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Oct
16
comment Should Disney princess movies be avoided?
Frozen has great messages for young women. Sadly, it also has a short segment that stigmatises people with mental health problems and makes the common but mistaken assertion linking people with mental illness to violence against others. Also, who lets two year olds watch movies? The American association of pediatricians recommends no screen before two and restricted to one or two hours of quality screen time after two. aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/Pages/…
Oct
11
comment How should infant refer to Father (biological) and Father (step)?
Do you think a child has a right to know who his / her father is? You didn't mention that in your answer. Please don't mention law. OP did not say where they are nor what part of the legal process they're at, so you cannot say what is or isn't possible under law, but OP doesn't appear to be asking about law either. Your third paragraph appears to ignore the fact that OP is happy for the step-father to be called "daddy"; OP even calls the step-father "daddy"! This answer fails to answer either of the two very clear questions and you should consider deleting it.
Oct
3
comment How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?
@Bobo - physical punishment does not raise respectful or well-behaved children and even if it did it is immoral to use violence to acheive that aim. Luckily people who believe that it is acceptable to use violence against children are a declining minority and civilised nations have introduced laws to protect the rights of children against those aggressors.
Aug
10
comment Is a Set Bedtime Appropriate for Teens?
Please could you add the actual age in years rather than some weird reference to "high school".
Jul
31
comment Safe to take a baby under 6 months old to old folks home?
"(for that matter, so should any elderly be)" - depends on the person. People with dementia might have left advanced directives ordering no things like flu vaccinations.
Jul
26
comment In the USA in the year 2014, does the law forbid children from being out and about without close adult supervision?
Political, not parenting; narrow focus (Just US); not a question
Jul
18
comment Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc
She needs a child protection social worker. Call your local helpdesk. How did you become her legal guardian without socialwork involvement?
Jul
17
comment Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc
What advice is her social worker giving?
Jul
2
comment Is there any benefit of pushing your child to go to school each and every day?
@Doc there are many people who question the need for traditional school education. Ignoring home-schooling (which is one option for a child not thriving at school) there are places like Summerhill where children controlled their education. Dariusz's comment is dismissive of the question and lacks understanding of the alternatives to rigid educational models.
Jul
1
comment Is there any benefit of pushing your child to go to school each and every day?
@Dariusz - children do not have to be educated in a school. They can be homeschooled. There are plenty of people who think that educating children does not have to be in the rigid format of X hours every weekday.
Jun
22
comment How to punish “unpunishable” 3y old
Combine this with constant praise for good behaviour. Every time the child does anything give some praise. Also consider that this behaviour is the child telling you they are bored - take them outside for a run or take them inside for some quiet reading activity.
Jun
19
comment Is there any health risk from play-sand that's been left wet in its bags for a week?
When you buy playsNd it will not be dry - it will have some moiusture in the bag. Very dry playsand is hard to play with and you'll probably be adding water to sand when it gets very dry.
Jun
15
comment If I bought a present for a child and gave it to the parents and later they have a birthday party, do I get another gift?
No. A card might be a good idea.
Jun
15
comment What are the steps parents of an introverted teenager can take to help him to socialize with girls?
Question assumes heterosexual teen.
Jun
13
comment Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?
Thanks for links to some sources!
Jun
12
comment How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
Stop getting involved. Give firm clear instructions. Make sure good behaviour is consistantly praised without fail every single time. There should be a constant flow of "thank you for doing X! It makes it much easier for me" as soon as he does anything. Relentless positivity. Also make sure that there are consequences to not complying with the spirit of an instruction, and make sure those are followed. Was the breakfast a real example? You don't need to police a child's food and drink intake so closely. He'll drink when he's thirsty.
Jun
12
comment Understanding the idea of “fears” as a young child
The scene is scary because the colour palette changes and the music changes. There's some stuff about the characters and jeopardy and so on, but a 3 year old has no idea what "dead" or "killed" mean.
Jun
8
comment My daughter is having sex with guys 10 years older than her; what do I do?
Many parents of victims of grooming start being totally unaware of the grooming. They are told that the child has made a choice to work as a child prostitute or that it is just bad parenting or naughty children. Either way, the course of action is the same. Protect the child; call the police and call child protective social services.
Jun
8
comment My daughter is having sex with guys 10 years older than her; what do I do?
@DVK What term?
Jun
7
comment My daughter is having sex with guys 10 years older than her; what do I do?
@MGOwen - grooming is real and very dangerous. m.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cambridgeshire-25659042 m.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-25450512 etc etc