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comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
@Jax: thanks for your suggestion! I'm not sure, but we will check. In fact, the school's director does not want primary schoolers to wander around alone in the building(s) and unfortunately, that makes sense. So we need a person, who cam help him in case.. We're working on a solution - I'll update my post soon.
Jun
23
comment How to explain to two young children that a parent need some “me time”
@mxyzplk: you should write this ("hough your question could be more specific (if you mean "I want to leave them home alone for a week," then the answer is really different).") as a comment to the original question
Jun
20
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@Jax: thank you for your comment. I've added more details to my question and am looking forward to your answer and your ideas.
Jun
20
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
Dear Amanda, thanks a lot for sharing your experience! I wish you, your son and your family all the best for this difficult way!
Jun
3
comment My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care
Toilet training is a good thing to try, to get some regularity in the process of eating and digestion. Toilet training makes most sense (according to "our" specialized doctor - we have a similar problem, the boy is 6.5 years old now) directly or short after meals: after each meal (breakfast, lunch, dinner) the child should sit on the toilet for 5..10 minutes. Input stimulates output, so to say.
Jun
3
comment My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care
Was there a longer time in his life when he successfully went to the toilet or is this a continuous state for you and him? I understand your pain, we have a similar problem, we're just 2 years "behind", see here: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/2209/…
May
21
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@ShadowWizard: thanks for your comment! I'm not sure if a diaper would really solve the problem, because he still has to clean himself (the main problem) and it will also smell. The only advantage of a diaper would be a "throw-away-underwear", but on the other hand the risk is immensely great, that if the other children find out about it, he would be even more isolated and made fun of.
May
21
comment Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?
@AdamV: you're right, "be careful" is very general. Do you have a better suggestion?
May
18
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@JeremyMiller: the diagnosis of a doctor specialized in this kind of problems is "encopresis with obstipation". And you're absolutely right: this question is unfortunately about how to live with the results, as we still have not yet managed to find and remove the cause (and I read about other people who had to live with that up into the teenage years...)
May
18
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@DanBeale: yes, we are in regular contact with a specialised doctor for nearly 2 years now.
Apr
19
comment How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome
firstly, thanks a lot for asking this difficult question and giving so many details. I wish you and your family all the best. This is not an answer to your question, but did you try any legal ways for forbidding your uncle/mother to be in contact with your children? I'm not sure if this would be possible (in your country - I neither would know about mine) and if that might help.
Apr
12
comment How do I teach my baby to not touch my computer?
it really really depends on the child, if that is possible. With our children (during the phase when they absolutely wanted to also touch the computer) they were permanently with their hands on the keyboard or mouse - no way I would have been able to concentrate on my work (or even private things like reading/writing an e-mail) like that without getting frustrated or angry. So I tried to keep those things separate. However, I've heard from other parents who wrote their dissertation with the baby on the lap. That would not have been possible for us.
Mar
16
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
thanks a lot for your detailed answer. I imagine that at the latest the boy-scout-peer-pressure turned it into a "really big" problem. :-( That's not really encouraging, that it took so long, but as you say, there is a certain percentage with this problem. Did you also have problems with encopresis?
Mar
12
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
If he has loose bowels (and that is very often the case, especially for those stains in his underwear - small amounts slipping out) and might even have been sitting while it got out, the dirt is distributed everywhere and experience shows, that then he is not yet able to fully clean himself without making an even bigger mess (e. g. by having his t-shirt hanging down and getting dirty in addition...) Cleaning is easy, if bowels are quite hard and not sticky/sleazy, but if it's soft or nearly fluid, things get very difficult.
Mar
12
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
we are in Germany. I have to emphasize, that the situation has not occurred yet. Our son is still in kindergarden and there is a tiny little hope that he could learn to control his bowel movements better during the next months (but it's not very probable). So at the moment this is pure theory and we'll see how to manage that in practice.. (and I fully understand your mama bear instincts - I feel the same Papa Bear, but it seems that our case is just not considered in the "system", as it is very rare. Our future school seems to only have had one single case ever up to now. :-( )
Mar
1
comment Why does my wife say our son is so cute that she wants to eat him?
the same phase exists in German
Feb
16
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
I've now decided to accept this answer, as it contains good advice. Our solution: In phases where it happens more often, that the bed gets wet, we let him sleep on a mattress on the ground, so at least the changing of the sheets is much easier there. We did not yet find a relation with the chosen diapers, however we try to use an "eco" type of diapers and it seems highly probable to me, that they might be not as effective as the regular brands - but thats only an assumption (as we can not reproduce the same night with 2 different diapers).
Feb
13
comment How can I teach my son to ride a bike?
yes, exactly that's what also worked with our son (5 years old) - at first I had to run with him and support him, but quickly he could do it alone... shakily in the beginning, but it got better quickly and now he has a lot of fun with his bike. :-)
Feb
12
comment How do I help a child overcome Severe difficulty with Task Initiation?
yes, very true - but at least sometimes with positive side effects ;-)
Oct
21
comment Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
Vicky is right - the doctor, specialized in this topic, said that children do have to develop the hormonal processes - some do earlier, some do later, but you can not "teach" them to wake up in the night... there would be only a hormone therapy working, but we do not want that (and the doctor also said, she would not recommend that without urgent reasons)