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Lapsed Catholic. Luddite Geek. Shy Chatterbox. A mass of contradictions wrapped in an open enigma.

Some days, I really regret making http://stackoverflow.com/a/3638034/14250 a comm. wiki question. Then I get back to helping people solve problems rather than trying to help myself score rep. (Man, but 370 upvotes. Three. Hundred. And. Seventy.)


Oct
27
comment My 2 years old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?
I think it's exactly that. The number of times I'm now told by my 2-year old daughter "just a sec daddy, just need to finish!" is hilarious and slightly troubling.
Oct
9
comment Caring for the Children of Deceased Parents
@anongoodnurse I agree with the principal, but in practical terms, if you're asking someone to care for 5 additional kids, that's a colossal burden to put on someone, special needs or no special needs. That's a "move house, give up full-time job, completely rewrite entire life" change, in a way that just one child isn't. Seperation may be the only viable option over outright rejection,l
Sep
25
comment How often is it okay for a kid to become ill in kindergarten?
@AntonZujev You're welcome. Sorry if I sounded critical, this is one of those borderline cases, where the gap between "Parental" and "Medical" advice is a bit woolly, and I wanted to make sure I explained my close vote.
Sep
24
comment How to deal with the toddler who is not least interested in listening to the stories I read or listening to my talks?
I agree with all your points except the "identification" paragraph. I think that's a slight underestimate; my daughter was identifying animals on the page earlier than 15 months. I think identification of self is actually a later developmental stage than identification of images as representations of things. Your final paragraph is great advice.
Sep
24
comment How to deal with the toddler who is not least interested in listening to the stories I read or listening to my talks?
@Joe: Agreed, fixed. Getting an outside opinion was the key point, for exactly the reason you state, but I couldn't think of the correct person to go to (in the UK you'd go to your local GP).
Sep
24
comment How often is it okay for a kid to become ill in kindergarten?
parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/626/…
Sep
24
comment How often is it okay for a kid to become ill in kindergarten?
I think this is kind of a medical question, and thus out of scope for the site. You have concerns about your child's health, DOCTOR, not internet Q&A site. Your child may have been cuddling the other kids when they sneeze, or they may have a serious immune system issue. I personally would be reluctant to diagnose between these based on a StackExchange post.
Sep
10
comment How important is a settled/repeatable routine for a 1 month old
@EoinCampbell How's the mum?
Sep
1
comment How can we ask our 22-year-old son to leave?
+1 for cancelling the "funding".
Aug
28
comment My daughter is 15 and in love with a girl that is 19 what should i do?
Specifically, what are your feelings, what do you want to do, what do you want out of it? Is this about grandkids, religion, age differences, the actual girl in question, how the rest of your family will feel? There's a lot we could cover, but more information will allow us to help better.
Jul
22
comment Video game addiction
+1: Great edit; the idea that you won't remember the playing with fondness is a really critical idea. I personally have the other feeling; I can remember beating incredibly difficult challenges with glee, but there are so many TV shows I wish I'd never spent the time on.
Jul
22
comment Video game addiction
-1: My issue with this answer is that you seem to regret the time spent, but the rest of your answer is fairly positive about the outcomes. I'd appreciate a little edit to say what it is you actually regret.
Jul
15
comment Long Car rides with teenagers
I love this question, but think it'd be better asked on boardgames.stackexchange.com, so I'm going to ask the mods to migrate it if possible.
Jul
3
comment How much time is too much time playing educational computer games?
Just a question, why is Knex a significantly higher quality tool for learning creativity than Minecraft? Why is a GI Joe a better tool for storytelling than a Lego game? Why is a game considered passive amusement, when they literally don't work without active engagement?
Jul
2
comment 5 yr old son behaving sexually
One question here is important and no-one seems to have covered, if he sleeps in the same room, will he have seen you and his father doing this kind of stuff? It seems obvious, but kids do imitate stuff, so if his dad has done this kind of thing, he'll see it as something "grown-ups do".
Jun
11
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
@SevenSidedDie My favourite was the one that gave a child some toys to play with, then put the TV on, and watched their behaviour. The control was not "some other distraction", but just not putting the TV on. Study's Conclusion: TV causes inattentiveness. Other potential conclusion: Kids can be distracted.
Jun
9
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
+1: This is really important. If you want your child to respect your opinion about games, they have to believe you know what you're talking about.
Jun
9
comment Enocurage or discourage playing video games to 4+ year old son
-1: Looking around, I see an awful lot of successful game players over the years, and a lot of conflicting studies that mirror the same ones they applied to books, radio, TV and the automobile, generally blown out of proportion by the papers.
Jun
5
comment How long did it take your baby to like daycare?
+100. My 2 year old is currently performing Masterpiece Theatre every morning: "We're going to nursery, yaaaay!" and then when we get to the door "No Daddy, NOOOOOO WAAAAH". One suggestion is to ask the nursery to take some pictures of her throughout a day to see her normal behaviour when you're not there as an audience.
May
6
comment Unusual crying behavior
-1: Baby is breast fed, so this doesn't really apply.