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I'm a husband, father, and mechanical engineer at Hewlett-Packard. I support:

  • Breast feeding
  • Cloth diapering
  • Cosleeping
  • Vaccination
  • Home/charter/private schooling
  • Non-physical dicipline

Feb
1
comment Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?
@Guillaume I don't know how new it is; my attitude on the subject comes from my mother and maternal grandmother. It's honestly not that much work; the trick is to be smart and try to anticipate their needs. It's easier to just head the problem off rather than trying to end crying fits. The extra work can be exhausting at times, but my wife and I are both very hard working and try to help each other. What's wrong with working hard to raise your children? Not everything in life is easy.
Dec
18
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
@Iterator Not actually devoted, myself, though I agree that many 'objectivists' seem to just hang on Ms. Rand's words like those of a religious figure. I happened to independently come to most of the same conclusions as she and I merely admire her formalization of the logic as well as the consistency of application of base principles to specific ideas. However, she was certainly wrong about homosexuals and I disagree with her lack of respect for romantic fidelity.
Dec
16
comment Reasoning vs “because I say so”
+1 I agree with you completely. I was never offered bribes and 90+% of the time, I had the reason explained to me at the time. I was told in advance that situations may arise where an explanation must wait until later and that if my parent insisted, just trust them and obey with the understanding that it will be explained as soon as it is safe/polite/etc.. My parents didn't abuse the 'tell you later' clause, had good reasons, and as a result, I willingly complied and rarely-to-never needed enforcement.
Dec
13
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
@Martha Sure, languages evolve but once a language is complex and subtle enough to work well, change should be fought to aid understanding across time. English and Greek are advanced enough to be frozen; this is exactly what dictionaries and reference grammars attempt to do. I consider altruism to be a moral imperative to place the good of others above one's own. Finally, I agree this is off topic, if you wish to continue, email may be more appropriate: My gmail is RWilliamGrobman.
Dec
13
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
@Martha Just look at the root of the word and the prefixal modifier; the rules of language, not history, prescribe meaning and even the person who coins a word can be wrong. However, I'm personally glad to be considered immoral and wicked by philosophies that consider faith and altruism virtues. I wouldn't object to applying those labels to myself with full context.
Dec
13
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
@Martha I'm a linguistic perscriptivist; no matter how many people misuse a word, they're still wrong. Agnosticism is essentially an expression of skepticism's epistemology as applied to a deity and it doesn't even begin to answer the question of whether someone believes a god exists. The latter criticism also applies to apatheism; dodging the question isn't an answer. Theism and atheism are binary states--you either believe or you don't (though it's possible to either change state often or be unsure of what you believe).
Dec
11
comment As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
While I completely disagree with your comparison of atheism to religion (the word really encapsulates both stronger positions and what you think agnosticism means; any lack of positive belief = atheism = without theism = without belief in god), I really like your point about the beliefs being less likely to mislead than a believer. However, your objection to my worry about indoctrination is contradicted by your point that "a charismatic individual" may try to indoctrinate them. If you edit for focus and clarity, you have my +1.
Oct
17
comment Are vitamin supplements necessary for newborns?
@MarieHendrix that's interesting! I'm sure you know what you're talking about. Personally, I thought it was odd that our pediatrician suggested all breast fed babied take iron from birth. Because of the 6mo depletion my wife and I'll make sure our son (5.5mo) keeps taking them then. +1 Good answer.
Oct
16
comment Are vitamin supplements necessary for newborns?
I've heard from numerous sources (doctor, books, websites, etc.) that breastfed babies require iron for a while too. Did you deliberately exclude this or have you not heard it before?
Oct
7
comment Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
@Kate you're mistaken that they'll understand the cause you want. While it's possible they may, at a young age, a child will likely see the cause as being caught. No one is arguing it won't curb the behavior; only that it won't teach them anything other than sneaking.
Oct
6
comment What are best practices for managing student-teacher relationships?
Lacking substantial enough input for an answer, a comment: Try to teach your children to be respectful of their teachers. As a tutor, the common thread among kids who did poorly is a negative view of their teacher leading to poor communication.
Oct
4
comment How often should my wife breastfeed our newborn?
@Christine Thanks for cleaning up my phone typing.
Oct
4
comment Are trace amounts of caffeine through breastmilk safe for babies?
It's a getting a bit long for comments; let us continue this discussion in chat
Oct
4
comment Are trace amounts of caffeine through breastmilk safe for babies?
+1 After the edit, I think this is a great answer and should get the bounty.
Oct
4
comment Are trace amounts of caffeine through breastmilk safe for babies?
Sorry if I offended; it wasn't deliberate. And sure the sugar will provide energy, but energy isn't a chemical stimulant. Other than a spike in blood sugar that trails off more quickly, eating an apple isn't any different than eating the same amount of calories from a different source. On another note, I downvoted because the answer didn't have much structure and seemed flippant; it also lacked any sources or clear reasoning.
Oct
4
comment Are trace amounts of caffeine through breastmilk safe for babies?
I just noticed that my last sentence in the previous comment is a somewhat rude figure of speech. Don't read anything into it; I really just meant it literally and wondered what your thoughts were. Sometimes concise writing can come off a bit harsh.
Oct
4
comment Are trace amounts of caffeine through breastmilk safe for babies?
I fail to see how an apple--mostly sugar and water--is in any way a substitute for a stimulant that can help with concentration. What were you thinking?
Oct
2
comment How can my toddler learn to stay under the blanket at night?
@BBM I did picture a normal, camping bag. I assumed they'd be indoors, but possibly on the floor. Honestly, they're so light it wouldn't be a problem on carpeting and would even likely be okay on hard floor with the bag as padding. Cultures are different and things that seem normal may be quite different in other places; those kooky Canadians get milk in bags, for goodness sake :) Actually, I think that varies by province too...
Oct
2
comment How can my toddler learn to stay under the blanket at night?
@Sarato Very interesting. It reminds me of Gerber gowns (tinyurl.com/3k4xsd3) but with heavier fabric and closed bottom.
Oct
2
comment How can my toddler learn to stay under the blanket at night?
is the placing of children/babies in sleeping bags common in Europe? In the USA it's normally crib/cosleeping-> small bed-> normal (twin) bed.