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Nov
25
comment How do I get my 5 year old to be more appreciative and thankful for what she has?
See "the kindness elves" (warning: has some christian bits but those can be taken out if they don't suit) -- especially the bits about giving toys away to goodwill theimaginationtree.com/2013/11/…
Nov
22
answered Why would a 15 year old just stop talking. Like 'Selective Mutism'?
Nov
21
comment 6-year-old bed wetting
you can ask the child to help clear up. Make sure you do this in a supportive way that's helping her learn some life skills and showing that you love and support her even during this difficult time in her life. Most certainly avoid all hints of punishment.
Nov
21
comment 6-year-old bed wetting
@koveras - it doesn't help in the long term. It is covered in the link I posted.
Nov
19
comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
"Am I being unreasonable?" -- yes. You are allowing yourself to be dragged into unproductive arguments by an 8 year old. You might want to investigate Webster-Stratton and "The Wonder Years" which will give you techniques for this and other situations.
Nov
19
answered 6-year-old bed wetting
Nov
16
comment How to help (and bathe) a toddler who is terrified of the plughole in the bath?
Excellent answer!
Nov
15
comment Is it okay to call children naughty?
i) This is a leading question, and does not appear to be open to contradictory views even if they are supported by evidence. "Here's what I think, cherry pick the evidence to prove me right". ii) the actual question is buried under all the supporting text. Split that out so you have a short, open, question and an answer.
Nov
14
comment At what age does co-sleeping become detrimental to a child?
Co-sleeping is pretty harmful to sleep hygiene and that detriment starts early - about six months old. There's a bunch of risk associated with co-sleeping so it's hard to say when co-sleeping is not detrimental to the child.
Nov
13
revised How does food influence production of urine during the night?
removed "children die of salt poisoning" after creationEdge's comment.
Nov
12
answered How does food influence production of urine during the night?
Nov
11
answered Explaining mental illness to children
Nov
5
comment Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?
@sparr when someone says "excuse me!" They are not expecting anyone else to say "that's okay you are excused" - they are literally excusing themselves. It can't get much clearer and I'm not sure how you could get confused by this. Perhaps you should ask this question on ell (English language learners) stack exchange. ell.stackexchange.com
Nov
5
comment Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?
@sparr - i haven't got a clue what you're trying to say. When you excuse yourself you use phrases such as "excuse me" or "pardon me" or "sorry". If Bob farts Bob will excuse himself by saying "excuse me!"
Nov
2
comment Dealing with an irresponsible 30 year old brother-in-law
Why can't he use public transport or a bicycle?
Oct
31
comment What are reasonable expectations and reasonable ways to be supportive for an young adult with a sleep disorder?
@fifelistener: "sub threshold" illness is still important to diagnose and treat. Luckily that would be a short course of CBT.
Oct
31
answered What are reasonable expectations and reasonable ways to be supportive for an young adult with a sleep disorder?
Oct
31
comment Encouraging independence
Have you tried asking him why he didn't get dressed in warmer clothes? Also forgetting to take his money is a different thing - children just are forgetful.
Oct
31
answered When should domestic violence be reported as child abuse or neglect
Oct
30
answered Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?