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Jan
6
comment Loud Screaming to attract attention
Thanks @monsto you understand me. There was no danger at all, just normal baby cries, the meaning was clearly "I want Mama near me NOW!". About, "better not let her win", what I mean is that it is better if both the parents and the baby know (by experience) that parents will not bend if they do not want to. With my 4yo boy I let him bend me to his wills very often, and do it light-hearted, because we both know I will not bend if i do not want to (e.g. if I think there is some danger, or he is trespassing some red line).
Jan
6
comment Loud Screaming to attract attention
Yes, "forced", because she was loosing her self-control. She agreed with me before that we had to do this. But with her baby crying she was not herself anymore so i had to "force" a bit. I was crying inside too, mind you, but sometime you shan't hear this inside voice.
Jan
2
comment Loud Screaming to attract attention
@balancedmama it depends, not for hours obviously but the important point is to show the kid you are a loving partent, not a kind of "come here immediately" slave. Same idea as answer by Rory Alsop.
Dec
16
comment How to Teach That Following Rules is Not Always Good?
Learning how, why and when to break the rules is as important as learn how, why and when to follow them, and home is the best place to learn that skill. I'd say well-behaved kids are those who know to do both well. (Maybe it is a French specifics, but here in France you see rule-breaking everywhere, always in the name of principles.)
Dec
13
comment Is Video Chatting Bad for Newborns?
Mh, I also hate TV for myself and my kids, we do not have TV at home. Ads for kids is a crime against humanity, if you ask me. However everyone is free and I think advices about kids should not be culpabilizing parents, therefore the "TV together > TV alone".
Oct
14
comment How important is it to brush infant's teeth before vs. after the goodnight milk bottle?
How old is he? If the teeth only started to come it might be much too early to even brush teeth.
Sep
26
comment Do I need to put cloth diapers through two wash cycles?
You will not be 100% diapers are clean even after 10 cycles! What you can be certain of is that by washing them once you have done what has to be done. No need to culpabilize yourself on such a little thing...
Sep
25
comment Do I need to put cloth diapers through two wash cycles?
"Residual smell": do you mean that these diapers are clean enough? Either they are and you can use them, or they are not clean and your washing machine is broken or misused. I do not see any good reason to wash twice anything (except for the detergent industry).
Sep
23
comment How do I get my 5 year old under control?
How do you say "no"? Maybe she do not believe in this "no"?
Sep
23
comment The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work
At 3/4 kids are quite ready to understand that you are not devoted to them and can't listen to them full time. Actually they should listen to you. They are also very happy to go to the playground with a nanny.
Sep
22
comment Do I need to put cloth diapers through two wash cycles?
Did you try to avoid the second wash cycle? What is the result?
Jul
19
comment How to minimize diaper usage or replace it with greener alternatives
Well, most would still have diapers if they are on a plane, for example. But it is true that it works well, and is the greenest alternative. Kids get immediate feedback on their excretions, and don't get the nice "change my diaper and smile to me time", which could also help them being clean faster.
Jul
19
comment How does a 3-year-old learn to wear glasses?
Did I read correctly that your 3~yo girl is wearing contact lenses? How the heck did you insert these in her eyes? I can't imagine my boy accepting this invasive operation... Or did I misunderstand you?
May
30
comment What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?
Wow, a pea is even much more than what I use as an adult. For our 3 years old kid, it is more like "ant" sized, and we do not use kids tooth paste. As reminder: the brushing is useful, the toothpaste is just for taste, I have been told.
May
30
comment How (and when) do you teach a child patience?
With a kid that is a little older, you could go stronger than repeating the restriction, and just say "If you ask once again you'll not get the toy at all". And really do what you say, obviously.
May
27
comment Is it ok to wake up my 3yo boy for a pee?
Thanks, I am concerned with the effect of waking him at night. I don't mind him wearing night diapers again, but he minds, and I think it is uncomfortable in summer.
May
27
comment Is it ok to wake up my 3yo boy for a pee?
Ah, ok. Well, from personal preferences I'll try to not be encouraging my kid collecting things too much, but I can find another kind of reward, eg will do a big Lego airplane with him if he is dry.
May
26
comment Pros and cons of C section (Cesarean) delivery?
In China most birth a C-section, and I think China counts as an industrialized nation.
May
26
comment Is it ok to wake up my 3yo boy for a pee?
I don't get the "stickers of the object of their attraction" part, but thanks, I'll try less water after 6:00.
May
26
comment Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?
I'd say there is something wrong with frightening a child, because self-confidence is the one thing to teach them early. I don't mean to say that it is always wrong, but it is better avoided.