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Jun
16
comment How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
+100 for "my problem". It's not unfair to ask people for help with your problems, but at the end of the day, your problems are not theirs.
Jun
2
comment Is there a downside to giving a preschooler band-aids when he doesn't really need them?
+1: if only for confirmation that this is not just our problem.
Apr
30
comment Should Disney princess movies be avoided?
Interesting. I actually take more issue with Princess and the Frog than any of the others. It's the only one with the central message "no matter how hard you work, you gotta find a man, honey". And by central message, I mean, literally the middle song is "don't work hard, get married".
Apr
29
comment Can children be educated without a family by professionals?
I think this is an interesting hypothetical (if well trodden ground, as this is Plato's idea of family rearing), and I'm not sure if it's subjective, as there is research and thought experiments on this stretching 2,000+ years. However, I'm not sure if it's useful to the community, in the same way as "What are alternatives to using computers" is not a long-term helpful question on superuser. I'd suggest this would go better at WorldBuilding or possibly philosophy?
Mar
31
comment When is corporal punishment abuse, really?
What's always interesting to me is where does this end? If you believe that pain is an acceptable, why is hitting your spouse considered wrong as long as it is also "delivered in a loving way"? Why is it not okay for someone to knock down and kick someone who queue jumps? In essence, why is it only okay when it's a child? Maybe it's just my need for simplicity, but I'd really have a hard time justifying to my daughter that it's not okay for her to push another child, but it's fine for me to hold her down and hit her.
Mar
10
comment How to get 4 year old to stick up for himself but not turn into a bully?
@anongoodnurse I've tweaked the question slightly to make it look more like an answer than a question. Kippie, if you don't like the edit, feel free to revert or edit further.
Mar
10
comment How to get 4 year old to stick up for himself but not turn into a bully?
+1: Great answer. A good line in this situation: "I know your boy's only little, but I can't really just sit here and watch my son get hit, he doesn't like it." There's not really a valid comeback to this.
Mar
6
comment How can I decide whether to continue studying or become a stay-at-home mother?
Note, that link is absolutely amazing, really interesting ideas and really well written. Definitely worth a look.
Mar
4
comment How can I decide whether to continue studying or become a stay-at-home mother?
I think this answer could be improved by what influenced you to be a stay-at-home dad. Clearly, Anon's having doubts that you didn't, how did you cope with the issues that she's facing?
Feb
18
comment What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?
@Danililoko Sure, but that's technically true of all parenting. You can't stop him getting high, stealing a car and running over the neighbour's dog, but you can do your best not to get Fido killed.
Feb
13
comment How do I dissuade my three-year-old from saying he doesn't like a parent?
@anongoodnurse "Working as a team" is synonymous in this case with "emphatic united front". The symptoms they've focused on seemed on the normal end of that spectrum, though. "I don't like you" and pushing you away would be abusive if it was done between adults. If I got a comment or an edit from the OP saying "He's doing <really bad thing>", that would be different, but "doesn't like, want, or love the parent, and commands the parent to go away", is exactly the normal behaviour that link refers to.
Jan
5
comment 1 Year Old Wakes Up Screaming Multiple Times A Night
+1 For "I am become Death", once heard, never forgotten. Wait till you actually tend to their demands and they immediately switch it off; you will never trust them again.
Dec
18
comment Why are women taught to relax as much as possible during childbirth?
@Jax Listen, the last time I'm telling my wife to relax is when she's heavily armed.
Dec
18
comment Why are women taught to relax as much as possible during childbirth?
@anongoodnurse Agreed, added. (To be honest, most of this advice is the same that you get in gym class when you get a stitch, but I agree that some references are needed).
Dec
2
comment Which way is correct to keep your kids on the right path: love or strict discipline?
@looser: I'd suggest checking out this question, which covers very similar ground parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/399/…
Dec
1
comment Which way is correct to keep your kids on the right path: love or strict discipline?
I was also tempted to close, but based on duplicate. I'm sure we had very similar questions on the site already: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/399/… for example. I'm not sure this is any more non-question than "Is punishment necessary", but it may be the same question.
Nov
26
comment My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't
-1: I don't feel like her desperately trying to have a child while you pretend that you can still have them is a good relationship plan. If her complaint was just about having to be the responsible one, this would be a good answer.
Nov
24
comment Why don't my twins sleep for a longer stretch of time?
This seems like a duplicate of... well pretty much every question under the sleep tag. parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/tagged/sleep
Oct
27
comment My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?
I think it's exactly that. The number of times I'm now told by my 2-year old daughter "just a sec daddy, just need to finish!" is hilarious and slightly troubling.
Oct
9
comment Caring for the Children of Deceased Parents
@anongoodnurse I agree with the principal, but in practical terms, if you're asking someone to care for 5 additional kids, that's a colossal burden to put on someone, special needs or no special needs. That's a "move house, give up full-time job, completely rewrite entire life" change, in a way that just one child isn't. Seperation may be the only viable option over outright rejection,l