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May
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answered Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
Apr
20
answered How can I get my strong-willed daughter to stop being so lazy when it comes to chores?
Apr
20
comment How can I get my strong-willed daughter to stop being so lazy when it comes to chores?
Interesting thought on Oppositional Defiant Disorder and similar psychiatric illnesses: ( madinamerica.com/2012/02/… ). If I were the same child today that i was in the 70s, i would absolutely be diagnosed with a couple of these. But you know what? over time, i learned to deal with it without "better life thru chemistry" or a diagnosis and accomodation.
Apr
19
comment At what age can you leave the child in the bathtub?
Yeah, Mr Shiny's comment was basically to say you gotta live your life without being concerned that the next step could lead to your demise. I tend to agree. It's that frame of mind that leads to regret over random things that happen in life. Leaving the BR and the door/drawer was noone's fault. It just is what it is. sure, you work to minimize these events, which is the theme of the quesiton, but you can't be rid of "unsafety".
Apr
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revised How do we keep kindergartners entertained while camping?
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Apr
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revised How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?
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Apr
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answered How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?
Apr
16
answered Can we afford to have a baby?
Apr
16
comment How can I get renewed medical attention for my child's undiagnosed sickness?
One thing to consider: 2nd/3rd opinions should not stop until you have some kind of consensus. If you get that 4th opinion with a creative Dr that finds 'something', don't just sit on that diagnosis "i knew something was up." Take that diagnosis and bounce it off of a previous Dr and perhaps an additional Dr and see what they say. Last thing you need is a bad diagnosis that could make things worse. Do not fear a Dr getting pissy because you sought an additional opinion. No Dr worth their salt will begrudge you for that.
Apr
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answered Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?
Apr
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answered How much time is too much time playing educational computer games?
Apr
12
comment Is the “1 2 3 Magic” strategy for disciplining effective?
@tomjedrz i think your experience with your mom counting is not so much proof that it doesn't work 'as advertised" or "without tweak" so much as it's proof that somehow your mom "did it wrong" (whatever that may mean). with all 5 of my kids, i RARELY had to get to 2. "ONE" in a bold firm voice is all it takes and they stop straight away. I'll bet your mom was lenient with you in other ways that took the urgency out of 1-2-3.
Apr
11
answered Plane activities for little ones
Apr
11
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
Dude, clear and consistent parenting can't be said enough. It's the biggest problem that most parents have... saying somethign they don't mean.
Apr
11
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@tomjedrz ABSOLUTELY NEVER.
Apr
11
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
i went to Big Lots, bought 3x 4" tall glass vases and a buttload of colored glass beads. When my kids do something positive, they get a bead of their color dropped in their vase. when the vase gets filled, they get a special time with mom and dad... basically date night. Daily, I Drop Beads and talk about the POSITIVES. I do NOT drop when talking about the negatives. I NEVER TAKE from the vase, only NOT GIVE. It's a simple way to pile up good things and understand bad things with an easy way for them to keep track: look at the pile.
Apr
11
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
"Timeouts are like jail terms. He'll learn nothing, develop resentment against you..." is not necessarily true. People wouldn't use timeout method if it didn't work in some respect. Like jail and many other negative reinforcements, they are only effective in small doses. For people in n out of time-out (jail) constantly, it loses it's impact over time. That doesn't mean it's ineffective.
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Apr
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answered How do we keep kindergartners entertained while camping?
Mar
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comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
good points, all. However I'm not so sure that "steer away" is the accurate phrase. I didn't get the feeling that he's "done" with it, but chooses not to have it permeate his life to the level that his parents do. It's a subtle point in the grander scheme, but important. But to a more main point that you make "I'm not as into it as you guys are" (which is what seems to be the case) is a lot more palatable than "I reject it." Going to services on visiting w'ends and for major holidays doesn't seem to be a problem. Plenty of ppl that aren't "into it" do that and he'd be no different.