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comment How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?
@chris M Well i originally didn't write out the question that way, but i guess a moderator wrote it. I just wanted opinions on what people think about it my situation and whether or not i can do anything about feeling this way. I'm really not sure what i want as recognition. I think yeah i just want some sort of token of appreciation from my mom, even if no one else knows about it, like giving me a trinket or something for father's day. It sounds ridiculous now that i'm saying it though.
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Sep
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comment How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?
Yeah. I know i can do all of that. I do tell some people i'm "kind of" their dad. For all intents and purposes i am. I guess i just feel bad about not being recognized for it in a public setting. I think i just have to suck it up and just do my best and hope that once they are older they will look back on their childhood and remember me for doing what i did and realize that i was the "dad" for their childhood.
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comment How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?
Edit: character limit. Mostly i just wanted opinions and to know if anyone else was ever in a similar situation and what they were able to do about it. Or what someone would do if they were in the same situation.
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comment How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?
No, i haven't spoken to her about it. I get the feeling that she will tell me there is nothing i can do about it cause i'm not their dad. I don't know what it would take for me to feel recognized... they can't call me their dad because of family dynamics. I'm going to have to talk to her about it sometime because for kindergarten they have a father/daughter dance and a mother/son bowling. So will my sister going to miss out on that dance even though my mom takes my brother to bowling or will they both miss out on those events due to "fairness" is something that will have to be addressed.
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asked How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?