lessons that I'm giving my 6yo today have had a positive, long term effect on the kid that became the 20 year old.

Sometimes I'm not necessarily agreeable. However, I will never be disrespectful. Opinions differ between people as much as people and kids differ. I believe that as long as we all remain aware of our differences, disagreements can be productive.

I have found that the things that worked the best with my children are consistency and having the courage to be the parent. That means that sometimes they don't like our decisions, but I can live with that because the goals are much more impacting than a kids instant total gratification and approval.

Whoever you are looking at my profile, you're reading (and hopefully posting) here because you care enough about your kid to seek information and perhaps improve your method. That drive for self-improvement will translate to your kid.

Congratulations and good luck.

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Feb 23	comment	What is the best way to respond if my child is picked on by other children? I wish you luck! I'm curious to know how it works out.
Jan 31	comment	Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him? "but to do best by him I need to prepare by learning what to look for and how / what to teach him." << Precisely. That's the challenge. But once you learn to ride that bike...
Jan 31	comment	When should we transition second child into first child's room? As a Major Dad (so to speak) I will just go ahead and tell you outright that your 'worry' is a corner case. At 3, it's an experiment on his part just to see what happens. nobody really knows the brain of a 3 yr old, but I say it's not a sign anything in the slightest. Since you've caught and dealt with it, I doubt you will see it again. 2ndarily, as an extra credit assignment, if you're telling us that your boys are named "A" and "B" then I can't help but wonder if the rest of your life is that sterile. How about some imagination? Al And Bill come to mind.
Jan 30	comment	How often should my wife breastfeed our newborn? Took my vote back. I don't think it's productive to dig out old posts. It's one thing if they're active, but when they've not seen any activity in so long, it's not really helpful to bring them back up.
Jan 30	comment	Avent manual breast pump problems Also, downvoting this post was just adding insult to injury.
Jan 30	comment	Avent manual breast pump problems What would be some options for StackEx sites he could post this? Also, it's been a while but i believe we had the same problem and it was dishwasher junk in the crevices breaking the seal. you might also search this forum on the diffs between manual and mechanical pumps. Long story short: they're more expensive, but are worth it for various reasons.
Jan 29	comment	Baby breastfeeds for only 5 mins before sleeping again what the heck... i keep getting suckered into these zombie posts.
Jan 29	comment	Is 5 Year Old Exhibiting Bullying Signs? I was digging around in the archives and came across this post here parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/3906/… . . . give it a read. It could probably help with some foundational understanding
Jan 29	comment	Baby breastfeeds for only 5 mins before sleeping again Welcome to the board! +1 for your last sentences. New parents especially get to surfing and feel like they're doing it wrong because of everyone elses highlighted euphorian anecdotes.
Jan 29	comment	How often should my wife breastfeed our newborn? +1 because you basically used a bunch of words to say "as much as they need it."
Jan 29	comment	How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian? Which brings up another point that i'll put into an answer...
Jan 29	comment	What is the best way to respond if my child is picked on by other children? Zero tolerance rules bug the crap out of me. If there's a bully/victim fight, zero tolerance means they get to claim some kind of victory even if they're the only one that believes it. The fact that a principle can hide behind a rule "we have a zero tolerance policy" absolves them from dealing with it and doing their job.
Jan 29	comment	How to get toddler to eat eggs? @mmr not so sure that's a shame (= Tasty breakfast is tasty.
Jan 29	comment	How to get toddler to eat eggs? It's nach-o ordinary egg. And it sounds pretty daggone tasty I'll tell you that much. I would think that the crepe-like served as part of a toast sandwich would be worth a try. Kids like playing with their food, and he seems willing to try it over and over, so he may be ok with it.
Jan 29	comment	How to get toddler to eat eggs? @DA01 Simply Brilliant.
Jan 29	comment	How to encourage toddler twins to share? Absolutely. Sharing isn't something that kids that age can really wrap their heads around. Demonstrations of desired behaviour from you, coupled with words and tone, will be effective.
Jan 28	comment	How to stop a baby of trying to reach things that he really wants? Put a tick for me in the "never worked" column. My current guests let their kid walk around with their iphones for craps sake and as a technophile, it drives me crazy. "he's gonna drop it on the floor and wander off, and one of MY kids is gonna step on the thing."
Jan 28	comment	Toys for a 1 year old I can't help but think that the recommendations to avoid media for children of this age group are exaggerated so as to purposefully overshoot the goal. IOW saying "please no media!" will encourage parents to limit it to a resonable amount. I'm not advocating jacking them in, but there's plenty of redeeming media for kids these age that isn't on Disney or Nick.
Jan 28	comment	Email and social media for pre-teens @JeffAtwood I'm back a year later (= Alcohol is controlled and taxed by the govt. an 11 yo logging on to facebook (at home) won't wrap the car around a tree. Reason I responded was because in May when my oldest turned 21, I took him up to a dive for his first legal drink. Condoning by complicity? Well, he was living on his own, paying for his own school, bought his own 2nd car. wtf do I have to say about a 20 yo bachelor buying beer? Nothing... Except "here's your birthday shot."
Jan 28	comment	How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage? Yea see that's ridic. Whenever I go to Christian Days (xmas, easter, etc) with the wiff, people know me and they say hi and they kind of slyly say "we've missed you!" but it's like walking thru Sears . . . nobody really bothers me about it. "Do unto others" right?