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Jan
24
answered How do you manage free time when you have kids?
Jan
23
comment Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?
I wanted to explain a bit, but didn't want to clutter up the original thought. at 27, you've been out in the world and on your own for at least a while. In a lot of famblies, 27/30 have a kid or 2 already. Would they expect you to sleep separate then?
Jan
23
answered Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?
Jan
23
comment Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom?
Be very careful about "the veto". . . you do have that option, but at 16 she's making decisions everyday without you and sometimes without even considering you. Might be hard to take, but there it is. Vetoing Affairs of the Heart (yay Rick Springfield) can cause huge downline problems. She may also be of the opinion "dude, it's just prom... i'm not getting married" and that making a big todo and say dinner with him and his parents might just be a bit "old fashioned" for the young adults.
Jan
23
comment Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?
@Beofett oops. I was responding to the response, but you're right... I should have gone upline further.
Jan
23
comment How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?
And then there's the fact that "I've done it before and I don't feel like doing it anymore"... after many yrs straight of toddler-age children, we're both pretty weary of the whole thing.
Jan
23
comment How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?
I suppose I could pull rank. "While you're living here, you will be required to listen to my advice on parenting. First..." Seriously tho, as I replied to DA01, I'm not personally in a position to do these things at the times they're needed most, but I know I could enlist the wife and probably my kids. And with all of us pitching in, we may be able to make an impression that will last beyond they're time with us.
Jan
23
revised How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?
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Jan
23
comment How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?
@smillig I think..."vast" might be a bit grandiose. But i've tried to do so without using so many words. The husband has said "i don't do well with subtlety" which I get (military and all) so those kind of indirect hilights (sometimes known as passive-aggressive statement) don't go anywhere... Which is the problem in general, that they're not very accepting of outside info.
Jan
23
comment How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?
@DA01 Unfortunately, I'm not in a social position to be able to do that. I'm working nights now, so when they put him down for the night, I'm typically napping just before work. I do however interact with him throughout the day. I play with him with his toys, roughhouse, stuff like that. maybe an hour a day. However, it is along the lines of what I was thinking last night after I made this post. The 11 (and maybe 7) yr old girl(s) would probably love to read him bedtime stories and help start a nighttime ritual. I'll mention it to the wife as well.
Jan
23
comment Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?
@Beofett she's 14on his phone plan. If she wants that kind of privacy, she should get a job and her own damn phone. Until then, like it. None of my teens ever bitched when I chastised them for smth I found on their phone... Probably because that sentiment was part of the understood, unspoken 'agreement' lol. Perhaps he shd have said "should she have a reasonable expectation that you may go digging in her phone?"
Jan
23
comment How do we get our toddler to gain weight?
I'd like to add a bit to what @corvus melori said... If you ped told you that she was a little light and could stand to gain a few pounds, and then offered nothing in the way of information on exactly how, then IMO it's time for a new ped. At the very least, you should have been given a link. A dietary handout sheet of some sort would have been better. Telling you there's a problem then not giving you info or options on how to take care of it is simply not cool.
Jan
23
asked How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?
Jan
23
comment How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian?
(contd) Realistically, tho, a 15 yr old isn't really equipped to deal with the repercussions which could feasibly be pretty drastic. Even life altering.
Jan
23
comment How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian?
It is not unrealistic to hope the parent will be accepting of their childs path in life, regardless of their age. It is unfair, however, to expect the child to be more concerned about the parents 'feelings' than about his own feelings about his current life path. It's a 2 way street and if the child is trying to be an adult, then the parent should try as well. Bottom line: this suggestion is simply honest. its always the best approach. If they cant accept it (note I didnt say LIKE) then that is on the parent along with any long term effects that theyll both have to deal with.
Nov
30
awarded  Student
Nov
30
answered Lost child contact card ideas needed
Nov
30
asked Need suggestions on how to deal with my 11yo in school
Nov
30
answered What should I do when my daughter's health is affected by the cats at my parents home when we visit?
Nov
30
comment What should I do when my daughter's health is affected by the cats at my parents home when we visit?
Not saying don't try it, but i'll bet the sheets/vacuuming has zero effect. The 4th law of aerodynamics says that you're not going to have enough suck to get deep enough to matter. Just sayin be prepared for that... so like have the healing salves and poultices avail in the morn.