monsto

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I'm a 46 (hm had to check with the wife, yes i'm 46) year old father of 5 and I know i'm not a perfect parent. i've had a lot of practical experience. their ages are of a range where I can see that the lessons that I'm giving my 6yo today have had a positive, long term effect on the kid that became the 20 year old.

Sometimes I'm not necessarily agreeable. However, I will never be disrespectful. Opinions differ between people as much as people and kids differ. I believe that as long as we all remain aware of our differences, disagreements can be productive.

I have found that the things that worked the best with my children are consistency and having the courage to be the parent. That means that sometimes they don't like our decisions, but I can live with that because the goals are much more impacting than a kids instant total gratification and approval.

Whoever you are looking at my profile, you're reading (and hopefully posting) here because you care enough about your kid to seek information and perhaps improve your method. That drive for self-improvement will translate to your kid.

Congratulations and good luck.

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Nov 28	answered	Kids and Cell Phones? What limits should be set along with giving the first phone?
Nov 28	comment	Are there any good suggestions for a soon to be mom about breastfeeding? I've answered part of this in another thread here: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/4442/…
Nov 28	answered	What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?
Nov 28	comment	How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister? Ah ok... well you can help with it by being an observant 3rd party. For example, at the baby shower, bring him a book or soemthing for himself. "just thought i'd bring this for you." . . . surely not required, but it'll help him not feel left out. Then again, he could be completely unphased by the entire thing!
Nov 28	answered	How do you encourage your primary-school-aged child to eat new foods?
Nov 28	answered	How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister?
Nov 28	comment	How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister? What ages are we talking about?
Nov 28	comment	What do we do when timeouts are not effective? @ChristineGordon you disagreed then agreed. To clarify, "not ineffective" is different from "effective" in terms of degrees of effectiveness. And then "small doses" and "short term" are similar. Point is that it may work today and now, a few times, but at some point you're going to have to come up with something else (because it loses it's impact over time).
Nov 28	comment	How do you say “not now”? @ChristineGordon If that's what works for you, great. With my almost 70 collective years of parenting, I've found this to work with my kids over a hand in the face. Besides... the last paragraph was humor.
Nov 2	answered	How Much Hallowe'en Candy?
Nov 2	answered	How can I prevent my 9 month old from eating anything and everything?
Nov 2	comment	Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? For larger people, of course. However, I challenge you to find a 3 yr old or even 7 yr old that they can multitask by facing you talking but thinking of something else. And that's the point of this technique: eliminating distraction and getting the point across . . . /to a 3 yr old./
Sep 22	awarded	Yearling
Jul 19	answered	How to deal with a child in an “I can't” phase?
May 24	comment	Is there any problem with same-sex siblings sharing a bedroom when there is an 8 year age gap? me = tardy. I don't get the "trying to find support" vibe at all from this question.
May 24	answered	Grey hair on a 14 month old baby
May 24	answered	Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
Apr 20	answered	How can I get my strong-willed daughter to stop being so lazy when it comes to chores?
Apr 20	comment	How can I get my strong-willed daughter to stop being so lazy when it comes to chores? Interesting thought on Oppositional Defiant Disorder and similar psychiatric illnesses: ( madinamerica.com/2012/02/… ). If I were the same child today that i was in the 70s, i would absolutely be diagnosed with a couple of these. But you know what? over time, i learned to deal with it without "better life thru chemistry" or a diagnosis and accomodation.
Apr 19	comment	At what age can you leave the child in the bathtub? Yeah, Mr Shiny's comment was basically to say you gotta live your life without being concerned that the next step could lead to your demise. I tend to agree. It's that frame of mind that leads to regret over random things that happen in life. Leaving the BR and the door/drawer was noone's fault. It just is what it is. sure, you work to minimize these events, which is the theme of the quesiton, but you can't be rid of "unsafety".