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Jan
20
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@creationedge - reframing the question to include the rights of the child make the question much easier to answer. The child gets some (but not total) say in what they want; everything has to be done with the best interests of the child and the child needs to be protected from harm if contact occurs. Taking this approach is going to be beneficial to the mother if the father takes legal action to gain access. The mother can demonstrate that her wishes are not an important part of the decision making process.
Jan
19
revised Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
I misread the child's age
Jan
19
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@Little Ms Whoops - the child has a human right to maintain contact with its parent. Contact should only be prevented in extreme circumstances and these don't meet that. The child hasn't been raped by the father, for example.
Jan
19
comment Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
@anongoodnurse - one is to the full text; the other is to a child friendly version of the text
Jan
19
answered Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?
Jan
14
comment 6-year-old bed wetting
@sbi - waking the child at night so they go to the loo does not help them to learn the signal of a full bladder and to wake themselves.
Jan
12
comment Securing books from toddler
Thank you for mentioning the important safety step of securing the shelf to the wall. The straps are cheap and easy to fix.
Jan
10
comment What constitutes a Birth Plan
Some fathers want to cut the cord. Other fathers want to be in the room but definitely do not want to go anywhere near the cord. Some parents want to keep cord blood. A few parents want to keep the placenta so they can cook it and eat it. Letting people know in advance makes things easier.
Jan
10
comment What constitutes a Birth Plan
The mother might have strong views. A birth plan allows her to convey those to medical staff in a busy environment. Both of you should be prepared to drop the plan because sometimes things do need to change. You obviously need to list any allergies and list any medications the mother is on.
Jan
10
comment Are children harmed by the awareness of their parent's sexuality and sexual activity?
You start by saying you'll have sex with the child in the room; then in the what you're not saying you say that you don't flaunt your sexuality. This is conflicting. You also appear to conflate doctor/patient games with adolescant risk-of-pregnancy sexuality when these are very different things. You claim that explaining sexuality to children will prevent doctor/patient games but there's no evidence that it will and there's no evidence that such games are particularly harmful either.
Jan
7
comment Can crawling too early due to over-encouraging parents have detrimental effects?
@anongoodnurse babywalkers are probably not harmful (but see possible hip damage) but they are an example of some misguided parents pushing their child to do something in the mistaken belief that their children will develop walking sooner.
Jan
7
comment Can crawling too early due to over-encouraging parents have detrimental effects?
@anongoodnurse - ah, okay. I was just trying to point out that sometimes people do push development.
Jan
6
comment Can crawling too early due to over-encouraging parents have detrimental effects?
Parents do place their children in "baby walkers" and might do so in the mistaken belief that their children will walk sooner. This report is overwhelmingly negative about these walkers. aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;108/3/… You might also want to see "hot housing" and "baby einstein" for examples of parents who want to push things too fast.
Jan
4
comment My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)
@A E - yes, that's why I used the word "or" which implies choice.
Jan
4
comment Is it reasonable for parents with small children to use the disabled toilet?
"The toilets are there for everyone to use" no they are not! Able bodied people who ise disabled toilets are behaving selfishly and are causing discomfort to people with disabilities. To answer your question: yes, able bodied people using the disabled toilets are misusing those toilets.
Jan
3
answered My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)
Jan
3
comment My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)
Cultural note: "A levels" are taken by children who have left school and who are now in 6th Form or Further Education college. Ages from 16 to 18. Good marks at A levels are needed to go onto University from age 18 to 21.
Dec
31
comment How can I get my 4 month old to sleep longer then 9-10 hours a day?
"Our pediatrician dismissed his sleeping patterns" - why do you ignore that doctor? Did you get a second opinon? What did that second doctor say? Are you in contact with a health visitor / midwife / etc - what did they say? Also, what makes you think your child needs more sleep?
Dec
26
comment How to make my child cough?
What did your doctor say?
Dec
24
comment Toddler going to sleep very late
@LauraJ - you need to set a routine for bedtime. This will involve starting the routine at the same time every night and getting into bed at the same time every night and getting out of bed at the same time every morning. No DVDs at night! (US pediatricians recommend no screens for under 2s; no screens in bedrooms or at meal times; severely restricted screen time at other times. aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/Pages/…