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Feb
10
comment At What Age Can Children Prepare Their Own Meals?
Don't let a seven year old hear soup in a microwave!! Microwaves create dangerously hot foods with decpetive cold spots.
Feb
10
comment Is my 2 year old's speech on-par?
It is useful to identify problems with speech early so that people can get early intervention.
Feb
9
comment How do we stop our daughter rolling over and waking herself up?
CIO must not be started before 6 months of age. The child is communicating a need by crying.
Feb
9
comment What kind of walkers are available and what are the pros and cons of each?
I can't find the hospital statistics yet but a disturbing number of children are killed and maimed each year and a disproportionate number of those were in walkers at the time. There comes a point when we have to accept that some equipment cannot easily be made safe. When that equipment provides zero benefit and also poses risk of harm to tendons the risks outweigh the non existent benefits.
Feb
9
answered What kind of walkers are available and what are the pros and cons of each?
Feb
9
revised What kind of walkers are available and what are the pros and cons of each?
Removed some slang to make it more accessible for international audience
Feb
9
comment When (if ever) is it appropriate to spy on your teenager's texts?
I tend to agree with you. If you think in terms of "the boiling frog" you can understand the series of small steps that people take where they end up thinkin they need to spy on texts without telling the child. Children can do dangerous unsafe things with a phone, and it does need to be addressed, but as you say there are safer better ways to do that.
Feb
6
comment What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?
Rather than saying "no, that's not ..." I prefer to say "yes! You are using that cup so well! They can be tricky to lift when they're full but it is nice to see you carefully holding it. And you haven't spilled a drop!" - relentless positivity.
Feb
6
answered What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?
Feb
3
comment Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?
@ratchet freak - you make a good point. Perhaps limit that to good quality government guidance.
Feb
2
comment Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?
I really like the poj ts you make about "this is you decision and you've made it"; and "don't try to convince them". I like your answer.
Feb
2
answered How can a three month old go to sleep - everything's so interesting!
Feb
2
answered Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?
Feb
1
asked What are some evidence-based techniques for speech therapy?
Feb
1
comment We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?
The point of keeping records is that you have something to show a doctor when you seek further help. That can reduce the time spent gathering more evidence. Other than that I tend to agree - just relax and have fun.
Feb
1
answered When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?
Jan
29
answered Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?
Jan
27
answered Should we use special detergent/washing powder for the laundry of baby clothes? (UK)
Jan
27
comment Why should children be rewarded for good behaviour?
I'd suggest giving a reward for effort and not acheivment.
Jan
27
comment How can I get my 2.5 year old to sleep on his own?
This is horrible advice. There are great techniques for "cry it out" that don't involve cruelty and poor attachment.