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I'm a husband, father, and mechanical engineer at Hewlett-Packard. I support:

  • Breast feeding
  • Cloth diapering
  • Cosleeping
  • Vaccination
  • Home/charter/private schooling
  • Non-physical dicipline

Oct
2
comment Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
@ClarkGable I think that those statements, phrased as an imperative, are good. But if you claim they just happen without cause/effort, it will only breed apathy.
Oct
2
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy Well, for one thing, you're talking about physical truths in the comment, philosophical in the question. That said, I never claimed real truth doesn't exist, just that consensus has nothing to do with it. If you aren't a flat-earther simply because more people believe it's round, then yes, you're flying by the seat of your pants. I'm a 'rounder' because I understand gravitational coalescence and trigonometry (towers at diff. latitudes cast diff. length shadows). The Earth was no less round when people believed otherwise.
Oct
2
comment When should a child see Star Wars: A New Hope
As Sarato says, it's too specific in that you're asking about one title; at the same time, you don't list any criteria that are important to you.
Oct
2
comment Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
@ClarkGable I would argue it's bad to teach 'what goes around comes around'. Often it doesn't! By believing that it does, it breeds apathy toward seeing justice done; why bother working for justice if it just happens on its own? I'd actually argue that it's one of the most dangerous ideas to civilization!
Oct
1
comment Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
@ClarkGable I was rarely punished as a child; it was a last recourse when explaining the rules and talking failed. As a result, I understood why I was expected to behave a certain way, would request changes to things I felt were unreasonable, and would follow the rules without enforcement/monitoring about 95% of the time. Tell your kids why you don't want them to swear, listen if they have objections, and either relax the requirement or help them understand your point of view more and respectfully ask them to follow even if they don't agree.
Oct
1
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy In regard to "instilling only such things as have been universally established as truth throughout history", I would like to point out that consensus != truth. By way of example, virtually all philosophies teach that altruism is good but there are people who make a good case that it isn't; objectivists even claim it's evil. So I wouldn't think you'll find universally agreed upon 'truths' or that such agreement would even mean it is true.
Oct
1
comment Why is my newborn crying constantly?
My son had a bit of the same trouble. If your wife is a fan of dairy, she can try adding small amounts. Sometimes cheese, butter, yogurt, etc. are easier to digest than straight up milk. In my wife's case, she could eat small quantities of the above without issue.
Sep
21
comment How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?
I'm retracting my downvote after the edits.
Sep
21
comment How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?
@Beofett, I just didn't want you to think it had to do with our disagreement. This is a valid question but doesn't fit the FAQ guidelines.
Sep
21
comment How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?
Nothing personal, Beofett, but this seems like it has nothing to do with parenting and more to do with curbing personal behavior. Voting to close as off topic.
Sep
20
comment At what age is it safe to have toys in a baby's crib?
@Beofett You seem to be confusing unknown and unknowable. Suffocating on toys is not necessarily a known cause; it could happen and be attributed to SIDS (via rebreathing, for instance). There are plenty of things thought to be linked to SIDS (eg., a positional inability to draw breath) and simply naming them doesn't mean they aren't a cause of SIDS. A causual relationship is simply not known.
Sep
20
comment At what age is it safe to have toys in a baby's crib?
@Beofett Hence toys being in a different sentence in my comment and the use of 'potentially'. It's silly to claim that something with an unknown cause is unrelated to a specific activity. More so when that activity could bring about conditions that have a connection with it.
Sep
20
comment At what age is it safe to have toys in a baby's crib?
@Beofett read the source yourself. The second section talks about rebreathing theory (that they suffocate on CO2), stating that such a case is undetectable and therefore a SIDS diagnosis is correct. Toys could, potentially, be a rebreathing suffocation hazard.
Sep
19
comment How can I help my child handle peer pressure regarding television?
@Beofett, I agree with you and that's what I addressed in my last post (and even my answer). One needs to be civil and get on well with social peers, but my social club comments relate to friends directly.
Sep
16
comment How can I help my child handle peer pressure regarding television?
@Beofett allow me to be clear. It's exposure to people, so it's good for learning how to interact. But as simply a random group of kids, it should rarely be a primary friend source. Even in a rural area, activity clubs can still flourish. If the social component of school is a significant part for someone, I would wager that person either was lucky to meet some exceptional people or isn't getting enough out of their education. As a caveat though, I'm very reclusive; quiet happily, my wife is my one friend and that aspect of my answer may not apply to all.
Sep
11
comment Controlled crying isn't working at night. What are my options?
Ask Baby has a description of controlled crying here. Seems similar to my understanding of the Ferber method (though, I confess, I didn't read the entire description).
Sep
9
comment How can I help my pre-schooler be more confident and assertive in competitive play situations?
I can't post a substantially good answer, but as an anecdote, I'm one of the most assertive people I've met and I'll tell you what my parents did. I was always taught to look out for myself above all others and that to me, I should be most important. I was told to be kind to people, but not at my own expense. I really think parenting with this philosophy, whatever the particulars, is how to get confident and assertive children.
Sep
8
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
@Ash Machine I think the confusion is the over-specific nature of the remark; there are not human non-mammals. I don't know if you're a native English speaker, but typically when a sub-set is used, the containing set is not explicitly mentioned.
Sep
7
comment Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?
@Beofett, I may have come off a bit strong too. It's really that this baby is 4 months old that got me going. That's far too young to let them CIO. The reason Ferber is fine is that you're letting the little one know you're there for them; they won't feel abandoned/neglected.
Sep
7
comment Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?
@Beofett, a fair reason to downvote. I didn't notice that particular piece. I don't think the Ferber method is bad at all; it isn't ignoring you child, as you point out.