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comment Toddler does not like to drink milk
You don't mention how young the child is. If children drink milk it should be unskimmed "full fat" milk, but it's not a problem if they don't like it. Children under five should probably be getting vitamin supplement (make sure these are child versions) so milk isn't supplying anything they can't get elsewhere. Make sure that juice is heavily diluted - one part juice to ten parts water - and make sure it's not in bottles or slow-flow cups. This is important for tooth health.
Dec
8
comment Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?
There are three question marks for this question, making it hard to answer and a poor fit for SE.
Dec
6
comment Is it reasonable/common for a daycare to show TV shows during the day?
Daycare costs a heck of a lot of money. Raising a concern is not asking to be pandered to. TV in day care should be rare and planned, not an every day happening.
Dec
3
comment Why is a 7 year old always suggesting catastrophic outcomes?
Aren't you tempted to turn it into a game? "And then a shark bit him", "and then a submarine shot the shark so thebshark let him go", "and then the submarine ran him over". Or you could just try asking him what would happen. "What if the house burns down?" "Wow! What would happen then?"
Nov
25
comment How do I get my 5 year old to be more appreciative and thankful for what she has?
See "the kindness elves" (warning: has some christian bits but those can be taken out if they don't suit) -- especially the bits about giving toys away to goodwill theimaginationtree.com/2013/11/…
Nov
22
answered Why would a 15 year old just stop talking. Like 'Selective Mutism'?
Nov
21
comment 6-year-old bed wetting
you can ask the child to help clear up. Make sure you do this in a supportive way that's helping her learn some life skills and showing that you love and support her even during this difficult time in her life. Most certainly avoid all hints of punishment.
Nov
21
comment 6-year-old bed wetting
@koveras - it doesn't help in the long term. It is covered in the link I posted.
Nov
19
comment 8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
"Am I being unreasonable?" -- yes. You are allowing yourself to be dragged into unproductive arguments by an 8 year old. You might want to investigate Webster-Stratton and "The Wonder Years" which will give you techniques for this and other situations.
Nov
19
answered 6-year-old bed wetting
Nov
16
comment How to help (and bathe) a toddler who is terrified of the plughole in the bath?
Excellent answer!
Nov
15
comment Is it okay to call children naughty?
i) This is a leading question, and does not appear to be open to contradictory views even if they are supported by evidence. "Here's what I think, cherry pick the evidence to prove me right". ii) the actual question is buried under all the supporting text. Split that out so you have a short, open, question and an answer.
Nov
14
comment At what age does co-sleeping become detrimental to a child?
Co-sleeping is pretty harmful to sleep hygiene and that detriment starts early - about six months old. There's a bunch of risk associated with co-sleeping so it's hard to say when co-sleeping is not detrimental to the child.
Nov
13
revised How does food influence production of urine during the night?
removed "children die of salt poisoning" after creationEdge's comment.
Nov
12
answered How does food influence production of urine during the night?
Nov
11
answered Explaining mental illness to children
Nov
5
comment Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?
@sparr when someone says "excuse me!" They are not expecting anyone else to say "that's okay you are excused" - they are literally excusing themselves. It can't get much clearer and I'm not sure how you could get confused by this. Perhaps you should ask this question on ell (English language learners) stack exchange. ell.stackexchange.com
Nov
5
comment Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?
@sparr - i haven't got a clue what you're trying to say. When you excuse yourself you use phrases such as "excuse me" or "pardon me" or "sorry". If Bob farts Bob will excuse himself by saying "excuse me!"
Nov
2
comment Dealing with an irresponsible 30 year old brother-in-law
Why can't he use public transport or a bicycle?
Oct
31
comment What are reasonable expectations and reasonable ways to be supportive for an young adult with a sleep disorder?
@fifelistener: "sub threshold" illness is still important to diagnose and treat. Luckily that would be a short course of CBT.