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Dec
18
comment Being a Step-mom to a troubled (or hurt) 5 year old
@StepMom87 - Consider this: how much do you actually remember from when you were 5? Very likely, only bits and pieces, if anything. She's likely to forget most things going on right now when she gets older, and what will be instilled will be the constants in her life -- you, her father, and the love you guys have for her.
Dec
18
comment Building self-esteem while encouraging a tidy, acceptable appearance
@Bobo -- my reading of it was that the OP thinks her daughter should think more like the latter. If that's not the case, the props to the daughter and parents. If it is, then I just suggest to be wary of swinging too far the other way.
Dec
18
comment What to do about 1 year old boy who keeps pulling hard at his penis and scrotum?
@chrispepper1989 - In my experience from raising a boy who did the same thing at that age -- no, there's no real risk of hurting himself, particularly as long as he's only using his hands ("tools"/foreign objects are a completely different matter). As David said, it's self limiting. A child isn't likely to continue doing something that causes pain, and pain in that area is going to happen quite a while before real damage under these kinds of circumstances.
Dec
18
comment Building self-esteem while encouraging a tidy, acceptable appearance
Side note - keep in mind that "I need to change what I'm doing or who I am" can backfire, too. Some people are just jerks, and will find any reason to tease/bully someone. The idea that you need to change, because of someone else's behavior can be as disempowering as it can be empowering, so make sure that you're conveying the right message with that one (IMO, you shouldn't need to change who you are to please others, even if some of your behaviors could use tweaking).
Dec
18
comment Toddler does not like to drink milk
It may not be possible to get raw milk unless you personally befriend a farmer (and even then, it may be sketchy), depending on where you live. In the US, for example, many states outlaw the sale of raw milk for human consumption. In some places, even private sales (such as herd shares) are at risk. The USDA and state equivalents have been known to completely shut down a farm (and even ruin already-harvested stock) over the matter. So make sure to research the laws where you live if you want to try this route.
Dec
16
comment Toddler does not like to drink milk
@DanBeale "she is only one year old"
Dec
16
comment Toddler does not like to drink milk
Your "kids don't like..." statement is an over-generalization. I know many kids who love those very foods. It largely depends on what they're exposed to at an early age, and how you give it to the child (an easy way to get a child to eat greens is to make a smoothie, for example). In my experience, many adults are surprised at what children will eat when they're exposed to it enough.
Dec
16
comment Toddler does not like to drink milk
Downvoters care to explain?
Dec
15
comment Daycare provider says that kids with dietary restrictions cannot eat at the daycare
In the US, most childcare facilities follow one of two federal programs, and don't get reimbursement from the government for the meal if they don't/can't offer all of the required parts, and only approved substitutions can be made (see this post for more details on such matters -- paleomovement.com/… ). If the OP can get medical backing, she may have some more legal clout, but it still won't be an easy fight, especially given the nature of this particular restriction.
Apr
28
comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
+1 for the faucet-level limiters. Those have the added bonus of allowing the water temperature to be set higher for high-heat uses (dishwasher, etc), and keep it lower for places with a high burn risk (the tub the kids use, etc).
Apr
28
comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
Your Celsius conversions are off somewhere. Your 145F and 120F both say 49C.
Apr
28
comment What is a safe but useful temperature to set your hot water at?
@DanBeale - The StackExchange sites are also about factual information with cited sources. Do you have statistics for burns from hot tap water vs water that was heated on a stove or in a microwave? Without it or similar statistics, all you're doing is playing to emotions. Most people don't want to harm their children, certainly, but knowledge is far better than fear.
Apr
25
comment “Natural consequences” where they don't happen?
@what - So, include in the lessons you teach your son that it's okay to say "I don't want to play anymore right now" or "I need some time to myself for a while," before it gets overwhelming.
Apr
25
comment “Natural consequences” where they don't happen?
Young children don't connect things done at completely disparate times, so the odds are pretty good that he sees little to no connection between playing today and playing tomorrow. Cutting the playtime short may, in fact, be sufficient. Your example with the cold demonstrates that -- it's going to be cold, regardless, but how long the child can be out in it is dictated by how appropriately he dressed.
Apr
23
comment 26 month old son keeps hitting us when he is upset.
+1 for the last paragraph, especially. Little kids tend to be so much easier to handle when they have some sense of control. You may be able to take it even a step further and let him help set the table. On another note, 26 months is also an age where the mind may have outpaced communication -- the hitting may be a sign of other frustration. If you can, try to find out why he's resorting to hitting and address it.
Apr
4
comment Baby gift suggestion for third boy?
The gift cards don't usually have fees (Visa doesn't mention any, AmEx charges a couple of dollars for the purchase, but has no fees after that), but the prepaid cards might, so make sure you know which one you're getting. The difference is that prepaid cards are reloadable, while gift cards generally aren't.
Mar
14
comment Can the council demand that a 16yo shares a bedroom with a 1yo?
@DA01 - I disagree. As far as I can tell, the only reason council is mentioned is because they control the size of the house the family lives in. I find it hard to believe that they're mandating that the kids share a bedroom if other options are available, even in the given house.
Mar
11
comment What kind of obedience is to be expected from a 2-year old?
Side note re: potty - My son goes through phases where he'll either fight the potty or want to use it. Sometimes it's brought on by the behavior of his classmates at daycare. If your child goes to some kind of daycare, see if there's something that's going on that might be triggering her refusal to use the potty.
Feb
5
comment 8yr old boy - afraid of too many things, too laid-back, lacks zeal to compete
No real need to answer me, the questions are largely rhetorical and to help you determine the next step to make. If it helps you to answer here, feel free, but you don't have to feel obligated to do so. On a side note, it might help to write down notes about various events/instances that you think might be relevant to getting him help from professionals, if you decide to go that route.
Dec
3
comment My child is constantly hungry. How do I keep her feeling fuller?
@balancedmama - Even after your detailed list, her diet looks very low in fat. The fattiest things on your list are the sausage, ham (maybe), meatloaf (depending on how it's cooked), and milk. It doesn't have to be "cheeseburgers and fries," but those foods are an easy way to add fats. Try cooking your stir fry in olive and/or coconut oil, using either as a dip for the veggies, or even cooking things with butter to help add fat into your other meals. Since she loves fruits and veggies, see what she thinks of avocados, too.