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I'm a husband, father, and mechanical engineer at Hewlett-Packard. I support:

  • Breast feeding
  • Cloth diapering
  • Cosleeping
  • Vaccination
  • Home/charter/private schooling
  • Non-physical dicipline

Sep
16
comment How can I help my child handle peer pressure regarding television?
@Beofett allow me to be clear. It's exposure to people, so it's good for learning how to interact. But as simply a random group of kids, it should rarely be a primary friend source. Even in a rural area, activity clubs can still flourish. If the social component of school is a significant part for someone, I would wager that person either was lucky to meet some exceptional people or isn't getting enough out of their education. As a caveat though, I'm very reclusive; quiet happily, my wife is my one friend and that aspect of my answer may not apply to all.
Sep
11
comment Controlled crying isn't working at night. What are my options?
Ask Baby has a description of controlled crying here. Seems similar to my understanding of the Ferber method (though, I confess, I didn't read the entire description).
Sep
9
comment How can I help my pre-schooler be more confident and assertive in competitive play situations?
I can't post a substantially good answer, but as an anecdote, I'm one of the most assertive people I've met and I'll tell you what my parents did. I was always taught to look out for myself above all others and that to me, I should be most important. I was told to be kind to people, but not at my own expense. I really think parenting with this philosophy, whatever the particulars, is how to get confident and assertive children.
Sep
8
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
@Ash Machine I think the confusion is the over-specific nature of the remark; there are not human non-mammals. I don't know if you're a native English speaker, but typically when a sub-set is used, the containing set is not explicitly mentioned.
Sep
7
comment Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?
@Beofett, I may have come off a bit strong too. It's really that this baby is 4 months old that got me going. That's far too young to let them CIO. The reason Ferber is fine is that you're letting the little one know you're there for them; they won't feel abandoned/neglected.
Sep
7
comment Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?
@Beofett, a fair reason to downvote. I didn't notice that particular piece. I don't think the Ferber method is bad at all; it isn't ignoring you child, as you point out.
Sep
7
comment Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?
I realize this will likely get quite a few downvotes. But doing this to a little baby is child abuse. While I wouldn't advocate doing it to older children either, I certainly can respect a difference of opinion there. I'm not dogmatic, but before you disagree, try to justify doing this to a pre-verbal child.
Sep
6
comment When do kids usually stop believing in Santa Claus?
I'm not personally familiar with any religions that claim their deity only exists if you believe. I'm sure some must exist, but if you look at the largest 5-6, which give you about 75-80% of people, that belief is absent to my knowledge.
Sep
4
comment Are netbooks appropriate for school age children?
@nGinius I never said I agree with this program; in fact I think such bribes are the sort of things parents should do. I simply disagree with rewarding poor performance.
Sep
4
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
I'm choosing this as my answer because it addresses all of my concerns. Your point about the literary treatment of these texts was eye opening and something I hadn't thought of before, as I do already dismiss them.
Sep
4
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
The comments aren't really appropriate for a theological discussion. If you wish to talk about it, contact me via gmail. If you can't see it on my profile, it's my first initial, "R", followed by my full name as it appears on this site "@gmail.com". My short answer to your question is that the universe that we see around us is incompatible with the existence of a god. Where I define god as a super-human, super-natural creator that exists outside the laws of our universe.
Sep
4
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
I'm an objectivist. I'm pro-science and pro-love, but interpret love very differently than most. I see it as profoundly selfish and selfishness as the highest virtue. If you're interested in more detail, rather than that shallow description, check out aynrand.org/site/PageServer?pagename=objectivism_intro for a more formal statement of the basic positions.
Sep
4
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
While this is a good idea in general and I'll +1 it, unfortunately my wife's and my philosophy is incompatible with the last three items; even to the point that those philosophies are considered bad. But we're unusual and your answer will be useful for most people.
Sep
4
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
I think he meant to treat them the same in that you shouldn't show preferential treatment to one over another, not saying they are the same.
Sep
3
comment Are netbooks appropriate for school age children?
-1 I don't think that there's anything wrong with rewarding hard work and success. Giving it only to children who aren't doing as well simply removes the incentive to work harder. Rewarding failure and punishing success is why many school systems let smart children stagnate.
Sep
3
comment When do kids usually stop believing in Santa Claus?
I really have to disagree with you in the strongest possible terms. The point of parenting is to raise children that can cope with and deal with reality. Something's existence is not conditional on anyone's belief and instilling that in a child is setting them up for disappointment and delusion.
Sep
3
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
@Marc Gravell, not to nitpick, but as a non-humanist atheist, I'd point out that many secular philosophies can be a boon, not only humanism.
Sep
3
comment Can you effectively influence the behavior of a 6 month old?
I suspect this may be beyond her understanding at this age, but it's a good question and I look forward to seeing some of the answers. This will be very applicable for me soon.
Sep
2
comment Should I monitor my child's internet usage?
I don't think logging is a good thing at any age unless you suspect something is very wrong. It's somewhat like reading a diary; needed in some cases, but not to be done without cause. I'd simply reduce the blocking as they are older.
Sep
1
comment Are ExerSaucers/walkers/jumpers bad for children or is that simply a misconception?
Do you or your wife have an opinion on the ExcerSaucer? It seems like it would suffer from some of the same problems as jumper.