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Jan
9
comment My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
@Facebook Answers - cigarette burns are another example of abuse. Everyone would agree that cigarette burns are abusive, and most peoe would agree that involving child protection social services is appropriate. I'm not sure why you felt the need to make such a useless comment. The existence of one form of horrific abuse doesn't reduce the abusivness of other acts. Using your own weird logic someone with cig burns can't complain too much because there are people with cigarette burns and coat hanger whip welts.
Jan
9
comment My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
Perhaps it's a cultural thing, but smacking is illegal in most of Europe precisely because it is an abuse of the child's human rights. Smacking is abuse. Smacking is a clear sign that a parent has lost control of the situation. Smacking sends conflicting information to the child. Smacking is bad parenting. People who smack their children are bad, abusive, parents.
Jan
9
comment When to transition to letting the baby fall asleep on its own? Is my baby ready for sleep training?
PD - Put down to sleep. PU picked up to cuddle.
Dec
27
comment Should I tell my 11-year-old daughter that Santa isn't real?
"If your child really does still believe in Santa, It might be more helpful to say something like, "Part of being a kid that stays on the 'good' list includes being grateful for what one is given."" - and this can be said even if the child obviously doesn't believe in Santa.
Dec
27
comment My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
@moomoochoo - I don't know why. Smacking a child is an act of violence. There is no need for violence when disciplining a child. See Article 19 here- unicef.org/crc/files/Protection_list.pdf The US and Somalia are the only countries not to have ratified this yet. "States Parties shall take all appropriate legislative, administrative, social and educational measures to protect the child from all forms of physical or mental violence, [...]"
Dec
4
comment My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
@FacebookAnswers - it is horrific. That Nanny risked the child's place at nursery. Smacking is a violation of the child's human rights. It is inhuman and degrading treatment. In the UK smacking is illegal if it leaves a mark. This woman is not the parent, and she risks a charge of assault unless she can show that she had parental responsibility and that the punishment was justified. The UK has weaker laws than most of the rest of Europe where smacking is illegal. Smacking is poor parenting.
Nov
22
comment How do I talk to my child about homelessness and mental illness?
This is a good answer. It manages to condense a complex topic into something suitable for discussion with a child, without stigmatising mental illness or homeless people.
Nov
2
comment How can I stop my toddler from having nightmares about robots?
This is an excellent answer - very very gently confront the fears, taking it step by step, and asking the child how they feel and why they feel that, and providing different evidence. This is a thing to do for children, and will build "resilience" and confidence.
Jul
24
comment Calming Baby after bath
Have you tried a swaddling wrap when taking babba out of bath?
Nov
14
comment What are important legal and financial steps for new parents?
a tricky question; in England you must "register the birth" within 42 days, by law.
Oct
3
comment Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
+1 for your last paragraph about hot-saucing being on the cruel and unusual end. I wish you'd avoided mention of spanking though.
Sep
25
comment Why is my newborn crying constantly?
Excellent photo!!
Sep
24
comment What do you do when your parents are physically hurting you?
@monsto - it's easy for me to say "must". It's much harder for people in that situation to do it. And who am I to force my opinion on another person, without knowing their life?
Sep
24
comment How can we prepare our child for the arrival of adopted siblings?
+1 great question. Have you got advice from the adoption 'agency'? I'd be really interested to hear the answer.
Sep
23
comment What should parents consider when selecting a pacifier?
Also, could some babies be allergic to latex?
Sep
16
comment Are glass baby food jars safe to reuse?
Also hot-water or steam sterilising is probably not a good idea.
Sep
15
comment Is this diaper rash caused by starting on solids?
Nappy rash can be caused by teething, so maybe that's part of the cause?
Sep
15
comment Is there any scientific evidence in favor of co-sleeping with children?
This is an excellent question, and it's a shame that there's not really a decent answer linking to quality studies.
Sep
15
comment How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?
The UK is now recommending against any flavour other than mint (usually mild) to prevent problems when a child has to move to an adult toothpaste, which are almost all mint.
Sep
15
comment Is this diaper rash caused by starting on solids?
Is the child teething?