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Mar
20
comment My partner let my children be around a pedophile
@A E People who work in the area prefer the term "images of child sexual abuse" over the term "child pornography".
Mar
18
comment My partner let my children be around a pedophile
@david boshton -- "images of child sexual abuse", rather than "child pornography".
Mar
16
comment How to communicate effectively with my 17-year-old daughter? And how to make her appropriately wary of strangers?
Your daughter is at far more risk of harm from siblings, then parents, then other members of her family, than she is from strangers. Teach her some simple safety measures (around alcohol; taking a photograph of any car she gets into and texting it to a trusted person) but really, 17 is way too late.
Mar
11
comment 2-year-old does not speak
WHAT DID YOUR DOCTOR SAY? WHAT WERE THE RESULTS OF THE HEARING TEST?
Mar
9
comment What to do when a 6-year-old expresses suicidal thoughts?
This question is clearly asking for medical advice. Parenting needs to sort out whether asking for medical advice is allowed or not because currently the system is baffling.
Mar
2
comment How do I instruct my openly defiant son?
In your example you engage with him when he's naughty but not when he isn't. He is controlling the situation - he can provoke a reaction from you by putting his boots on the back of the seat.
Mar
2
comment How do I instruct my openly defiant son?
"Your son is old enough to understand that current behavior can cause future punishments" -- not really; children learn this when they're in their 20s. I agree with you though, and upvoted this good post.
Mar
1
comment Suggestions to fight bacterial infection
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it's incoherent and can't be rescued to a meaningful question.
Feb
18
comment What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?
"She comes from a broken and quite possibly violent home" -- what did child protection social services tell you when you contacted them?
Feb
18
comment What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?
@superluminary: the victim would have to be under 13 for this to be counted as "statutory rape" (we don't have this but I take your point). It is a serious criminal offence though.
Feb
18
comment What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?
@corsika - please provide some reference for your facts. As far as I can tell they're wrong and English law does not have gendered crimes for sex with a child. Your sentence seems wrong too - an adult having sex with a child risks a 14 year sentence; someone under 18 having sex with a child risks a 5 year sentence.
Feb
18
comment What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?
English law: cps.gov.uk/news/fact_sheets/sexual_offences
Feb
17
comment 3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration
Thanks for this. I was going to add something similar. You can use your smartphone timer app and ask the child "How much longer do you want? 3 minutes or 5 minutes?" and then set the timer. Don't set the timer too long - children do not have a good working understanding for time.
Feb
14
comment Is early education for 2-3 year olds worth it?
i) trained adults might spot problems that you miss and thus you get early intervention (for example, parents usually don't have their children's eyes tested) ii) good schools have a lot of competition so you want to look early and learn what they want in applicants. I think a motivated home environment is more important ( if the school is adaquate.)
Feb
10
comment Toddler injured nose while playing
"Now, I don't want to be that "parent" who takes their child to doctor for even small things," -- doctors should be fine with parents who take their child in to see them even for 'small things'. A tiny number of parents are too anxious and will visit the doctor frequently - multiple times a week. Those parents need some better support. Also, in England, "Choose Well" where to go. Don't go to A&E for anything that's not an emergency.Here's one example of a local "Choose Well" campaign. choosewellglos.nhs.uk
Jan
30
comment How can parents help an adult child with OCD?
How much do you and your parents know about OCD? It's really hard for me to offer advice that is not medical advice but, simply: support your brother to get treatment. It is sometimes useful to try different therapists. Support your brother to take medications. There are good reasons why people don't take medications so help him work his way through those. Find a local support group for families and carers of people with OCD.
Jan
20
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@anongoodnurse preventing a child from having contact with a parent - even an abusive parent - violates the rights of the child and the rights of the parent and must be a measure of last resort. Drug addiction is not a suitable reason to prevent contact - although it is a reason to protect the child from harm. Assuming that you can prevent contact just because a parent has an active addiction is likely to cause distress when courts order some form of contact with the father.
Jan
20
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@creationedge - reframing the question to include the rights of the child make the question much easier to answer. The child gets some (but not total) say in what they want; everything has to be done with the best interests of the child and the child needs to be protected from harm if contact occurs. Taking this approach is going to be beneficial to the mother if the father takes legal action to gain access. The mother can demonstrate that her wishes are not an important part of the decision making process.
Jan
19
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@Little Ms Whoops - the child has a human right to maintain contact with its parent. Contact should only be prevented in extreme circumstances and these don't meet that. The child hasn't been raped by the father, for example.
Jan
19
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@anongoodnurse - one is to the full text; the other is to a child friendly version of the text