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Jul 7	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? @Fixee: I'm curious and I'd like to know what happened in the mean time - did you achieve any progress?
Jul 7	comment	How much sleep does my infant really need? there seem to be also studies stating that not only not enough but also too much sleep is not good for your health. bitsofnews.com/content/view/6195
Jul 7	comment	How much sleep does my infant really need? This sounds like a very adventurous argumentation for me. How can she know, that the baby is growing quickly because it sleeps much? Does it grow less on days when it sleeps less? And even if she had real data as evidence, that there is a correlation between his sleeping hours and his growth, it would not mean that sleeping much is the cause for its above-average(?!) growth. .. And even if it would be true and proven for this one baby, you can not say that in general "sleeping more is healthy"...
Jul 7	comment	How much sleep does my infant really need? +1 for trying earlier bed time - we've also made the experience, that going to sleep earlier or later not necessarily means waking up earlier/later, but that the child very often wakes up at the same time in the morning. (I'd give another "+1" if I could for the remark, that the noise maker could create a dependency - I'd hesitate to use such "artificial tools" - I heard about children, which can not go to sleep without the noise of a running hair-dryer next to their bed.
Jul 7	comment	How much sleep does my infant really need? how do you know that sleeping much is the reason for your friend's baby being healthy and growing really, really quickly?
Jul 7	comment	How much sleep does my infant really need? we' made a similar experience - our son also did sleep about 12 hours (if I remember correctly) when he was a 1 year old and that has not changed much (now he's 3.5 years old). It can be hard for the parents sometimes, especially if the child is very active as long as he does not sleep.
Jul 6	revised	Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children? added thought that little children use new words they don't understand
Jul 6	revised	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? edited body
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Jul 6	comment	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? +1 for adding further (and very plausible) possibilities. Today I've been talking to an older woman ["our" KT is relatively young, however I assumed that she also would exchange experiences with her other and partly elder colleagues] who is working as kindergarten teacher in another kindergarten. She said she considered it normal for a lot of people - and especially children - not liking to use toilets other than at home (in their familiar ambiance). She added some more points which I'll add to my question soon.
Jul 6	comment	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? @TorbenGB: yes: (1) kindergarten has kid-sized toilets (year of construction: 2010). (2) We already have such a booster seat at home as you show it in your example image, but we seldom used it, as our son preferred the potty up to now (which is also more easy for us, as the booster seat blocks the toilet, while the potty can be "ready" at any time). But it's a good idea: we'll try to avoid the potty
Jul 6	comment	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? +1 for separating cause from solution. Believe me, I'm trying to do that and I had long talks with our son and with the KT ...
Jul 6	comment	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? @TorbenGB: we've already addressed this issue, and (as I wrote in my question) the kindergarten teacher (KT) is aware of that and always assures him, that his toys will also be available after going to the toilet. So I don't think that this alone is the point - it must be an interaction with one or several of the other factors I've listed - or even some which I am not aware of. That's why I'm asking here for experience of others. I've had long discussions with the KT (also this morning), but she seems not to have more insight's either. Maybe it's some aversion to the toilets ...
Jul 6	comment	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? p.s. in the kindergarten he is always playing or busy, I assume, so you can not say that he "only" then avoids going to toilet.
Jul 6	comment	How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? besides the fact that I'm not sure if is a good idea to use punishment for potty training there is one point you have overlooked: at home he is also very busy playing, handicraft working or doing whatever, but he then quickly runs to his potty and does what he has to do. :-) And he is really proud of his "achievements" in the potty, I think. So being "busy" can not be the only reason for his behavior in kindergarten. And especially as he is quite bullheaded [I hope that's the right translation!] and has a strong will, I doubt that punishment would do a good effect.
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Jul 5	comment	How do you discipline someone else's child? @dave: I agree with you that this is a very difficult issue which can break friendships etc. I did not want to say, that one should try to parent kids of others on its own account! I thought to have read between the lines of your answer that the one and only way should be to make the dad "do his job" rather than talking to the child (or acting) directly and wanted to emphasize that the intervention of others might help the helpless (or maybe just ignorant or resigned) dad.
Jul 5	comment	How do you discipline someone else's child? +1 for addressing the parent AND the child. It surely is important to have or get the parent on your side, but IMHO if the child is misbehaving in Cheryl's house, she and her husband can also directly explain their rules to the child (while the child's dad is present, if he supports them - if he is not able or willing, to support them, it will be difficult.)
Jul 5	comment	How do you discipline someone else's child? Sure, the lack of discipline of the child is quite probably caused by his father's lack of "authority". However, a friend of ours is a day nanny and I see, how children behave differently in the presence of different people (In many situations she seems to have more "authority" than the parents.). So I think that the direct intervention of Cheryl and James could also help to make the child behave better in their house. Thus, IMHO, as important as it is to pull the dad on their side first, they can and also should speak to the child directly (as Lauren proposes in her answer).