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comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
@aaronm - the CDC says that temperature of water doesn't make much difference for bacteria removal. Scallds and burns hospitalise 300 children per day (over 100,000 people per year) and kills two children per day (over 700 children per year) in the US. Compare that to legionella, which hospitalises maybe 18,000 people per year with a 5 to 30% death rate.
Apr
18
comment When changing diapers, how soon should we put the new diaper on?
Baby powder should be avoided because it clogs modern nappies and stops them from working as well as they could.
Apr
18
comment I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?
A few people die of over hydration while on ecstasy. In the UK more people die from over hydration the under hydration.
Apr
13
comment How to get a new born to sleep?
How old is the child? Try swaddling, but pay attention to all the safety tips.
Apr
13
comment How do I teach a younger child to wait, or earn, future reward?
3 year olds probably lack the cognition to think about time as a concept. Try asking what the child has done today or yesterday and you'll see confused answers. Putting a child under about 12 years old on a step for 5 miniutes will have the same impact as making them wait for 30 minutes. Taking an older child's phone away for 30 minites is as effective as takin it away for a day (in terms of punishment).
Apr
10
comment Why are there so many snaps on infant clothes?
Tip: do up the snaps around the bottom before putting the garment on the child. Open the snaps on the neck. Stretch the nexk of the garment over the legs and up the body. This is easier and nicer than going over the head.
Mar
30
comment How can we confront our pediatrician about not washing his hands?
If you're in England please do report all instances you see of people touching a patient without washing their hands first. You're not making "an official complaint" and you're not saying that the clinician didn't wash their hands. You're just making a comment to say that you did not see the clinician washing their hands.
Mar
10
comment How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
Can you honestly not see a difference between wearing a short skirt and drinking alcohol? By taking a hard line on an extremist position this parent is risking losing the ability to discuss anything more serious, like alcohol, with their daughter.
Mar
9
comment How can I get my toddler to drink more water?
Have you tried a variety of different cups? Like, different colours and straws and etc?
Mar
9
comment How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
Do you realise that you have an extremist position about skirt length and that your daughter is behaving in a completely normal manner? You want her to do something that her friends do not do, and the only reason you can give her is "because I said so". The reason most people have a "below the knee" rule is so that they can negotiate to a shorter but acceptable length. You might not like the 'finger tip length" rule, but it's better than what she's wearing now and there's some chance of her obeying that rule.
Mar
9
comment Encouraging a 3-year-old's interest in minibeasts
Ant farm? Worm farm?
Mar
8
comment 9 year old son brought a toy gun to school- how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?
Thank you for these excellent clarifications and extensions and additional points!
Feb
28
comment Is it safe for a pregnant woman to be around someone smoking “e-cigarettes”?
Travelling to see her friend is very many times more risky. I understand her point from a politeness point of view. If i vaped i would only do so outside and ot's wierd that someone would do so in front of a pregnant woman. Here's some interpretation of a news story from 2011 about nicotine replacement in pregnancy - dr is try to avoid chewing nicotine gum, but gum is better than smoking. nhs.uk/news/2011/07July/Pages/…
Feb
28
comment What safety gate can I use at the top of my stairs?
This answer is dangerous. A gate improperly fixed to drywall / pladterboard is not safe, and could create a sense of false security. The gate needs to attach safely to both drywall and to a metal spindle - these are two very different surfaces.
Feb
25
comment I am vs my is - when do children develop this bit of language?
I think this answer covers most of it. My son can construct complicated sentences - "mummy teaches pharmacology at university". (University was poorly pronounced but all the syllables were in the right place.) But then he'll say "My is ready!" I think we'll just continue to model correct sentences and see if he picks it up.
Feb
24
comment Are crib mobiles helpful to infants?
I don't have studies but one of the advantages is muscle and movement training - the baby will reach out to try to grab the mobile.
Feb
23
comment Introducing Shakespeare
You can buy versions that have original on one page and modern English facing it. This allows people to understand the story at least. Another idea might be to look at all the words that Shakespear gave us - shakespeare-online.com/biography/wordsinvented.html
Feb
17
comment 8 year old sleep
Why are you giving a child sleep medication? Was that approved by a doctor?
Feb
16
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
Here are some general tips for other people who are looking for advice about bed wetting. nhs.uk/conditions/Bedwetting/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Feb
10
comment Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?
Detentions on that long are pointless in young children. An instant but short punishment is better - at home removing a cell phone for 30 minutes is more effective than taking the phone away for a week. Putting a small child into a 3 hour detention feels brutal. I'd be interested to hear evidenced based solutio s for active children. I suspect that a 10 minute run in the morning and afternoon would help a lot more than detentions.