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Mar
13
comment How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?
Hi Katryn, how are you and the kids?
Mar
8
comment How do I stop my 3yr old from wetting the bed at night?
possible duplicate: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/9186/…
Feb
8
comment How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?
@Katryn: you're welcome [if you find answers useful, you can upvote them with the arrows on the left] and I wish you all the best and quick progress! Does this counselling also concern the younger children, or is this your next step?
Feb
7
comment How to get a 15 yr old started with a computer?
My son also was interested in computers very early and at the age of 6 discovered the possibilities of Microsoft Word (typing letters, changing color, font, etc.). So I'm sure, a 15 year old will learn this quickly too. I assume there will be no internet connection?! IMHO that's the greatest risk. My son wanted to watch an origami tutorial on youtube, tried to view it a second time and 2 clicks later watched some news report of a burning house/accident/ fire fighters, which was not age appropriate at all. I'm happy he came to me instead of continuing watching that..
Feb
7
comment How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?
Dear Katryn,I'm sorry to hear that you are in such a difficult situation! Did you already try to get professional help (family counselling/psychologist)? Maybe there are also other institutions which support families in difficult circumstances like yours - in which country do you live? If I understand correctly, you have also older children, were they also so "problematic" in their early years, or is it just the two younger ones? Did your husband really leave you ("just") because of the misbehaving children? That sounds quite strange to me and surely makes the situation unbearable for you. :-(
Feb
7
comment 12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed
related question: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/18577/…
Feb
7
comment How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?
thanks, I've changed the wording
Jan
29
comment Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?
thanks - I'm doing that already, but that's really very good points!
Jan
22
comment How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?
If you should have read your daughters diary without her permission, I'd suggest you to respect her privacy in the future and not spy on her. Why do you want to discipline her for being in love? If this is a serious question, you should add more details why you are worried, etc.
Jan
1
comment How to escape vicious circle of dawdling - no outdoor activities - conflicts …?
insisting on a regular schedule for eating/toilet is necessary for our older son because of his encopresis problems. We see now during christmas holiday time where the normally quite rigid schedules of meal times are broken completely (and there are much more sweets than normally), that we have again problems with soiled pants (after months without problems)
Jan
1
comment How to escape vicious circle of dawdling - no outdoor activities - conflicts …?
unfortunately, we don't have our own yard, but there would be ways to go out for a short while (but honestly, preparation for going out takes soo much time that it does not make sense IMHO to stay out for only 15 minutes).
Dec
31
comment How to escape vicious circle of dawdling - no outdoor activities - conflicts …?
yes, I tried that very often, but the older one is also very easily distracted (see my linked question), he understands when I explain to him, but he forgets very quickly
Dec
21
comment How to help 7yo boy who lost his best friend (relocation far away)?
thank you for your long reply: I've added some remarks to my answer (my son is definitely interested also in meeting/playing with other children, so that is not the problem!). But your answer was very helpful, as it reminded me that there is a public kind of "youth club" with activities for his age twice a week and we should let him go there more often!
Dec
21
comment How to help 7yo boy who lost his best friend (relocation far away)?
I don't want to choose his friends for him, I added the information about the "candidates" to ask for other experiences with friends and especially this "triangle" relationship with the nice girl and her jealous friend...
Nov
25
comment 6-year-old bed wetting
maybe my questions and the answers are interesting for you: parenting.stackexchange.com/q/9186/1092 and parenting.stackexchange.com/q/16591/1092 ; you do not tell us, if you already contacted a doctor because of this issue.
Nov
13
comment How does food influence production of urine during the night?
@CreationEdge: good point, I've edited the question
Nov
12
comment How does food influence production of urine during the night?
don't worry - we are very reluctant with giving him salty food, I just wanted to know if it is possible that sweet food stimulates urine production. We try to restrict fluid intake in the evening, but it's difficult and I don't see systematic "results" yet...
Nov
12
comment How does food influence production of urine during the night?
thanks, Dan! It's not about the money for the water bill, but I do not want to change the bed sheets each morning (or even during the night), its a lot of work (and a lot of laundry as well, we have to dry it, wash it, dry it again...)! And yes, I know that waking him during the night does not help him learning to feel, if his bladder is full, but as I wrote it is necessary to avoid the first diaper to "overflow". We have to change it during the night to avoid a wet bed in spite the diaper
Sep
23
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun as I don't know your son yet, I guess it is about mine. ;-) Anyway, I think it was Jesper Juul where I got heard the term "autonomous child", so it might be special but not unique to our boys.
Sep
22
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
p.s. on the other hand he can be a very friendly, polite and peaceful child which shows understanding and respect for the needs of others... and then shows those tantrums, it's like in The Stranger (Billy Joel): "It was then I felt the stranger kick me right between the eyes"