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comment How to explain why a relative is not welcome to a 9 year old
firstly, thanks a lot for asking this difficult question and giving so many details. I wish you and your family all the best. This is not an answer to your question, but did you try any legal ways for forbidding your uncle/mother to be in contact with your children? I'm not sure if this would be possible (in your country - I neither would know about mine) and if that might help.
Apr
12
comment How do I teach my baby to not touch my computer?
it really really depends on the child, if that is possible. With our children (during the phase when they absolutely wanted to also touch the computer) they were permanently with their hands on the keyboard or mouse - no way I would have been able to concentrate on my work (or even private things like reading/writing an e-mail) like that without getting frustrated or angry. So I tried to keep those things separate. However, I've heard from other parents who wrote their dissertation with the baby on the lap. That would not have been possible for us.
Mar
16
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
thanks a lot for your detailed answer. I imagine that at the latest the boy-scout-peer-pressure turned it into a "really big" problem. :-( That's not really encouraging, that it took so long, but as you say, there is a certain percentage with this problem. Did you also have problems with encopresis?
Mar
12
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
If he has loose bowels (and that is very often the case, especially for those stains in his underwear - small amounts slipping out) and might even have been sitting while it got out, the dirt is distributed everywhere and experience shows, that then he is not yet able to fully clean himself without making an even bigger mess (e. g. by having his t-shirt hanging down and getting dirty in addition...) Cleaning is easy, if bowels are quite hard and not sticky/sleazy, but if it's soft or nearly fluid, things get very difficult.
Mar
12
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
we are in Germany. I have to emphasize, that the situation has not occurred yet. Our son is still in kindergarden and there is a tiny little hope that he could learn to control his bowel movements better during the next months (but it's not very probable). So at the moment this is pure theory and we'll see how to manage that in practice.. (and I fully understand your mama bear instincts - I feel the same Papa Bear, but it seems that our case is just not considered in the "system", as it is very rare. Our future school seems to only have had one single case ever up to now. :-( )
Mar
1
comment Why does my wife say our son is so cute that she wants to eat him?
the same phase exists in German
Feb
16
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
I've now decided to accept this answer, as it contains good advice. Our solution: In phases where it happens more often, that the bed gets wet, we let him sleep on a mattress on the ground, so at least the changing of the sheets is much easier there. We did not yet find a relation with the chosen diapers, however we try to use an "eco" type of diapers and it seems highly probable to me, that they might be not as effective as the regular brands - but thats only an assumption (as we can not reproduce the same night with 2 different diapers).
Feb
13
comment How can I teach my son to ride a bike?
yes, exactly that's what also worked with our son (5 years old) - at first I had to run with him and support him, but quickly he could do it alone... shakily in the beginning, but it got better quickly and now he has a lot of fun with his bike. :-)
Feb
12
comment How do I help a child overcome Severe difficulty with Task Initiation?
yes, very true - but at least sometimes with positive side effects ;-)
Oct
21
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
Vicky is right - the doctor, specialized in this topic, said that children do have to develop the hormonal processes - some do earlier, some do later, but you can not "teach" them to wake up in the night... there would be only a hormone therapy working, but we do not want that (and the doctor also said, she would not recommend that without urgent reasons)
Oct
21
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
"have him sit up" was already difficult, when he had a normal small bed, but now with the loft bed this is practically impossible.
Oct
19
comment Is a Do-It-Yourself baby monitor a bad idea?
could you describe, what the considered product does/promises in detail and/or add a link to a data sheet or feature list? I've never heard about that "DYI baby monitor" yet.
Oct
19
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
he already goes to toilet directly after the evening meal AND a second time before he really goes to bed. The mattress is already covered with a waterproof layer below the fitted sheet. The most problematic part about replacing is that he has a loft bed and that we have laundry nearly daily :-( We'll definitely see if there are better pullups.
Aug
2
comment Reducing TV time for toddler?
+1 very good points - thank you very much for the links!
Aug
2
comment Reducing TV time for toddler?
+1 very good points! Just a little remark: "YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM!" I absolutely agree, but I'd try to say that positively instead like "you're doing the best you can for your child" or "you are a GOOD mum". The negation seems to get lost easily in our brains (see parenting.stackexchange.com/a/3544/1092 - I think this is as well true for adults!)
Mar
7
comment Why does my child eat so slowly?
@Hairy: Michael has a good approach IMHO - we'll having the same issue with our son (now 5 years old), he gets easily distracted and takes ages to eat something, especially in the evening when the alternative to eating is preparing for bed-time. ;-) He's also strong-willed and quite bull-headed sometimes. So we usually limit meal-time to 45 minutes. The meal is finished then, no matter how much he has eaten already.
Jan
18
comment Which music is suited infants and toddlers?
thanks - especially for the article reference!
Jan
5
comment How do I tell my parents that my wife and I are pregnant?
@AylsBillones: if you like it, you can upvote it :-)
Dec
30
comment Why does my son (5) suddenly provoke me although everything seemed to be perfect before?
wow, thanks! What a great and detailed answer.
Dec
30
comment Help! My 5 year old just won't poop on the toilet
thanks for your suggestion - I'll think over it, however IMHO for us this is not solved yet, it's just a shame that it took us so long to detect the "right" first step, but I'd say we are still at the beginning. :-( ...