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I'm a husband, father, and mechanical engineer at Hewlett-Packard. I support:

  • Breast feeding
  • Cloth diapering
  • Cosleeping
  • Vaccination
  • Home/charter/private schooling
  • Non-physical dicipline

Sep
11
comment My toddler has started “lying”
My two year old has started too. When told "no" by one parent, he goes to the other and claims the first said "yes". Answers, please consider that this is actual lying at this age instead of saying it must be a mistake.
Aug
7
comment I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?
Your point of going to someone else is really good. It doesn't necessarily have to be parents, because of things I pointed out in my answer, but talking with someone is a good idea.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
I edited your question to use standard English. I tried to preserve the meaning of your question but I had to improvise at a couple of places. If I inadvertently changed the meaning, please edit it.
Jul
13
comment Baby always rolling over and ending up sleeping on his stomach, is it dangerous?
@deworde This is why SIDS advice always bothers me. If the cause is unknown, you can't claim that any particular condition that's merely correlated with a lower SIDS rate in a population will reduce the chances of a particular child dying. Also, you can't say SIDS is not suffocation; it could be atypical cases of all the ASSB variants they mention in your link that simple aren't identified properly. We simply don't know the cause; that doesn't mean that it's anything exotic.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
@aliya Kids are pretty resilient. If you can consistently be a better parent, time will likely be all it takes to improve the situation.
Sep
10
comment Kids Website, is it a good idea?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun I see the value of respecting their privacy. I had just never imagined someone posting that personal of an image in public. Thanks for explaining what tangable problems there can be.
Sep
10
comment Kids Website, is it a good idea?
I hear this vague worry about misuse of information often coupled with allusions to pedophiles being sleazy or advertisers poaching the photos. I honestly don't understand any concern with images of a child being online; I can see absolutely no risk to this whatsoever beyond taking your child to public spaces where others may view or photograph them. Could you please explain to me what you're worried might happen and how it would actually harm your child? I ask you because I have a lot of respect for your opinions and I can't simply dismiss this from you as irrational nonsense.
Sep
8
comment How can I help my 4 yr old adjust to junior kindergarten?
Is there a reason he has to start his year? If he's four, young for his age, has sensory processing difficulties, and still needs a nap it may be better to wait before enrolling him.
Sep
5
comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
I don't think it takes courage; just the desire to really be happy. Deluding oneself into thinking one is happy is worse than being unhappy. In neither case do you have true happiness and in one, you have to ignore rational thought, evade, and lie to yourself.
Sep
5
comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
Your overall post is good, but I'm very tempted to -1 for the generalizations of non-believers. I neither want to believe or disbelieve. I've simply seen the evidence and find all religions to be as obviously fictional as Superman, Lord of the Rings, or cargo cults. It's not a matter of rejecting any arguments, it's just critical thinking and evaluating the evidence. Since the false generalizations don't add anything to your answer, I'd remove them.
Sep
5
comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
+1 You have a very good way of looking at things. It's nice to hear a theist's perspective. As an atheist who values independence greatly, I can't image what it must be like for the parents. If my son grows up to be religious, I'd think it's unfortunate for him, but it's his business and I wouldn't care in the least. So it's very nice to hear how you would handle this challenge positively. Your kids are lucky to have such good support.
Sep
2
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
I'll change this to my accepted because it specifically answers exactly what I asked. I really look forward to looking into your info more deeply. I suspect that these methods work well, because looking back, I notice that this is basically what my dad did with me and I had developed rather impressive critical thinking skills by about five to six. Any ideas on what sort of practice is good for step four?
Aug
30
comment How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?
Depending on what you mean by scolding, it may not be possible. I certainly wouldn't advocate yelling or being mean, but a firm "No, we do not pull hair." may be considered scolding by some even though it's likely the right response. What do you consider scolding?
Aug
27
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
I agree that it's a complex issue and it may be beyond the scope of a single answer. As it stands though, your question doesn't say how any of the resources you provided are related to what I asked. Your answer may be fantastic, but I have no way of evaluating that.
Aug
25
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
+1 Excellent suggestion! I love this idea because it fundamentally challenges how I wanted to achieve this without requiring me to change my educational plans. I believe that this will make determining the transition age easier and likely help to teach my son the skills necessary in the first place. Assuming nothing better comes up, I'll accept this great answer.
Aug
25
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
This is an interesting answer. Could you make it a bit more specific though? Including which of Lectica's tests are relevant and a brief summary of how those books pertain to the issue would make the info more useful. As it stands, this just lists somethings you say are topical even if they look promising.
Aug
24
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
@DaveClarke I don't think all people reach these milestones; that's mainly why I offered them as an alternative measure to age.
Aug
24
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
I do not know those development stages by that name. If they are possible to measure or estimate at home (something you don't need a psychologist for) that would be acceptable. For instance, if it's as complex as IQ, that wouldn't be acceptable, but something like the hierarchy of needs would be. Basically it needs to be useful to me in determining when my child is ready.
Aug
18
comment How to teach children the difference between pets and vermin?
Your premise that she would be overrun with vermin if she wouldn't kill them is unrealistic for most locations. Live traps are certainly an option. That said, you probably can't do better than just explaining that they're dirty. It's factually accurate and is simple enough to be understood.
Feb
4
comment Bottle warmer with thermostat
FYI, it's a really simple thermodynamics and heat-transfer problem to calculate the final temperature of a substance given a known heat flux. Assuming you use the amount and temperature of milk listed in the directions and mix it well afterward, it should be accurate within a few degrees.