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May
15
comment Child suddenly saying things like I'm not his friend
My child has picked up some weird things from playschool. Pink is his favourite colour but he recently told me that "pink is a girl's colour". Luckily I showed him my pink iPhone case and watering jug and persuaded him that anyone can like anycoloyr they want. He has also picked up so weird "telling off" behaviour which made me sad. He is copying what other children are saying, and they are copying what their parents are saying. I ignore the bits I don't like; refute with examples the wrong stuff; and praise the good bits.
May
12
comment How can I tell if my son is big enough for a car booster seat?
You also want to make sure child is tall enough that sealt belt goes over should correctly - maybe this is the diagram you are thinking of?
May
12
comment How can I tell if my son is big enough for a car booster seat?
A seatbelt has to be long enough to reach around the child and all the booster seat and then to the anchor. Some seatbelts are not long enough so an extender is needed.
May
10
comment My 2 year old doesnt want to sleep through. drinks 5-7 bottles per night
Ask a doctor to check for diabetes.
May
2
comment 20 month old boy quit staying in his bed at bedtime
What happens if you leave his door open? Also, you are playing a game with him. Stop that.
May
1
comment Adult social media etiquette
It's great that she asked you for advice! That must be reassuring.
May
1
comment Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying
2.5 months of grounding is a hopeless punishment. Removing a cell phone for 25 minites will have the same effect as removig the phone for a day.
Apr
29
comment How can I stop my 5 year's violent tantrums?
What counselling? Is it with a registered professional?
Apr
26
comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
People die from hot tap water. People need skin grafts because of burns caused by hot tap water. The reason you might not have been burnt is because CDC and other national standards bodies set max water temp from taps to be something that will scald after minutes, not instantly. Since this site is mostly about children we need to remember to keep the temperature lower because thin skin means they burn quicker and small body size means a greater percentage of their body will be burnt.
Apr
23
comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
@aaronm - the CDC says that temperature of water doesn't make much difference for bacteria removal. Scallds and burns hospitalise 300 children per day (over 100,000 people per year) and kills two children per day (over 700 children per year) in the US. Compare that to legionella, which hospitalises maybe 18,000 people per year with a 5 to 30% death rate.
Apr
18
comment When changing diapers, how soon should we put the new diaper on?
Baby powder should be avoided because it clogs modern nappies and stops them from working as well as they could.
Apr
18
comment I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?
A few people die of over hydration while on ecstasy. In the UK more people die from over hydration the under hydration.
Apr
13
comment How to get a new born to sleep?
How old is the child? Try swaddling, but pay attention to all the safety tips.
Apr
13
comment How do I teach a younger child to wait, or earn, future reward?
3 year olds probably lack the cognition to think about time as a concept. Try asking what the child has done today or yesterday and you'll see confused answers. Putting a child under about 12 years old on a step for 5 miniutes will have the same impact as making them wait for 30 minutes. Taking an older child's phone away for 30 minites is as effective as takin it away for a day (in terms of punishment).
Apr
10
comment Why are there so many snaps on infant clothes?
Tip: do up the snaps around the bottom before putting the garment on the child. Open the snaps on the neck. Stretch the nexk of the garment over the legs and up the body. This is easier and nicer than going over the head.
Mar
30
comment How can we confront our pediatrician about not washing his hands?
If you're in England please do report all instances you see of people touching a patient without washing their hands first. You're not making "an official complaint" and you're not saying that the clinician didn't wash their hands. You're just making a comment to say that you did not see the clinician washing their hands.
Mar
10
comment How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
Can you honestly not see a difference between wearing a short skirt and drinking alcohol? By taking a hard line on an extremist position this parent is risking losing the ability to discuss anything more serious, like alcohol, with their daughter.
Mar
9
comment How can I get my toddler to drink more water?
Have you tried a variety of different cups? Like, different colours and straws and etc?
Mar
9
comment How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
Do you realise that you have an extremist position about skirt length and that your daughter is behaving in a completely normal manner? You want her to do something that her friends do not do, and the only reason you can give her is "because I said so". The reason most people have a "below the knee" rule is so that they can negotiate to a shorter but acceptable length. You might not like the 'finger tip length" rule, but it's better than what she's wearing now and there's some chance of her obeying that rule.
Mar
9
comment Encouraging a 3-year-old's interest in minibeasts
Ant farm? Worm farm?