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I'm a husband, father, and mechanical engineer at Hewlett-Packard. I support:

  • Breast feeding
  • Cloth diapering
  • Cosleeping
  • Vaccination
  • Home/charter/private schooling
  • Non-physical dicipline

Sep
8
comment Is it better to separate twins in the kindergarden?
As an American, I'm rather surprised to hear about two year old children entering "kindergarten". At least where I'm from, that's for 5-6 year old children and 2-4 would be preschool. Could you clarify that this is what I would call preschool?
Aug
15
comment Will smoking weed during first week of being pregnant be harmful to my baby?
This is a good first post, but you could make it even better by citing some sources for your claims. Anyone can claim to be an authority, but even people who are familiar with a subject can err, so it's best to show your work.
Jun
7
comment Three year old able to poo in the toilet but still pees in his nappy
@JessicaBrown The dangling carrot is what you describe; carrot and stick does typically mean a stick as in a switch.
Jun
7
comment Do some baby's eyes produce water more than others?
Even in your new form the question was very open ended and essentially a poll of other people's experience. That format doesn't tend to work well on these Q/A sites so I edited it to ask a more concrete/closed-form question that has a right answer. If I didn't quite capture your specific question, please edit again.
Jun
7
comment 4 year old is wetting the bed a year after finishing potty training
Hello, Tiffany, and welcome to parenting.se! Answers that are substantially just a link are not ideal because it's hard to tell at a glance what they're about and the link may stop working in the future. You should summarize or quote a relevant portion of the article and include that too.
Jun
6
comment I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?
@kleineg I've known of it happening though.
Jun
3
comment How can I prevent diaper leaks with my newborn?
I don't think you should remove the link. Not only did I have to dig in to the edit history to check it out, but she disclosed it's her product and it's topical. If you really think the post is unacceptable, just delete it.
Jun
3
comment My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where “no presents” was specified on the invitation
Fantastic first post! I hope you stick around and keep providing such thoughtful answers.
Sep
11
comment My toddler has started “lying”
My two year old has started too. When told "no" by one parent, he goes to the other and claims the first said "yes". Answers, please consider that this is actual lying at this age instead of saying it must be a mistake.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
I edited your question to use standard English. I tried to preserve the meaning of your question but I had to improvise at a couple of places. If I inadvertently changed the meaning, please edit it.
Jul
13
comment Baby always rolling over and ending up sleeping on his stomach, is it dangerous?
@deworde This is why SIDS advice always bothers me. If the cause is unknown, you can't claim that any particular condition that's merely correlated with a lower SIDS rate in a population will reduce the chances of a particular child dying. Also, you can't say SIDS is not suffocation; it could be atypical cases of all the ASSB variants they mention in your link that simple aren't identified properly. We simply don't know the cause; that doesn't mean that it's anything exotic.
Jul
13
comment how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?
@aliya Kids are pretty resilient. If you can consistently be a better parent, time will likely be all it takes to improve the situation.
Sep
10
comment Kids Website, is it a good idea?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun I see the value of respecting their privacy. I had just never imagined someone posting that personal of an image in public. Thanks for explaining what tangable problems there can be.
Sep
10
comment Kids Website, is it a good idea?
I hear this vague worry about misuse of information often coupled with allusions to pedophiles being sleazy or advertisers poaching the photos. I honestly don't understand any concern with images of a child being online; I can see absolutely no risk to this whatsoever beyond taking your child to public spaces where others may view or photograph them. Could you please explain to me what you're worried might happen and how it would actually harm your child? I ask you because I have a lot of respect for your opinions and I can't simply dismiss this from you as irrational nonsense.
Sep
8
comment How can I help my 4 yr old adjust to junior kindergarten?
Is there a reason he has to start his year? If he's four, young for his age, has sensory processing difficulties, and still needs a nap it may be better to wait before enrolling him.
Sep
5
comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
I don't think it takes courage; just the desire to really be happy. Deluding oneself into thinking one is happy is worse than being unhappy. In neither case do you have true happiness and in one, you have to ignore rational thought, evade, and lie to yourself.
Sep
5
comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
Your overall post is good, but I'm very tempted to -1 for the generalizations of non-believers. I neither want to believe or disbelieve. I've simply seen the evidence and find all religions to be as obviously fictional as Superman, Lord of the Rings, or cargo cults. It's not a matter of rejecting any arguments, it's just critical thinking and evaluating the evidence. Since the false generalizations don't add anything to your answer, I'd remove them.
Sep
5
comment breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents
+1 You have a very good way of looking at things. It's nice to hear a theist's perspective. As an atheist who values independence greatly, I can't image what it must be like for the parents. If my son grows up to be religious, I'd think it's unfortunate for him, but it's his business and I wouldn't care in the least. So it's very nice to hear how you would handle this challenge positively. Your kids are lucky to have such good support.
Sep
2
comment At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?
I'll change this to my accepted because it specifically answers exactly what I asked. I really look forward to looking into your info more deeply. I suspect that these methods work well, because looking back, I notice that this is basically what my dad did with me and I had developed rather impressive critical thinking skills by about five to six. Any ideas on what sort of practice is good for step four?
Aug
30
comment How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?
Depending on what you mean by scolding, it may not be possible. I certainly wouldn't advocate yelling or being mean, but a firm "No, we do not pull hair." may be considered scolding by some even though it's likely the right response. What do you consider scolding?