monsto

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I'm a 46 (hm had to check with the wife, yes i'm 46) year old father of 5 and I know i'm not a perfect parent. i've had a lot of practical experience. their ages are of a range where I can see that the lessons that I'm giving my 6yo today have had a positive, long term effect on the kid that became the 20 year old.

Sometimes I'm not necessarily agreeable. However, I will never be disrespectful. Opinions differ between people as much as people and kids differ. I believe that as long as we all remain aware of our differences, disagreements can be productive.

I have found that the things that worked the best with my children are consistency and having the courage to be the parent. That means that sometimes they don't like our decisions, but I can live with that because the goals are much more impacting than a kids instant total gratification and approval.

Whoever you are looking at my profile, you're reading (and hopefully posting) here because you care enough about your kid to seek information and perhaps improve your method. That drive for self-improvement will translate to your kid.

Congratulations and good luck.

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Jan 26	comment	How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage? In order to make up your mind, you need exposure. Religious exposure typically comes at the ages when the kids don't really understand it, would choose to sleep in, and would only go just to get the donuts.
Jan 26	comment	How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage? Why does the "church community" need to know anything about your husband? If he chooses not to go then why do they care? You know what... I was going to post this as an answer but then I realized that even if it's none of their business, if it's a 'conservative' enough area then they'll make it their business.
Jan 26	comment	How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage? I don't understand what one black parent and one latino parent has to do with Christianity... or wait... were you talking about a different kind of mixed marriage? (=
Jan 26	revised	What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor? edited body
Jan 26	awarded	Cleanup
Jan 26	revised	What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor? rolled back to a previous revision
Jan 26	awarded	Nice Question
Jan 25	awarded	Necromancer
Jan 25	comment	How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong? @GdD Actually, you're right but it's a different result... What any middle-class, first world citizen knows best know best is how hey were raised. Knowing what I didn't explain about how they wound up with us in the first place, assumptions of manipulation come straight from that.
Jan 24	answered	What is the best way to respond if my child is picked on by other children?
Jan 24	awarded	Talkative
Jan 24	comment	How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong? You're right, style or method is a lot of it. Thing is that he's not getting much of anything at the moment. Except getting hollered at for crying too long or not going back to sleep at 4 am.
Jan 24	comment	How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong? The point was that even jacking him in to mindless kid media would be better than what he's getting, which is nothing to very little.
Jan 24	comment	How do you manage free time when you have kids? (continued) When you stand up for yourself, one of 2 things will happen: either the relationship will get better or it will get worse. If it gets worse, it certainly won't be because you didn't try to make it better. But if you say nothing, it's guaranteed to get worse as these occasions pile up in a corner of your mind until the day you explode for something seemingly trivial.
Jan 24	comment	How do you manage free time when you have kids? I'm going to go the other way here, hate me if you want. . . but the example from 'tonight' is I think indicative of a one way relationship. I think what you need is less advice on the specifics and more individual self confidence. Stand up to her when you get dinged like that and tell her "Cut it out. I don't like it when you do that." Sounds like there are a lot of things in the relationship that need work, not just the babies and reality tv. I'm sure you know what they are and, like I was with my first wife, simply afraid to deal with them. (continued)
Jan 24	answered	How do you manage free time when you have kids?
Jan 23	comment	Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27? I wanted to explain a bit, but didn't want to clutter up the original thought. at 27, you've been out in the world and on your own for at least a while. In a lot of famblies, 27/30 have a kid or 2 already. Would they expect you to sleep separate then?
Jan 23	answered	Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?
Jan 23	comment	Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom? Be very careful about "the veto". . . you do have that option, but at 16 she's making decisions everyday without you and sometimes without even considering you. Might be hard to take, but there it is. Vetoing Affairs of the Heart (yay Rick Springfield) can cause huge downline problems. She may also be of the opinion "dude, it's just prom... i'm not getting married" and that making a big todo and say dinner with him and his parents might just be a bit "old fashioned" for the young adults.
Jan 23	comment	Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what? @Beofett oops. I was responding to the response, but you're right... I should have gone upline further.