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I'm a 46 (hm had to check with the wife, yes i'm 46) year old father of 5 and I know i'm not a perfect parent. i've had a lot of practical experience. their ages are of a range where I can see that the lessons that I'm giving my 6yo today have had a positive, long term effect on the kid that became the 20 year old.
Sometimes I'm not necessarily agreeable. However, I will never be disrespectful. Opinions differ between people as much as people and kids differ. I believe that as long as we all remain aware of our differences, disagreements can be productive.
I have found that the things that worked the best with my children are consistency and having the courage to be the parent. That means that sometimes they don't like our decisions, but I can live with that because the goals are much more impacting than a kids instant total gratification and approval.
Whoever you are looking at my profile, you're reading (and hopefully posting) here because you care enough about your kid to seek information and perhaps improve your method. That drive for self-improvement will translate to your kid.
Congratulations and good luck.
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Sep 24 |
answered | How can we prepare our child for the arrival of adopted siblings? |
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Sep 24 |
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How many toys are enough/ too much? Yeah we had to ditch the bandsaw. it was fun at first but i pretty much drew the line when he threw a tantrum cuz we wouldn't hang his mounted catfish that sang "all shook up." |
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Sep 24 |
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Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem? "single tantrum" is not what i said at all, not even near the spirit. My solution was based on a 2-3 yo where tantrums are a problem. the tantrum is noth more than a technique that guarantees the child getting what they want. they wouldn't be in that frame of mind if it wasn't a clear established pattern by then. which means the parent has been simply giving in and has really lost control of the relationship long ago. control the relationship, meaning be the parent be the boss, and the tantrums will stop. |
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Sep 23 |
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Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem? 23-83%... it's no indictment on you directly, but people -- even professionals -- throw out baseless stats like this all the time. was that a nationwide study? california? france? was it a 10 year study at NYU or was it 2 weeks of observation at the denver school for babysitting? and then a 60% range completely devalues the purpose of the stat. THAT BEING SAID i understand your point, that normal doesn't necc mean that it's common or even relevant. my point was that i don't believe it should be called 'normal' because there's too many external factors and stimulus that can set such behaviour. |
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Sep 23 |
answered | Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem? |
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Sep 23 |
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Sep 23 |
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Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem? what it says is that you have identified yet another general problem with society. it all cascades together: tantrums allowed @ 3, complete focus on getting exactly what is desired, degraded educational ambition (cuz school sucks), cant point to iraq on a map, and you can extrapolate from there. . . and yes i'm serious. |
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Sep 23 |
answered | How many toys are enough/ too much? |
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Sep 23 |
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How can I encourage my child to feed himself with a spoon? yeah . . . there were several things i said here that i realized i wasn't describing well. the whole thing should be a very close comforting process. it will be new to him, so you should be very close, talking in encouraging tones and kind making a game of it. then after showing, sit down RIGHT NEXT TO HIM, not the other side of the table, and do it yourself. eventually, you'll be able to move farther away and he'll do it without help. but again: time, effort, patience. |
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Sep 22 |
answered | How can I encourage my child to feed himself with a spoon? |
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Sep 22 |
answered | What do you do when your parents are physically hurting you? |
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Sep 22 |
awarded | Editor |
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Sep 22 |
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How can I help my child handle peer pressure regarding television? added 747 characters in body |
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Sep 22 |
awarded | Teacher |
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Sep 22 |
answered | How can I help my child handle peer pressure regarding television? |
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Sep 22 |
answered | How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us? |
