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Sep
23
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun as I don't know your son yet, I guess it is about mine. ;-) Anyway, I think it was Jesper Juul where I got heard the term "autonomous child", so it might be special but not unique to our boys.
Sep
22
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
p.s. on the other hand he can be a very friendly, polite and peaceful child which shows understanding and respect for the needs of others... and then shows those tantrums, it's like in The Stranger (Billy Joel): "It was then I felt the stranger kick me right between the eyes"
Sep
22
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
often, he then will try to get our of his room which ends in an absurd struggle. What has changed over the years: he calms down faster. When he was 3, it might have taken an hour he spent in his room angry, now it usually takes some minutes (max. 15) and he'll be coming out calm again and ready for talking normally. But in general he seems to want to be absolutely autonomous and often does not want other people to decide what he shall do or not do. He also often complains, that we parents are "mean" or "unfair". Never heard of ODD before, but sounds interesting :-)
Sep
22
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
interesting. Our son is nearly 7y now and it gets slightly better. He still wants to take his own decisions and often does not accept our "authority", he then gets very very angry, often loud and normally does not give up if he's a different opinion than his parents. Sometimes, counting 1-2-3 helps, but often it does not - he just has his own, unflexible will. We then sometimes make a time-out (send him to his room to calm himself, often he will not go deliberately, so in the end I'll carry him there trying not to get biten or hit by his hands/feet, closing the door after him.
Sep
22
comment How can we discipline our toddler?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun: thanks for the update, I'll answer in the new thread
Jul
29
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
@Jax: thanks for your suggestion! I'm not sure, but we will check. In fact, the school's director does not want primary schoolers to wander around alone in the building(s) and unfortunately, that makes sense. So we need a person, who cam help him in case.. We're working on a solution - I'll update my post soon.
Jul
27
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Jun
23
comment How to explain to two young children that a parent need some “me time”
@mxyzplk: you should write this ("hough your question could be more specific (if you mean "I want to leave them home alone for a week," then the answer is really different).") as a comment to the original question
Jun
20
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@Jax: thank you for your comment. I've added more details to my question and am looking forward to your answer and your ideas.
Jun
20
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Jun
20
comment How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?
Dear Amanda, thanks a lot for sharing your experience! I wish you, your son and your family all the best for this difficult way!
Jun
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Jun
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comment My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care
Toilet training is a good thing to try, to get some regularity in the process of eating and digestion. Toilet training makes most sense (according to "our" specialized doctor - we have a similar problem, the boy is 6.5 years old now) directly or short after meals: after each meal (breakfast, lunch, dinner) the child should sit on the toilet for 5..10 minutes. Input stimulates output, so to say.
Jun
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Jun
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comment My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care
Was there a longer time in his life when he successfully went to the toilet or is this a continuous state for you and him? I understand your pain, we have a similar problem, we're just 2 years "behind", see here: parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/2209/…
May
21
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@ShadowWizard: thanks for your comment! I'm not sure if a diaper would really solve the problem, because he still has to clean himself (the main problem) and it will also smell. The only advantage of a diaper would be a "throw-away-underwear", but on the other hand the risk is immensely great, that if the other children find out about it, he would be even more isolated and made fun of.
May
21
comment Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?
@AdamV: you're right, "be careful" is very general. Do you have a better suggestion?
May
18
comment Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
@JeremyMiller: the diagnosis of a doctor specialized in this kind of problems is "encopresis with obstipation". And you're absolutely right: this question is unfortunately about how to live with the results, as we still have not yet managed to find and remove the cause (and I read about other people who had to live with that up into the teenage years...)
May
18
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