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Mar
9
answered How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly
Mar
8
comment 9 year old son brought a toy gun to school- how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?
Thank you for these excellent clarifications and extensions and additional points!
Mar
8
answered 9 year old son brought a toy gun to school- how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?
Mar
7
answered How can I talk my son through his competition anxiety?
Feb
28
comment Is it safe for a pregnant woman to be around someone smoking “e-cigarettes”?
Travelling to see her friend is very many times more risky. I understand her point from a politeness point of view. If i vaped i would only do so outside and ot's wierd that someone would do so in front of a pregnant woman. Here's some interpretation of a news story from 2011 about nicotine replacement in pregnancy - dr is try to avoid chewing nicotine gum, but gum is better than smoking. nhs.uk/news/2011/07July/Pages/…
Feb
28
comment What safety gate can I use at the top of my stairs?
This answer is dangerous. A gate improperly fixed to drywall / pladterboard is not safe, and could create a sense of false security. The gate needs to attach safely to both drywall and to a metal spindle - these are two very different surfaces.
Feb
25
comment I am vs my is - when do children develop this bit of language?
I think this answer covers most of it. My son can construct complicated sentences - "mummy teaches pharmacology at university". (University was poorly pronounced but all the syllables were in the right place.) But then he'll say "My is ready!" I think we'll just continue to model correct sentences and see if he picks it up.
Feb
24
comment Are crib mobiles helpful to infants?
I don't have studies but one of the advantages is muscle and movement training - the baby will reach out to try to grab the mobile.
Feb
23
asked I am vs my is - when do children develop this bit of language?
Feb
23
answered How to raise a child such that she has high self esteem throughout her life?
Feb
23
comment Introducing Shakespeare
You can buy versions that have original on one page and modern English facing it. This allows people to understand the story at least. Another idea might be to look at all the words that Shakespear gave us - shakespeare-online.com/biography/wordsinvented.html
Feb
17
comment 8 year old sleep
Why are you giving a child sleep medication? Was that approved by a doctor?
Feb
16
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
Here are some general tips for other people who are looking for advice about bed wetting. nhs.uk/conditions/Bedwetting/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Feb
14
answered What's a good way to cut bread into tiny pieces?
Feb
10
comment Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?
Detentions on that long are pointless in young children. An instant but short punishment is better - at home removing a cell phone for 30 minutes is more effective than taking the phone away for a week. Putting a small child into a 3 hour detention feels brutal. I'd be interested to hear evidenced based solutio s for active children. I suspect that a 10 minute run in the morning and afternoon would help a lot more than detentions.
Feb
10
comment At What Age Can Children Prepare Their Own Meals?
Don't let a seven year old hear soup in a microwave!! Microwaves create dangerously hot foods with decpetive cold spots.
Feb
10
comment Is my 2 year old's speech on-par?
It is useful to identify problems with speech early so that people can get early intervention.
Feb
9
comment How do we stop our daughter rolling over and waking herself up?
CIO must not be started before 6 months of age. The child is communicating a need by crying.
Feb
9
comment What kind of walkers are available and what are the pros and cons of each?
I can't find the hospital statistics yet but a disturbing number of children are killed and maimed each year and a disproportionate number of those were in walkers at the time. There comes a point when we have to accept that some equipment cannot easily be made safe. When that equipment provides zero benefit and also poses risk of harm to tendons the risks outweigh the non existent benefits.
Feb
9
answered What kind of walkers are available and what are the pros and cons of each?