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Lapsed Catholic. Luddite Geek. Shy Chatterbox. A mass of contradictions wrapped in an open enigma.

Some days, I really regret making http://stackoverflow.com/a/3638034/14250 a comm. wiki question. Then I get back to helping people solve problems rather than trying to help myself score rep. (Man, but 370 upvotes. Three. Hundred. And. Seventy.)


Jul
22
comment Video game addiction
+1: Great edit; the idea that you won't remember the playing with fondness is a really critical idea. I personally have the other feeling; I can remember beating incredibly difficult challenges with glee, but there are so many TV shows I wish I'd never spent the time on.
Jul
22
comment Video game addiction
-1: My issue with this answer is that you seem to regret the time spent, but the rest of your answer is fairly positive about the outcomes. I'd appreciate a little edit to say what it is you actually regret.
Jul
15
comment Long Car rides with teenagers
I love this question, but think it'd be better asked on boardgames.stackexchange.com, so I'm going to ask the mods to migrate it if possible.
Jul
3
comment How much time is too much time playing educational computer games?
Just a question, why is Knex a significantly higher quality tool for learning creativity than Minecraft? Why is a GI Joe a better tool for storytelling than a Lego game? Why is a game considered passive amusement, when they literally don't work without active engagement?
Jul
2
comment 5 yr old son behaving sexually
One question here is important and no-one seems to have covered, if he sleeps in the same room, will he have seen you and his father doing this kind of stuff? It seems obvious, but kids do imitate stuff, so if his dad has done this kind of thing, he'll see it as something "grown-ups do".
Jun
11
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
@SevenSidedDie My favourite was the one that gave a child some toys to play with, then put the TV on, and watched their behaviour. The control was not "some other distraction", but just not putting the TV on. Study's Conclusion: TV causes inattentiveness. Other potential conclusion: Kids can be distracted.
Jun
9
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
+1: This is really important. If you want your child to respect your opinion about games, they have to believe you know what you're talking about.
Jun
9
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
-1: Looking around, I see an awful lot of successful game players over the years, and a lot of conflicting studies that mirror the same ones they applied to books, radio, TV and the automobile, generally blown out of proportion by the papers.
Jun
5
comment How long did it take your baby to like daycare?
+100. My 2 year old is currently performing Masterpiece Theatre every morning: "We're going to nursery, yaaaay!" and then when we get to the door "No Daddy, NOOOOOO WAAAAH". One suggestion is to ask the nursery to take some pictures of her throughout a day to see her normal behaviour when you're not there as an audience.
May
6
comment Unusual crying behavior
-1: Baby is breast fed, so this doesn't really apply.
May
6
comment How do I deal with my mother who is not supporting me, probably because of her grandchild?
@Joe There are several answers in the archive to questions of this nature. This is about a parent's relationship with their child, I think it's on the valid side of borderline.
Apr
25
comment At which age does it make sense to see a professional when suspecting Asperger?
@barbaz I understand your hesitation, but that's a professional child psychologist's job, to tell you what's conspicuous. Go see them.
Apr
22
comment My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?
+1 for timeout is not a punishment. Easy to forget this.
Apr
15
comment How to help my wife cope w/ being a stay-at-home mom
Just a note: Running is not free. Running has a time cost associated with it, specifically because you can't do it with a 4 year old tagging along. If your wife is going to start an achievable exercise program, she'll need your support in terms of the time to go out. Given that this will normally be at the end of the day when she's at her lowest ebb, it's worth being aware of. If you can schedule around this though, it's a great idea.
Apr
1
comment How often should I defeat my children in games?
@Jax: Agreed, suggested an edit, as seriously, got to the quote and was just confused.
Mar
28
comment How do I define 'rape' to an 8-year-old girl?
@MaulikV Okay, but I'd be cautious, as "forcefully embracing" implies a bear hug to me, which isn't the same thing.
Mar
21
comment How do we stop our daughter rolling over and waking herself up?
Between the No Cry and eventually limited CIO (our adorable little bundle of impulses has a will of iron and the manipulation skills of a lil' blonde Lex Luthor), this answer worked best for us. It's a good idea to start with No Cry and then move to CIO once you've tried that, especially as you can do No Cry far earlier. Bottom line; systems help.
Mar
21
comment Is it OK for my children to eat solely carbs and fruit, which is what they want
+1 for the "random string bean" anecdote.
Mar
19
comment Should we put our baby in a helmet to mold her head?
@Imsurprenant How'd it go?
Mar
14
comment How can parents avoid making decisions based on nostalgia?
I get very cynical about articles like this: "I remember the good old days, when we wrestled that little kid with the glasses to the ground and pretended we'd gouge out his eyes with a knife, and the teacher didn't interfere. Happier, happier days." Always remember that "research professor of psychology at Boston College" is a successful product of his system. The kids who the system failed don't generally get columns in the Independent.