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Jun
5
comment How do I convince an elementary schooler to always tuck his shirts/tshirts into his pants?
Put a post near the trousers. Have an image of trousers tucked in with a big tick. Have an image of trousers untucked with a big cross. PS: StackExchange is international and many people have no idea what "elementary school" is. Please will you add actual numbers for ages? 13-15 or under-10 or whatever is much more useful.
Jun
4
comment How should I teach my son to play video games?
No screens before two, and less than two hours per day after that - m.psychologytoday.com/blog/mental-wealth/201310/… i suspect a four year old is not going to enjoy most games until they have the hand eye coordination. For most children this is going to be older than four. I am not sure how much they are going to enjoy the competition. So, age appropriate games, or set your own goals in games.
Jun
3
comment How long did it take your baby to like daycare?
I agree. It is really hard for the parent! Daycare may let you sneak in a bit early at the end of the day to watch your child playing happily. Seperation anxiety is a sign of a good strong bond with the parent. Good luck.
Jun
3
comment What are the effective durations of punishment at various ages?
Removing a teenager's mobile phone for 30 minutes is more effective than removing it for a day or a week. This is currently taught in Webster Stratton courses.
May
28
comment Is this strange behavior for a 5-year-old?
Children learn through talking. The old building is a great opportunity to broaden vocab and to introduce imagination - "old, dusty, ramshackle, tumbledown, derelict"; "who do you think used to love there? What did they do? Where did they go and why?". Coffee is a great opportunity to talk about planning "i have the coffee, what else do I need?" And processes "i put the coffee in here, then what happens?". Children really love talking a lot.
May
24
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
How old are the children? How cold is cold? Safe temperatures are 16 celcius to 20 celcius. If the room is colder than that you need to increase the temperature of the room to avoid illness. If the room is in that range the children will self regulate their temperature by removing or adding clothes. You could use infant sleeping bags (if they're small enough), or you could learn to tuck blankets around the mattress.
May
23
comment Paternity Leave, How much does the Father need to be home?
If she needs a c-section you're going to have to do a lot of support.
May
23
comment How can I deal with no-socks situation at night?
I have no idea what you mean by "reasonably cold". 16 Celcius to 20 Celcius are safe temperatures for a child's room. They will regulate their temperature by removing clothes are trying to rearrange blankets.
May
22
comment At what age can a child learn to use scissors?
The choking hazard is the entire thing. Choking hazard is assessed as any part of a toy that can reach a certain distance through a specifically sized hole. So in real life there is little risk of choking with those scissors (especially under supervision) it meets the technical definition.
May
21
comment Are there any health risks in earbuds for pre-teen children?
You do not mention loudness apart from "not overly loud". That should be "as loud as a spoken conversation, and not much louder". Hearing loss from headphone use is totally avoidable - quiet music and short sessions.
May
21
comment How do you correct slang or other improper grammar in a pre-schooler?
Sometimes slang is useful. Teaching children to say "ta!" Is much easier than teaching them to say "Thank you!" Letting them know that you thank people is useful and you can move onto 'thank you' a bit later.
May
21
comment How do you correct slang or other improper grammar in a pre-schooler?
I agree with this. A calm, quiet, consistant "I'm sorry, I don't understand what you are saying. Do you mean 'yes' or do you mean 'no'?" Usually gets results, especially if used over time.
May
20
comment Strategies for getting toddler to eat more iron
Serve a small portion of orange juice with dark green leafy vegetables. The vitamin c and the acid help the iron get absorbed. (Or squeeze a bit of lemon juice over spinach).
May
19
comment What is considered to be a safe age to be a babysitter?
Please don't close this but edit it to make it suitable. It is (and definately can be) a good question.
May
18
comment Is there any research on whether punishing more for lies is effective?
Removing a tv for half an hour is as effective as removing it for a day. Removing tv for two days is pointless.
May
17
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
Did your paediatrician offer you a referral to specialist help?
May
16
comment Is it normal for a toddler belly to last into the pre-school years?
Pre-Schooler? Five and a half?
May
16
comment Is it normal for a toddler belly to last into the pre-school years?
BMI is a useful public health tool when used correctly.
May
16
comment Is it normal for a toddler belly to last into the pre-school years?
You should not be giving a child soda! Water, milk, or diluted fruit juice (one part juice to ten parts water). Soda has high sugar content which is bad for teeth and increases risk of diabetes.
May
15
comment Child suddenly saying things like I'm not his friend
true. Sometimes children say things that reveal how harsh their friends can be. My child has said, in the same day, "my really love you Dan, you is my best friend but after mummy and daddy" and "YOU IS NOT MY BEST FRIEND ANY MORE" followed a few minutes later "My is your friend and you is my friend!". It seems quite fluid! So while I too find it upsetting I hope he's robust enough to cope with it. (gently confusing: he calls his step father daddy and calls me dan)