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Jul
18
comment Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc
She needs a child protection social worker. Call your local helpdesk. How did you become her legal guardian without socialwork involvement?
Jul
17
comment Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc
What advice is her social worker giving?
Jul
2
comment Is there any benefit of pushing your child to go to school each and every day?
@Doc there are many people who question the need for traditional school education. Ignoring home-schooling (which is one option for a child not thriving at school) there are places like Summerhill where children controlled their education. Dariusz's comment is dismissive of the question and lacks understanding of the alternatives to rigid educational models.
Jul
1
comment Is there any benefit of pushing your child to go to school each and every day?
@Dariusz - children do not have to be educated in a school. They can be homeschooled. There are plenty of people who think that educating children does not have to be in the rigid format of X hours every weekday.
Jun
22
comment How to punish “unpunishable” 3y old
Combine this with constant praise for good behaviour. Every time the child does anything give some praise. Also consider that this behaviour is the child telling you they are bored - take them outside for a run or take them inside for some quiet reading activity.
Jun
19
comment Is there any health risk from play-sand that's been left wet in its bags for a week?
When you buy playsNd it will not be dry - it will have some moiusture in the bag. Very dry playsand is hard to play with and you'll probably be adding water to sand when it gets very dry.
Jun
15
comment If I bought a present for a child and gave it to the parents and later they have a birthday party, do I get another gift?
No. A card might be a good idea.
Jun
15
comment What are the steps parents of an introverted teenager can take to help him to socialize with girls?
Question assumes heterosexual teen.
Jun
13
comment Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?
Thanks for links to some sources!
Jun
12
comment How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
Stop getting involved. Give firm clear instructions. Make sure good behaviour is consistantly praised without fail every single time. There should be a constant flow of "thank you for doing X! It makes it much easier for me" as soon as he does anything. Relentless positivity. Also make sure that there are consequences to not complying with the spirit of an instruction, and make sure those are followed. Was the breakfast a real example? You don't need to police a child's food and drink intake so closely. He'll drink when he's thirsty.
Jun
12
comment Understanding the idea of “fears” as a young child
The scene is scary because the colour palette changes and the music changes. There's some stuff about the characters and jeopardy and so on, but a 3 year old has no idea what "dead" or "killed" mean.
Jun
8
comment My daughter is having sex with guys 10 years older than her; what do I do?
Many parents of victims of grooming start being totally unaware of the grooming. They are told that the child has made a choice to work as a child prostitute or that it is just bad parenting or naughty children. Either way, the course of action is the same. Protect the child; call the police and call child protective social services.
Jun
8
comment My daughter is having sex with guys 10 years older than her; what do I do?
@DVK What term?
Jun
7
comment My daughter is having sex with guys 10 years older than her; what do I do?
@MGOwen - grooming is real and very dangerous. m.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cambridgeshire-25659042 m.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-25450512 etc etc
Jun
6
comment 6 year old has adult tooth very visible, baby tooth still in place
It can stay there forever. Web search for "super numerary deciduous teeth" to see examples of milk teeth staying.
Jun
6
comment 6 year old has adult tooth very visible, baby tooth still in place
I tried to ask for advice about "super-numerary deciduous teeth" (milk teeth that don't fall out causing too many teeth) and that question was closed.
Jun
5
comment How do I convince an elementary schooler to always tuck his shirts/tshirts into his pants?
parenting.stackexchange.com/a/12814/1385
Jun
5
comment How do I convince an elementary schooler to always tuck his shirts/tshirts into his pants?
Put a post near the trousers. Have an image of trousers tucked in with a big tick. Have an image of trousers untucked with a big cross. PS: StackExchange is international and many people have no idea what "elementary school" is. Please will you add actual numbers for ages? 13-15 or under-10 or whatever is much more useful.
Jun
4
comment How should I teach my son to play video games?
No screens before two, and less than two hours per day after that - m.psychologytoday.com/blog/mental-wealth/201310/… i suspect a four year old is not going to enjoy most games until they have the hand eye coordination. For most children this is going to be older than four. I am not sure how much they are going to enjoy the competition. So, age appropriate games, or set your own goals in games.
Jun
3
comment How long did it take your baby to like daycare?
I agree. It is really hard for the parent! Daycare may let you sneak in a bit early at the end of the day to watch your child playing happily. Seperation anxiety is a sign of a good strong bond with the parent. Good luck.